Musings Episode 91: Rest, But Don’t Quit…

Well…last week was really something. Little hectic but nonetheless skidded through unscathed.

Which is kind of the premise of this post.

Let’s get started.

Musings Episode 91: Rest, But Don’t Quit…

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There’s a lot of awesome things to do in life.

Come to think of it, there’s a lot of things to do in general in life.

People pick and choose what they’ll do on a day-to-day basis according to what they deem important enough to prioritize.

They pick what forms of entertainment they choose to invest in, what lifestyle they choose to have.

They choose what keeps them busy, and what they have free time for.

I’ve mentioned it before – there’s a culture of busyness that’s been growing that I’m not entirely for.

Work-life balance being thrown off kilter and status symbols being made out of “who has the least amount of time”.

Companies overworking people, utilizing what they ever so affectionately call their “human resources“.

People putting aside what’s important to them, to build someone else’s dream.

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There’s an ethos that’s developed when you workout, or get into fitness.

I don’t mean superficial fitness.

I mean mental mettle, it’s still your set, last rep is the hardest, left shaking workouts.

It’s an ethos you develop for yourself, and yourself only – which eventually bleeds into other areas of your life.

You set goals, or milestones…and by setting those milestones, you demand accountability from yourself when it comes to sticking to them.

You learn to prioritize yourself, to know your worth…to assert your value.

It teaches you that if you can push yourself to the limits for others, you can push yourself to the limits for yourself.

So why not do it?

But that’s not what I’m getting at here.

It also teaches you to know when to rest.

To take time out for yourself to recover, when everything seems like it’s building up.

“Rest if you must, but don’t you quit,” is the motto.

Every workout, someone always gets tired.

But you never stop when you’re tired – you stop when you’ve completed everything you’ve laid out to do.

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You rest in-between if you have to – like going for 12 reps on a weight where you can only bang out 8 with strict form – sure, you rest-pause until you get those last 4 reps out, never dropping the bar…

But you never quit.

The same goes for life.

If you have things that you want to accomplish or get done, there’s nothing wrong with being a little tired.

Everyone gets tired.

But it’s what you do after you become tired.

Don’t just fold, never finishing what you started.

Rest, recover, and keep going until you’re done.

This is a point you train yourself to get to long after the motivation’s disappeared.

It’s not always a happy place to be.

There’s times when you’ll get fed up, pissed off, frustrated, and feel like you’re moving at a snail’s rate.

But don’t ever quit.

The minute you quit going after something you want for yourself is the minute you’ve chosen to take your life, your free will…and put it in someone else’s hands.

Rest if you must, re-position yourself if you make mistakes…but don’t quit.

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Stay cool.

– Rego

Improve Your Lifestyle. Improve Yourself. This is Life. This is Rego’s Life.™

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Musings Episode 90: Stand Your Ground, Millennials…

Hope everyone had a great weekend.

I generally don’t like opining on politics and what not but…

Well…I guess let’s just get right to it.

Musings Episode 90: Stand Your Ground, Millennials…

I do really great when I’m around like-minded people.

Really great.

If you’ve been reading my blog for a while, you’ll understand exactly what I mean by like-minded.

People that don’t like when people try and walk all over them – and people who don’t try to walk all over people.

A friend and I were discussing the meme culture that’s grown over the years and how really, when you think about it, there are an alarming rate of memes that older people would consider “dark/depressing humor”.

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But let’s be honest…rather than focusing on that – isn’t that screaming a message loud and clear?

People’s human security in the developed world (like economic, for instance), is clearly not as great as politicians are pretending like it is.

We live in an age where we’re bombarded with advertising – it’s on YouTube, Pandora, Spotify, SoundCloud, Instagram, Twitter, Facebook etc, etc…you really can’t get away from it.

Advertisements quietly streamlined into your “social” media accounts, looking as if they’re part of your timelines or the videos you watch.

Always suggesting to you what to buy, what to eat, drink, in what way life should be relatable.

Sorry but…that last bit isn’t relatable at all.

Don’t get me wrong – I get that ads were always around, especially on TV and radio, and I understand that services that offer free listening/watching need ads to pay for what they serve up to you, but these days it all seems like it’s so much more…intense.

Not in a good way – in a pushy way.

Ads that scream at you across the screen or through your ear buds with enthusiastic messages of “lease this! buy that!“.

…but the damn irony of it all is that half the time these messages are being pounded into a generation’s head that’s struggling just to pay the rent or have a nice holiday.

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Ads are being pushed across as if every person being advertised to, has the disposable income to go and buy everything they’re told to – most of it being useless shit.

“Don’t have cash? Just use credit. Get yourself a store card,” they suggest.

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It’s like leased cars.

Yeah alright, you get to drive a different car every so many months but…who the hell came up with the bright idea it’s cool to pay for something you have to give back and get penalized for overusing because you “went over your mileage” when you do give it back, because you fancied going on a road trip?

I’m still a believer of quality over quantity, and buying cars over leasing.

I’m not waffling here – I’m getting to a point.

What I’m trying to say is, I feel like with the way the “developed” world has become so commercialized, older generations are coming down a little hard on the millennials as to why they don’t have their shit together.

Since the Global Financial Crisis of 2008/9, we’ve been living in a time where every electronic device is practically blaring at people in their teens and 20s that they should be living life a certain way – then ironically not providing adequate income or opportunities for them to live those certain lifestyles.

So you’ve basically got a few choices.

Either A) become an entrepreneur, B) sign up for a shit job, or C) go to college/university to not have to fight as hard to get a good job and pray you don’t get axed because you didn’t stroke your boss’ ego that day.

I’ve had the luxury (said with extreme sarcasm – sometimes ignorance truly is bliss) of having been around the block.

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…so at some point in my life experienced all three, before settling firmly into the role of entrepreneur.

And guys – I’m not gonna sit and preach to you it’s all sunshine and rainbows.

It’s not always easy. Some days, especially in the beginning, it’s a whirlwind and a fight between logic and emotions.

Actually scratch that – at some point, even when you see things fall into place, it still feels like a whirlwind sometimes.

You’re excited. You’re afraid. You’re overjoyed. You fumble. You fuck up.

You think it’s worth it. You think it’s totally not worth it.

Then you remember why you started.

But one thing I’ll say I’ve learnt from being an entrepreneur in comparison to having a job – is learning to stand your ground.

When you’re in a job, you’re dealing with other people’s egos.

Other people’s egos who are considered your “supervisors”.

When you’re an entrepreneur, standing your ground means you get to dig your heels into the ground and fucking PUSH for better – and no one can really say shit about it.

When you’re in a job, standing your ground can sometimes mean you’re going to piss a few people off – whether you care or not is entirely up to you – but it can swing both ways.

Either you gain more respect, or your head gets closer to the chopping block.

I was raised to be one stubborn, head strong son of a bitch.

I’ve realized over the years it’s probably the biggest blessing in my life – A) because it sure as shit does help a lot when it comes to getting through my workouts….and B) because honestly, I probably would’ve abandoned the thought of being an entrepreneur long ago.

Circling back around to millennials – they get so much shit.

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They really do. Especially from some baby boomers.

I remember watching a political talk with Trae Crowder some months back where the host of the show said “millennials are a very confused generation”.

…….

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You’d be confused too growing up in a time where you witnessed the biggest financial downturn since The Great Depression of the 1920s.

Back when that happened you had people trying to cope with alcohol, suicide, and any other means.

These days you get people coping through substance abuse, depression, suicide….and then joking about serious life situations through fucking memes.

You really think that can’t tip either way?

Healthily pushing back or just turning completely nihilistic?

Which pretty much brings me around to the point that in order for things to start changing, people have to start standing their ground.

Coping is fine, but it’s only meant to be temporary.

Learning to stand your ground in life can have a huge impact – can you imagine if everyone was so disgusted with the way things are being run they pushed back?

Companies can’t fire everyone.

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….or like money is something “optional”.

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Then when you get the job, literally trying to condition you that the harder you work the better you are.

Even Machiavelli’s writings came to the conclusion you push a man too hard after a while he’ll feel like he has nothing left to lose.

There’s also the belief that millennials act entitled.

I wholly disagree with this.

Millennials don’t feel entitled – with globalization and the exponential growth in commercialization, they work more hours than earlier generations ever had to contend with, maybe stopping shy of people who worked in factories that supported the war efforts during WWII.

Despite having more “human rights” laws that have been put in place since that time.

You can’t be entitled if you’re working more hours and getting less pay and zero proper benefits.

You can’t be entitled if you’re given a part-time job and have to have housemates or flat mates because you can’t afford a place of your own.

Don’t even get me started on the B.S. “flexitime” incentive companies have where a person can’t dictate their own schedule.

I read crazy stories about people in their early 20s just up and fucking collapsing because they literally worked themselves to death.

Fucking interns.

That’s entitled?

Really?

What I’m trying to say is – older generations need to stop ignoring what the younger generations have to contend with because of problems passed on.

Younger generations have to avoid succumbing to zoning out from crappy situations or letting their frustrations externalize towards other people.

Don’t let people run you ragged.

Wake up. It’s gonna take a collective effort but wake the fuck up.

Stand your ground. You may get slapped down a few times but they can’t bring everyone to their knees.

A lot of people are already on their knees anyway, with the way corporations are exploiting human security.

Ask yourself – would you rather die standing, or live kneeling at the mercy of others?

You’re not a human resource.

You’re a person.

You have purpose.

Don’t let corporations and consumerism distract you from that.

Don’t “Feed The Machine”.

It may be uncomfortable, but get out of your comfort zone for a minute and just think about it…

Stay cool.

– Rego

Improve Your Lifestyle. Improve Yourself. This is Life. This is Rego’s Life.™

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Musings Episode 89: Convince No One…

Sappy Sunday.

Happy.*

Happy Sunday.

Happy and Sappy Sunday?

I don’t know/care…let’s just start.

Musings Episode 89: Convince No One…

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Well….last week was exhausting.

I generally grow tired and exhausted when I’m required to engage in social contact that involves…people I don’t want to engage in social contact with.

So…when this happens, it feels like a battery that’s being drained and in desperate need of a recharge – I’m that battery.

There are also times when this happens that it feels like a battery that’s going to overload and explode – I am also that battery.

On both occasions, generally one of the exchanges that count as exhausting are whenever I’m talking to some egotistical slack-jawed junkslut – mostly in business.

Personal-life wise, I do a pretty good job of avoiding those types all together.

…and by “those types” I just mean someone up their own ass.

If you read my previous posts on ego and competition, there are a plethora of bad eggs like this in today’s time.

I’ve always been on the side of the argument that narcissism and egoism aren’t the same, and that in a world of this or that, narcissism is better than being insecure any day.

Largely because of the fact that when insecure people talk, in my experience many of them always seem to need convincing.

Convincing that they’re doing a good job.

Convincing that they’re loved.

Convincing that they’re a wonderful person.

Convincing that life doesn’t suck half as bad as they think it does.

Convincing that their friends really like them.

Convincing that their grandma (who’s been dead for like a millennium) really did love them.

They need convincing no matter how many times you may try to lift them up.

Don’t get me wrong – there’s nothing wrong with a little reassurance – but there’s a fine line.

With convincing, approval likes to tag along.

That is to say, insecurity often brings along the habit of a person doing things to seek approval.

Being a “people pleaser”.

Narcissists on the other hand, are interesting in the sense that they already tell themselves everyone loves them, they’re the best thing since sliced bread, and everything they do is like the first time something really useful was invented for human kind.

Like the lightbulb.

Or condoms.

They also obsess over being the best…which in turn, often makes them push themselves to be the best.

There are narcissist that are really just insecure people masquerading as narcissist (like Trump), I think, but that’s another story for another time.

So what am I getting at here…right – convincing.

Yeah, stop doing that shit.

It’s your life.

Stop bending over backwards to try to prove yourself if you already know you’ve made something decent or are making something decent of yourself when it comes to personal development.

Oddly, in several relationships across the board it seems like people need to be convinced more and more about different things.

Are people growing more insecure?

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Take business for instance. Remember the good old days where you just swung by a company, maybe sweet talked the receptionist into getting you a spot to see the boss, or walked in regularly and asked to see the person in charge because you saw an ad in the paper?

You put in your CV/resumé, you either got seen the next day, or same day, had an informal chat, and before you knew it you were hired?

There were no 1st, 2nd, 3rd, 4th, interviews plus one drink-the-blood-of-a-goat final 5th ritual interview, just because they needed to cross-examine to make sure they were convinced enough to hire you.

There was no portfolio you had to present, no vague requests to “prove a track record of success” without actually specifying exactly what they’re looking for.

A guy looked at your CV, had a chat with you to see if what was on your CV wasn’t bullshit, and went with his gut.

There was an unsaid trust.

This amazingly managed to do just as good of a job as what recruiters are “trained” to do (but fail ever so miserably at) when it comes to ensuring people were hired based off of their talent or skills they could bring to a company, rather than nepotism or particularism.

Or for another example, take romantic relationships.

Remember when you could just walk up to someone, apologize for interrupting, and compliment them on something you really liked about them physically?

Or maybe you’d just be in the bookstore and strike up a conversation about a book you see someone considering buying and you’ve bought it before so hey great, conversation starter.

There’d either be a positive or negative reaction, you’d maybe swap numbers (home numbers, no mobile phones then), eventually go on dates, etc.

Once you were in the relationship, texting day-to-day wasn’t necessary nor was it possible.

The person just trusted that you liked them and them only, and when you both did call to meet up again, you valued it more.

You never really had to convince one another you were into each other, because each time you both met it was like meeting each other all over again – all due to a build up of the feeling of missing one another and looking forward to seeing each other.

Friendships are the same way. I could go on and on and on but I think you’re smart enough to draw up your own examples.

Along with a culture of busyness, of victim mentality, it seems like there’s a culture of a need to be convinced, which perpetuates a cycle of a need to prove, a desire for approval.

Nobody really says “prove it to me”.

Alright so maybe some business people do, but nobody really says prove it.

What are you, 5?

They won’t ever really say it because they don’t want to sound 5.

But actions speak loud enough to send the message without words ever having to leave the mouth.

I’m very much action oriented…so maybe this irritates me more than others.

But frankly, I don’t believe in people’s words.

Ironic, right?

A writer, who writes, and writes, and writes – but doesn’t believe other people’s words.

Well, maybe it’s a little more nuanced than that.

I believe people’s words, but I watch their actions.

I don’t believe in proving, don’t believe in convincing, and don’t seek approval.

I’ll take someone’s word, trust and expect them to do the action, and leave them to it.

If they don’t I don’t really care, because I don’t attach much weight to their words first time around.

I do believe that actions speak a lot louder than words, when carried out.

Largely because of the fact that as the desire from people, of people to prove themselves, to convince other people that they are what they are, can do what they can do, feel how they feel, and need what they need, increases…it only perpetuates the issue of words becoming devoid, meaningless – lip service.

Saying whatever it is someone wants to hear makes words’ value drop to absolute zero.

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Saying whatever it is someone wants to hear increases the need for actual proof through actions to be carried out.

In people wanting others to convince them, to prove to them, whatever it is that they want proof or convincing of, it makes it harder to separate the real from the pleaser.

The true from the false.

The raw from the sugar-coated.

Which creates the theory that if people realized the weight of their words, the value of their words, they wouldn’t use them so superfluously.

They wouldn’t just spit off at the mouth.

They would think before speaking…and this would quite possibly restore value to words used.

Trust ties in with this. When a person constantly needs convincing or proof, they lack trust.

You can’t cure that.

You can’t make someone trust you.

It just has to happen.

So if you can’t make someone trust you, and they’re not willing to let themselves trust you, you can’t really convince them either.

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If you’re someone who doesn’t seek approval, this can be pretty frustrating.

So here’s the simple solution to at least clear your head.

Just say it.

Say it to the insecure types, the untrustworthy types of people you may encounter in life.

“I’m not going to convince you.”

But only say it on the basis your words carry fucking weight.

Two things can happen.

They either will disengage in conversation with you, and that’s that, or they’ll realize your lack of attempting to use a silver tongue means there is truth in what you speak.

Stop pandering to insecure people.

Catering to such a frame of mind will inevitably snowball into our downfall as human beings.

Think about it.

Stay cool…

– Rego

Improve Your Lifestyle. Improve Yourself. This is Life. This is Rego’s Life.™

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Musings Episode 88: Priorities…

Enjoying your weekend?

Good.

Looking forward to your week?

I hope so.

Let’s start.

Musings Episode 88: Priorities…

We all prioritize things in life.

Priorities are what separates getting some things done faster than other things.

It doesn’t matter if it’s business, relationships, friends, family, or anything else.

The more convenience gets brought into our world the more it seems that multi-tasking is becoming a demand…a requirement…a mandatory skill.

Multi-tasking is good for some things – at least so they say – but only temporarily.

Often the thing that’s done well is one that has an entire focus placed upon it.

You can multi-task and get a lot of things done at one time – but how well did you do them?

Could they have been done better?

I’ve been told I’m my worst critic sometimes.

The irony of being a perfectionist.

Asking if things can be done better is a question that floats in the back of my thoughts on a day-to-day basis.

Like the concept of kaizen, I constantly look for different ways to do things better.

It’s the needle that keeps me on course when navigating through this thing we call life.

I think we all need that.

That guiding compass.

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Not to be dictated by someone else, but something you establish for yourself.

Everyone’s compass is different.

I’ve also been told I’m a mentor.

Though I’ve never really seen myself as one.

I just like to see people awoken to the fact that their life is theirs to live – not someone else’s.

Your life decisions are what you take to the grave with you.

So why let someone else dictate what you should be doing, especially if it’s for the betterment of yourself?

Prioritizing is simply putting what you think – what you know – is important, first.

So many people prioritize their jobs, their boss, their significant other before themselves.

Side note: There’s nothing wrong with prioritizing and nourishing romantic relationships – but if you’re going to, I think it’s imperative to make sure that person is lifting you up, rather than having you stall out or pulling you down.

Interdependence, not dependence is key in relationships.

If you don’t prioritize yourself when it comes to certain things, things that in your gut you know you should be doing for yourself but aren’t, I really think you stunt your own growth as a person.

Humming and hawing over something rather than just doing it only sets you that much further apart from what it is you want to do.

Why on earth would you do that?

I’m not faultless.

I’m just another person navigating my ship through this thing we call life.

The more we learn about these rough seas, the more skilled we become – the better we learn to handle our ship – but we’re never faultless.

I recognize there is one persistent thing in my life I haven’t prioritized…always thinking it could wait until later.

Maybe it can, maybe it can’t…but it does leave me with that gnawing feeling that I should really be prioritizing it more than I am now.

Especially now.

A feeling that grows by the day until I push it aside at times, and act on getting it rolling other times.

It’s a journey for everyone – but should make a victim out of no one.

So don’t take this as a “it’s okay, at least you’re trying/tried but there’s nothing more you can do” message.

When it comes to setting priorities in your life, there is absolutely something you can do. Any action is better than no action.

Framing your day-to-day life to put yourself first is important – because if you’re a mess, how can you possibly help others?

Taking the time out to prioritize what it is you know you need and want to do leaves you with a clearer head.

It lets your thoughts flow, your creativity flow, your overall thinking process flow, much, much better than what it usually would.

Before the complete change over to digital TV and radio, there was analog. Whenever you changed channels, sometimes you’d encounter “static”.

I’m sure some of you remember what that static used to sound like – or even the white noise from a TV.

Not as distracting as buffering, but still annoying.

Even though you hear what it is you’re wanting to listen to or watch, there’s still that static in the background that you just can’t seem to ignore.

Things you’re not paying attention to but you know you should be prioritizing are a lot like that.

So start clearing the “static” from your head.

Take time out. Grab a pen and paper – not your phone. It’s something about putting words on paper that really makes you connect with what it is you’re thinking about.

Write down some things you’ve been wanting to do for a while but haven’t because you’re always putting other people or things first.

Then write down one you can do immediately, or want to do first, on a separate piece of paper.

When you get that first thing done, tear up the paper and bin it.

Then do that for the next one.

And the next one.

And so on.

Tossing the paper will make you feel like you’ve released yourself from something because you took action to get it done.

A little healthy selfishness is necessary.

Prioritizing helps eliminate the habit of creating problems as to why you can’t get certain things done.

Starting towards something is better than always saying “some day”.

Because really…

…someday is really just code for “never”.

Stay cool.

– Rego

Improve Your Lifestyle. Improve Yourself. This is Life. This is Rego’s Life.™

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Musings Episode 87: Problems…

Yeah – touched on this a little a few episodic musings ago. Let’s expand a little.

Musings Episode 87: Problems…

I was talking to a friend the other day about some things, like mostly just what’s going on in the news and what not.

I usually don’t like to watch the news too frequently – it’s boring and just a shit show of different depressing things.

When I say depressing, I mean it just amplifies the chaos that I know is already going on in the world.

But then it also tends to over-exaggerate things, too.

One thing I’ve learnt from travelling is that news is told differently, in different places. Different countries.

One country may minimise a problem, the other may blow it out of proportion, yet another may not even consider it news worth reporting.

And that got me thinking – just how often do people do this in their everyday lives?

There’s a saying, “1st world problems,” usually accompanied by something like “using your smart phone to log onto your bank account only to see it has 0.16 pence in it” or something similar.

Or “1st world problems: Driving to the gym only to realise you forgot your headphones so now you can’t workout”.

There’s a lot of superficial problems floating around.

In the context of friendships, business, family, and relationships in general.

Superficial problems which people have a skilled habit of creating.

Superficial problems which are created, and while initially seemingly harmless, create larger, real problems for another party – rarely the party that ever creates them.

Why do we create so many superficial problems?

Is it because of convenience?

Of comfort?

Family “can’t” meet for the holidays because of -xyz.

Maybe it’s feeling like they all have to spend time with their new “extensions” of family, rather than making an effort to get everyone together under one roof.

So a superficial problem like that causes a real problem of family disconnect and discord.

Friends stop physically hanging out with each other because of distance.

And by distance I mean laziness of getting in the car and taking that “cumbersome 30 minute to an hour drive”.

So they opt for chatting on social media instead thinking this “nourishes” the relationship, which is nothing close to what they called just a couple of decades ago “socialising”.

A superficial problem like that causes, as the Chinese say “the tea to go cold”, or the real problem of not building a healthy, real social network of non-apathetic people that are there when you need them most.

Then people say they’re “lonely”.

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Business, work, and jobs.

Not educated enough? Underqualified.

Go to university, get an education.

Got an education? Well, that’s great but you don’t have work experience.

No work experience? Get work experience.

Have work experience and an education? Not quite enough education, get more education.

Got more education? Now it’s too much education.

You’re overqualified, ergo not eligible for the role in fear you may “find something better”.

So you try for part-time work to keep food on the table.

Nope, sorry, try again.

Can’t get it because employers don’t want you sticking around temporarily.

So a string of superficial problems like that costs a person their human security – their dignity to live and enjoy life as a respectable human being.

No food? Go grocery shopping from your smart phone – and get it delivered.

Hungry? Cook what’s in the fridge.

Don’t wanna cook? Order out.

Don’t know what to eat? Say you’re “starving” then end up snacking.

The food you bought in the fridge goes off. Then you’ve gotta throw it away.

A superficial problem like that causes a person’s nutritional profile or daily diet to go down the tube, leading to a very real problem of long-term health issues.

Or my favourite – this new “food shortage” everyone’s raving about.

It’s called over-consumption and waste, dumbass.

Convenience. Convenience and laziness. Convenience and laziness seem to be ruining the basis of human self-reliance.

Lack of self-reliance or independence causes a sense of dissatisfaction.

Have dissatisfaction? You’re not happy.

Find your happy place.

Join a yoga class.

Happiness isn’t yoga, motherfucker.

Happiness isn’t finding your zen.

It’s not meditating.

Meditating is about reaching a neutral place.

It’s not the quinoa in your fucking bowl or your morning chamomile tea.

If you have all the creature comforts and more in life, and you’re still not happy, well…

You’re not happy because somewhere…you’re disgusted with yourself.

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Disgusted because somewhere you know you’re not really pulling your weight when it comes to your existence, which is affecting other people’s existences, through creating simple, silly, superficial problems, which turn into very real problems for other people.

Happiness is in your existence. It shouldn’t take yoga, or tea, or “woosah” or any of that other bull.

You’re not happy with yourself when you’re not being a decent human being.

You’re not happy with yourself when you know you’re creating superficial problems.

Sure you may know this – it may fester and eat away at the back of your subconscious, but you’ve grown quite comfortable with ignoring it by indulging in your little world of convenience, blowing the “news” in your head out of proportion thus justifying your actions and feelings.

I’m not saying convenience is bad – I’m simply saying indulging in too much of it can cause an absolute shit storm.

Get out of your bubble.

Realise you’re not the only one that exists in this world…

…and understand that your “superficial” problems, may very well be affecting other people’s lives on a very real, and very detrimental level, because you’re too senseless to realise it.

Think about it.

– Rego

Improve Your Lifestyle. Improve Yourself. This is Life. This is Rego’s Life.™

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Musings Episode 86: Give Back…

Hope everyone’s having a great weekend.

Let’s just get started.

Musings Episode 86: Give Back…

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This week’s had me thinking about some things…

Last week, I wrote about ego.

This week, I wanted to expand on that but change the tempo a little.

I managed to watch The Philadelphia Story over the weekend. A favourite of mine but something I haven’t seen in a while…and something hit me.

We live in a world where a lot’s going on right now.

Not to say that every generation hasn’t – but let’s stop sugar coating – humans on autopilot have a habit of continually reaching all time lows before redeeming themselves by remembering to be “human” again.

Generally, it’s a few shitty people that make things worse for the less shitty ones.

We’ve got the shitty ones trying to shift things right now.

When it comes to this thing called life and living it, our chosen currency is a bunch of IOUs – fiat currency.

Everyone works for it, whether you’re working for someone or having someone work for you.

Entrepreneurs put in work early so they don’t have to later, or work outside of work while still being employed.

People who work as employees that don’t choose the route of an entrepreneur put in a lot of hours to build an entrepreneur’s dream.

To the entrepreneurs reading this, let that last one sink in for a minute.

If you’ve got employees working for you, who believe in you, who give value in their work and don’t shirk their responsibilities, who don’t mind building your dream, and are perfectly content with just collecting a cheque every couple of weeks or every month, it’s important to remember that they, too, have lives.

While some may not have the balls to learn to say “no,” don’t be a douchebag and work them around the clock.

Like I mentioned in an earlier post, employees are a flock of sheep, while entrepreneurs are wolves.

Both the wolf and the sheep rely on being fed, albeit in two different ways.

But entrepreneurs whose entrepreneurial pursuits require employees on a large structured scale (like a company)…well they kind of turn into shepherds.

If you’ve got employees, or a business that isn’t automated or built off royalties, you can be one of two types of shepherds.

The one that looks at their sheep like they’re there to sustain you – by providing wool, milk, and cheese.

Or you can just look at them like they’re dispensable and ready to be slaughtered at any given time for meat.

The latter way of thinking will feed you, but only for a brief period.

While the former will feed you, clothe you, and take care of you long-term – contingent on the fact you take care of them, assuring no harm comes to them that’s not self-inflicted.

You can see where I’m going with this.

If you’re going to be an entrepreneur, don’t be a dick.

Remember to give back, while building your dream.

Because ultimately, it’s your employees that help sustain you.

If you’re an entrepreneur without employees, still remember to give back to your customers/consumers, while building your dream.

Don’t always look for people to buy what you’re selling, but remember to throw in some freebies that provide value, here and there, on a consistent basis.

I think this is important.

While I’m not religious, I will say this is kind of like a sort of tithe – not to a church, but to the people who are taking the time out to take interest in what you have to say, do, sell.

This is especially true just starting out, but also important to remember to continue when you reach the success you want.

Don’t just run around asking people to pay attention to what you have going on – take interest in them too.

Social media is ironically not very social anymore.

You’ve got more businesses running around liking other businesses’ stuff just to try to promote their own products.

It’s one of the reasons why I made my social media accounts private for some time.

It gets boring having people write asking you to promote their brand – with no consideration of reciprocation or perhaps actually liking what it is you’re doing.

The world needs more collaboration – not favour asking.

Collaboration unlocks the potential to lead to genuine engagement – not forced.

This is especially the case when it comes to business to business, but even more so when it comes to employers with their employees.

Collaborate with your employees, especially with the ones who really show good work ethic – make sure their needs are being met just as much as yours. Make sure you’re giving them work-life balance.

And when I say work ethic, I don’t mean the ones that are constantly staying at the office late or there early – that’s not work ethic, that’s just putting their life into the company.

Stop the bad habit by disallowing them to do this.

And don’t think you can compensate them by making your office more “fun”.

Outside of work they have lives too – remind them of it.

This culture of busyness has everything all screwed up.

It used to be a sign of wealth when people had time to live their lives – now it seems like he who has the least time is most successful – don’t kid yourself.

You’re robbing yourself of life when you do this if you’re an employee, and you’re robbing your employees of their lives when you make them do this if you’re an employer.

Employees have to start recognising their value, and employers have to start respecting that value.

One more important thing.

If you’re an entrepreneur and you see you have employees who are entrepreneurial minded like yourself, don’t covet them; don’t hold them back; don’t refuse to hire them; and don’t fire them, if you see that one day they’ll leave your company.

As long as a currency system exists, everyone needs money.

Give them a chance to build their life, the way they want to, just as someone gave you a chance.

And when someone’s ready to leave your employment, let them, without malice or hatred – in the words of Enchiridion, we own nothing – and especially no one – in this world.

Appreciate the value they’ve provided you, then when they feel it’s their time to grow as a person, let them, and wish them well when they move on.

Give back.

Give back to your customers, your employees, your business partners you ask to collaborate with you.

The same can be applied outside the context of business.

Give back – to your friends, your family, the stranger that holds the door open for you, the person that says thanks, and the cashier that smiles and says hello when you go for groceries.

Don’t let your ego take over.

Give back by not being a dick – give back by being a decent human being.

As always…

Stay awesome.

– Rego

Improve Your Lifestyle. Improve Yourself. This is Life. This is Rego’s Life.™

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Musings Episode 85: Ego…

Hope everyone’s had a great weekend.

Let’s just get right to it.

Musings Episode 85: Ego…

You’ll remember last week’s post where I talked about running in place, the two different sources of dissatisfaction, and a few other things.

You’ll also probably remember what I talked about the week before last, about guts over fear, and if you really want to do something, to just do it.

I think both of those topics have to do with concrete things.

But there’s something else that ties in with what people do in every day life, why they do it and how.

Come to think of it – it also ties in with what people don’t do in every day life, and why they don’t do it as well.

Ego.

There’s two key players in our brains – logic and creativity.

Some may argue that the two are separate, because they’re opposites. Logic is left brained while creativity dominates the right. The same could be said about emotion.

True, but while emotion and creativity are different from logic, they still support each other in certain functions.

Logic allows us to execute a systematic and structured plan of action to carry out our creative thoughts.

Picking up the paint brush, holding it a certain way, mixing certain colours, dry time of the canvas, layering, etc, etc. The same goes for photography.

Logic can also allow us to step away from an emotional situation and take an objective look at why that emotion is being felt in that situation.

Creativity can allow us to create something useful, something functional, with aesthetic appeal, or a “fun” element to it.

Emotion allows us to put the human back into humanity when logic fails to acknowledge when emotion is needed to maintain rationality, and vice versa.

So if logic and emotion, or logic and creativity can be interdependent on each other, lend to each other, and at the same time can be considered vastly different qualities that can be separated from each other, why then, don’t people apply this to a fundamental part of their lives – their careers?

What about their relationshipsPersonal development?

I could go on, but the point I’m trying to make here is, in today’s society it’s important to remember that you’re not what you do.

You’re not your job.

You’re not your job title.

You’re not your role in your relationship.

You’re not the car you buy.

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You’re you.

While it’s great to have all that, remember who and what you are, without all of it.

You’re this living, breathing organism, that like a Final Fantasy (RPG) game character just keeps leveling up – maybe getting a new weapon here, or some new armour there, or some new skills here, or better health there, or new party members here, and so on and so on.

You gain the weapons and the armor from money earned at each battle, but you gain the better health, skills, and other things from experience points.

You’re a living being that (hopefully) progressively changes as you gain experience with new, different, experiences, constantly getting to know yourself better.

Experiences and situations are accessories that you choose to take on or confront in your life.

So why not separate yourself from all that other stuff – the job, the car, the house, the relationship?

Ego.

Ego is a very abstract thing. Logically you can’t define it, it’s pretty difficult to pin down.

Fuck what religion, or spirituality, or all of that stuff says.

I think those types of things can still taint or manipulate the message of what ego really is for their own benefit, which I’ll explain towards the end of this.

I’m not saying I have a perfect definition for it either, but I will say this: people today, not that they haven’t been before, but even more so today, with the advancements of technology, and the comfort of convenience, which has ultimately lead to a false perception of self-reliance, are running wild with their egos.

Your ego tells you you are your job.

Your job title.

Your ego tells you you are the only person in the household who gets things done.

Your ego tells you you are lower, middle, upper, and elite class.

Hell, society tells you you’re all that too.

Society tells you if you drive this car you’re this. If you wear this, you’re that. If you live in this neigbourhood, you’re this.

Society also has a tendency to try and dictate to you what you aren’t, as well.

It goes both ways, too.

While people who identify themselves as rich may assume someone who doesn’t drive a Bentley isn’t financially savvy or educated, people who identify as poor may look at someone who’s educated or well off as being “soft,” never having experienced hardship.

Society itself, is a collection of egos, communicating to other egos – your ego.

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Attempting to tell you what you should have, what you shouldn’t, what you do deserve, what you don’t, what you have done, what you haven’t, what you have been through, what you haven’t, what you should be watching, doing, saying, BEING.

The most popular stuff is shoved in front of your face everyday on Facebook, Netflix, Instagram, cable TV, Twitter, the news, shop windows, magazines, movies, on and on and on and on…

But if you strip all the “accessories” away, what are you?

Who are you?

Do you really know what you like?

What you want?

What you want to do?

What you’ve done?

Without anybody telling you, have you made these decisions yourself?

I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again.

What you do, is not who you are. What you’ve done is simply a history, a timeline, of how far you’ve realised your own potential and pushed your own limits.

Mediocrity never was, and never should be an intended destiny for a species as intelligent as the human race.

Your only competition is the version of yourself you were yesterday – so don’t let others measure you with their own limiting beliefs – know your worth.

We have free will. Free will to do or to not do something. Free will to cooperate with each other.

People’s egos run wild when they try to do this to other people.

Telling them WHAT they are, rather than asking.

Telling them WHERE they should be, rather than letting them just…be.

Acting like they’re helping someone, only to gain mileage for themselves later.

Trying to hold someone back when they see them positively progressing forward, because they’re not happy with their own progress.

That’s ego.

I’m not this blog.

Not the places I’ve been.

Not the work I’ve done.

Nor the entreprenurial pursuits.

Not the photos I’ve taken.

Not the people I’ve dated.

Nor the friends I have.

I’ve enjoyed all those things and still do – but they’re great additions to my life – they’re not me.

I’m a living, breathing, organism, who’s amassed knowledge, feelings, experience, and an understanding of myself from things I’ve chosen to turn my attention to.

I’m just one big makeup of energy, choosing to expend myself on whatever I feel is right on a day-to-day basis, and recharging at night.

The same way I don’t let just anybody drive my car, I don’t let just anything drain my energy – or time.

I prefer to expend energy into things that’ll exchange that same positive energy.

But this is the important part.

I’m not talking about this bullshit, “you are what you think about most, always go around being nice to people” stuff.

Because this is what most people leave out:

There are a shit ton of people out there who can “act” nice to each other.

It doesn’t mean they’re genuine.

It doesn’t mean they want to see you do good – or even better than them, for that matter.

Will said something very interesting along the lines of this a while ago, have a listen:

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But what people have to realise is, no one is doing better than anyone else.

You’re just doing you. If you weren’t in their life, what would they have to measure themselves with? Someone else? What if no one was in their life?

You can’t possibly be “doing better” than anyone else, if everyone has their own personal goals and milestones.

So what do you care if you help someone out when they’re earnestly looking to become a better version of themselves?

You’re not what you do, but you’re not alone.

Cooperation is vital to human survival. Cooperation is just an exchange of good energies.

So check your ego at the door.

Have a sense of who you are at your core.

Don’t be a dick.

Be cordial (be nice).

Be genuine.

Lift up the people you call your friends, family, lovers, and others who are looking to do a little good in the world.

Look for others who do the same.

And don’t fuck with people who do any of the negative stuff you just read about.

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As always…

Stay Awesome.

– Rego

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