Musings Episode 75: Relationships…

I’m guessing everyone had a good weekend. Let’s just jump right into it.

Musings Episode 75: Relationships…

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When you think about socialising, the term can be defined in many ways, and is really a multi-purpose thing. It fits into our daily life on many levels – platonically, romantically, etc.

People socialise for several reasons – maintaining friendships, getting acquainted with new people for the sake of acquiring new friends; reinforcing/building onto romantic relationships, creating new romantic relationships; expanding social networks for business purposes; maintaining family relationships; socialising to learn new things – maybe a skill you want to develop or just for the sake of honing your current skill in the art of conversation.

When you look at the list above, it’s more than obvious that socialising is primarily used for the sake of creating or maintaining relationships throughout life in general.

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Socialising also takes time…and time is a valuable asset that’s always wise to spend smartly.

So if you’re spending something as precious as time on socialising, naturally you want the experience of socialising to be one of quality – because you want the relationships you form from socialising to be of quality.

And when you think about it, relationships are something people have and have had throughout their natural lives. For some, relationships have consisted of quantity over quality, and vice versa.

Time, socialising, and relationships are all intrinsically linked to each other. Meaning time is the metaphorical money you invest at life’s “investment firm” of socialising, in the hopes to see a good return on your investment in the form of relationships.

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But unlike currency, your focus on your ROI isn’t about quantity, so much as it is quality.

You may want a large social network, as the natural way of thinking is that knowing a lot of people can help you get a lot of things accomplished.

However the main caveat of that is while you may know of a lot of people, the relationships formed may not give you the strongest return on your investment.

And in this game called life, you’ve gotta learn to invest. So you get your feet wet, take a few losses in the beginning, and become wiser for the next time around.

I’ve noticed the older I get the more I prefer my social circle to be smaller.

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Socialising with a lot of people is a great thing – don’t get me wrong. In socialising for friendships, romantic relationships, and even business, the more people you gain exposure to, the more you realise what type of people you want in your life.

And the more you hone in on what type of people you want in your life, the higher chance you have of your time being invested in higher quality relationships.

It’s like having an essential wardrobe – everything in it complements you well, is versatile, is made with care and dedication, and you enjoy wearing everything in it.

For friendships, you want to know that your friends have your back, that they really know you – understand you, respect your time, and have your best interest at heart – in general they uplift you.

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For romantic relationships, it’s the same thing, and an even bigger investment…more risks, more time. It’s one person getting to know you on an even deeper level, learning what your vulnerabilities are, learning what pushes your buttons, what makes you tick, and you coming to know the same about them.

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For family, again the same thing – but probably the most taken for granted relationships of all. It’s interesting because sometimes, in people having the underlying assumption that they are family, they also assume there’s nothing left to learn about  their family – which can actually make family relationships have a wider “knowledge gap” than when it comes to building friendships with people you’re just acquainted with.

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For business, the game is similar but totally different at the same time. It’s an entirely different animal, a totally different investment. Not every follower is your fan, and sometimes (like many entrepreneurs know) you’ve got to keep things close to your vest.

Business relationships shouldn’t just be focused around your customer either, but all your stakeholders – everyone inside and outside an organisation. Get the wrong people who only look out for their self-interests or what’s comfortable for them, and you’ve got toxic investments ready to slowly strangle the lifeline of your company or your milestones.

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Overall I like to think of quality relationships as small miracles. The human race has seen and participated in a lot (and I do mean a lot) of war…and they still do.

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History has shown us that conflict has the potential to match cooperation – and vice versa…but really, relationships – the art of caring about, understanding, knowing, and working with each other – are essential to human survival; and entirely dependent on people making the effort to get to know each other on a deeper, more quality level.

Unfortunately in the past (and still today), this way of thinking has been known to be deliberately fragmented, further dividing the human race by separating each other based on a skin colour or location.

So when you think about relationships, they’re really like small miracles. Socialising is an attraction of energy, but sometimes you can have energy vampires.

Quality relationships are literally an attraction of higher energies towards each other, which can form a bond that has the potential to be unbreakable – if said energies stay at a positive, higher level.

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And when you think about that and transfer it to something more “physical”, as people, we all wear different “masks”.

I wouldn’t say we act differently, but perform differently in different relationships.

A person can act the same, in regards to choosing to let their personality or good energy consistently shine through – but like sports, when you have to get sport specific, you work with different equipment, terrain, players, etc…you train differently.

You may still train hard, but you change your training, so you can tailor your performance for that particular sport, as you know different things can excel you in different ways.

And when you start thinking about relationships like sports teams and energy, you start to realise that you want players beside you who are in it to win it, but on a higher level.

You want players that know, and expect you to know, that by having your best interest at heart as well as theirs – that that thinking – pushes the whole team forward – it moves a whole team forward…and in moving a whole team forward, you can move mountains.

Think about it.

As always…

Stay awesome.

– Rego

Improve Your Lifestyle. Improve Yourself. This is Life. This is Rego’s Life.™

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Musings Episode 74: Do You Deserve It…?

So I’m hoping everyone had an epic weekend. There are some thoughts that have been bouncing around in my head since the last episodic musing, in particular thoughts that revolve around what people define as being deserving of things.

You look on social media, and you listen to conversationswatch movies, listen to lyrics in songs…and I’ve realised something’s popping up more and more that I don’t entirely agree with. Alright here goes…

Musings Episode 74: Do You Deserve It?

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It seems that people are starting to think it’s alright to gauge and dictate to other people whether they deserve something or not.

Now I mentioned in the previous episodic musing that when it comes to free will, no one has the right to really dictate to anyone what they should get out of life – Epictetus made this clear, and to paraphrase him once more, attempting to control or dictate another person’s free will takes tremendous effort as it goes against the natural law of things; things which are in our control, and things which are out of our control.

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As a side note, if you haven’t read Epictectus’ “Enchiridion” – it’s basically a summarised version, a “manual” of his teaching of Stoicism – I highly recommend you pick it up from Amazon.

Seriously it cost less than coffee if you get the Dover Thrift Edition. Buy it.

Getting back to the subject, I saw something interesting the other day on Instagram. I didn’t screenshot it as it made me so disgusted it wasn’t worth a save in my phone, but ironically it pissed me off so bad I remember it clearly; so I’ll tell you what is said.

“Those who think they deserve it the most, usually don’t.”

…..Seriously?

What’s interesting is I’ve heard this once or twice in some songs I’ve stumbled across when discovering new music, and group conversations I’ve been involved in in the past.

And I wholeheartedly disagree with this.

Fair enough, there are some people who don’t put in any work for something they want; and there are people who are given everything they want without putting in any work, ergo feeling they deserve whatever they want.

But there are also those out there who bust their ass everyday – for months, years – grinding and meet rejection after rejection and know they deserve what they want.

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And when I see people who state that people who think they deserve something don’t, it really gets under my skin, because when you think about it…it’s not a bold statement – it’s assumptive and asinine, a dash of ignorance, and just a sprinkle of arrogant.

When you take your attention away from mainstream – mainstream TV, movies, music, books, websites, everything…you begin to think about things differently…and when you think about it successful mainstream people don’t really elaborate on what their way up was like – not in a raw, real feel sense.

I’ve been listening to some less well-known music artists on YouTube lately when I get a chance and I’ve gotta say, some of their lyrics hit me like a brick wall.

They don’t talk about women, drugs, cars, sex, pumped up violence, all the regular bunk you hear on mainstream artists’ songs; but they talk about real things no one else wants to really discuss – things other artists probably know won’t sell as well:

Witt Lowry – The Ride

Ollie – Product

Witt Lowry – Dreaming With Our Eyes Open

And listening to the lyrics makes you realise, that the only person who has a right to ask you if you deserve it – if you deserve what you want – is you.

If you’re out there making the effort, changing your game plan when some things don’t work, learning new stuff to make other things work, and not losing sight of what it is you want – if what you want has substance – no one has a right to tell you that if you think you deserve it the most, you probably don’t.

That’s just bull.

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And anyone who has the audacity to make such a statement in my opinion is somebody who is consciously making an incompetent statement, has never even entertained the thought about considering what it’s like to walk in someone’s shoes, or simply thinks there’s not enough caviar to go around.

Having the gall enough to even make that statement, shows that someone is already spoilt rotten with a complete disregard for humanity.

Because there are three main paths that people who go after what they want and think they deserve end up taking:

The path of attaining what they deserve.
The path of settling for less than what they deserve (read: the path of becoming complacent).
The path of giving up on the FEELING of deserving what they’ve put effort into attaining (read: the path of becoming insecure).

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At the end of the day it’s YOU who knows what efforts your putting in. It’s YOU who knows how much time you’ve put into going after your milestones. It’s YOU who knows what you’ve been through, what you’re going through, and where you want to go.

Don’t let anyone ever dictate that to you.

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Because this deserves reiteration.

This is for the millennials, the 90s and the 80s kids.

You may not have the job security, the house, the car, the holidays, the balanced salary to living expense ratio, the opportunities your parents had when they were younger, you may not have all of that JUST YET

…and it may seem a little harder to acquire those things in today’s time…

…and well shit, it is, with the way multinationals are making application processes for people increasingly unnecessarily long and complex…

…bending people over and trying to get them to take it up the @ss with no lube, by offering far-less-than square deals…

….essentially looking at humans as actual resources, rather than people.

Funny thing is while others are trying to dictate to you whether or not you deserve something, if we stripped away modern civilisation and tried our hand at something like growing a garden, there is a higher and near concrete chance nature itself would effortlessly allow us to reap the harvest of the effort we put in, compared to some people these days.

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Notice how the term “personnel department” changed to “human resources”? Yeah. Worse thing to ever happen…

…but one thing you do have is willpower, and the right to believe in yourself.

If you’re putting in the effort; getting those top grades in university; doing the daily grind as entrepreneur; or making an effort to make your salary work for you, for something you want that’s bigger than you, bigger than the life you have now; no one but YOU, has the right to ask…

“Do you deserve it?”

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Hope everyone has a great week, and don’t forget to check back for Quote Wednesdays.

As always…

Stay awesome.

– Rego

Improve Your Lifestyle. Improve Yourself. This is Life. This is Rego’s Life.™

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Musings Episode 73: Come Back Stronger…

Well…it’s been a while.

The kind of “I’m just going out for cigarettes” while, where you bump into the person 3 years later and have that awkward reunion.

Except, in this situation there’s no child.

Or woman.

Just the fans.

Alright – maybe this won’t be *that* awkward.

So why the long break – well, I needed a break – as in, I needed to rethink the meaning of everything I was doing. These past few years I’ve been reflecting on what’s *missing* from Rego’s Life.

I covered a lot of life subjects before, but somehow, something always felt like it was missing. So I stepped away.

Sometimes when you’re too close to something, you can’t see the answer that’s right in front of you.

I stepped away…to come back stronger. And that’s exactly what I’m going to do.

Musings Episode 73: Come Back Stronger…

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Things will be a bit different.

A bit new.

Sometimes gritty.

The old favorites will still be around – no worries there.

But like anything that matures with age they’ll be better, more seasoned.

Speaking of coming back stronger, that’s actually the topic of this episodic musing.

Most people at some point have some sort of setbacks or hardships they go through in life – in any aspect of life. It could be financial, business, academic, family (or any other type of relationship), but a hardship or challenge nonetheless.

The type that can knock a person off their feet – a K.O. so to speak.

The question when that happens though is “what now?”

What are you going to do about it?

Are you going to lay there on the mat, stuck in between conscious and unconscious, hearing the world go on around you and give up the will to get back up?

Or are you going to come back stronger?

Sometimes people don’t always recover instantly.

Sometimes it takes additional training and a few more fights to come back stronger.

I remember watching the movie “Rocky Balboa” a while back, the 2006 version, where Stallone says (while in character) something to his on-screen son:

“Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard you hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done! Now if you know what you’re worth then go out and get what you’re worth. But ya gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody! Cowards do that and that ain’t you! You’re better than that!”

The one line that really stuck out in my mind was this:

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This is probably the best line I’ve heard in a long time, and it really resonated with me after not having watched the film in a while.

No matter how many times life knocks you down, you’ve gotta keep moving forward.

A lot of people get this confused – it’s not about moving up – as I mentioned in one of my previous episodic musings what goes up must come down – but what moves forward, well that’s an entirely different beast all together.

And like in rugby, or American football, life can dish out a lot of hits at you…but you’ve gotta look at them as lessons.

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This can be a hard concept to wrap your head around, especially when you’re in the thick of it, but by lessons I mean opportunities to fortify yourself for next time, or the next obstacle you might meet.

The same way a rugby player trains so he becomes harder and harder to knock down, is the same way a person can train for the game called life.

And another thing – don’t look for “alright.”

I’m usually not one to talk politics a lot but ever since the whole Brexit and Trump ordeal it seems like xenophobia has exploded in some parts of the world, and I hear some people saying “everything’s gonna be alright” to others.

Well, I’ve got one think to say to that.

Screw that saying.

It’s a crappy way to cope with a situation.

You think during the World Wars that soldiers settled for “alright” every time they laid out a battle plan? You think that “everything’s gonna be alright” speech really settled their hearts and eliminated their fear, when they were out there, being shot at?

During the WW’s they fought for more than “alright” – they fought with the thought of getting back home to a better life – despite the fact politicians were pulling their strings.

They fought because they had hopes for a future that contained more than just “alright.”

They fought in hopes that their offspring wouldn’t have to fight wars if they didn’t choose to, but come back stronger, and better – not go soft and become indifferent to what was happening around them.

And most of all, I’m pretty damn sure they thought that their sacrifices made would be a reminder to future generations to grow wise, and not accept life, or another human being for that matter, to just walk all over them.

They fought for an “everything’s gonna be awesome future”.

Not an “alright” one.

A lot of what makes up this thing called life involves other lives in it…and with the way things have been going, it seems that sadly, those lives seem to think they can intrude on other lives.

But in the words of Epictetus, and to paraphrase him slightly, to attempt to control the will of another person takes tremendous effort, or sacrifice. It goes against he law of nature, dictating someone’s future to them.

So don’t just roll over and let someone dictate your free will.

There’s another great line from Rocky Balboa (2006) I think I should leave you guys with:

Don’t settle for “everything’s going to be alright” – go after how you want things to be – go after “everything’s going to be GREAT. FANTASTIC. AWESOME. AMAZING. SPECTACULAR….or insert any other more than satisfactory adjective here.

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When you get hit hard in life, don’t just lay there and accept that everything will be alright.

Get off that mat and keep moving forward in the direction YOU want, how YOU want things to go.

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A diamond blade cuts through rock only after being forged under pressure.

Come back stronger.

And as always…

Stay awesome.

– Rego

Improve Your Lifestyle. Improve Yourself. This is Life. This is Rego’s Life.™

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Musings Episode 72: Grow up…

Grow up.

…is something I heard once a few years back when getting into a fight. I’m not talking a verbal fight – no, I’m talking hand-to-hand, fist-to-fist fight.

Ironically, this was from the instigator.

I was hitting the heavy bag pretty hard the other day, when this thought came to mind. You know how it is, you’re going and going in your workout, and sometimes, whether you like it or not, you shift focus and your mind wanders.

It’s interesting how people “define” what growing up really is.

In that case, it was because of my attempt to avoid the fight entirely, that had made them say it.

Ever seen someone dance around a ring to avoid exchanging blows? That was me.

To be quite honest – that’s always been me. Wanna know what I mean? Read on…

Musings Episode 72: Grow up…

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I’m not a very confrontational person – frankly, I deem it too draining. If I can solve something with words, I will as much as possible. It seems much better than to duke it out like so many guys seem to want to do.

And really that’s the number one rule in any combat sport – dissipating a confrontational situation as quickly as possible without any physical action unless absolutely required.

To me, that’s maturity. That’s growing up. That’s being “grown up.”

Anyone can force an opinion, or a situation on someone through violence, with enough of said violence…it’s called fascism.

But to connect with someone and get them to see your opinion, or engage with you in something through use of simple words (from the heart), logic, and reasoning? That’s skill. That’s talent. That’s confidence in your own ability.

Brute force, in my opinion, is somewhat of a special reserve. Your rarely use it, if ever.

Like a bottle whiskey you set aside for only certain occasions. Sweet wines, or “aperitifs” are something you have often with dessert after dinner. 30 year old Macallan? Save that for another day.

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Not openin’ this shit up for another 50 years.

But brute force, can be really, really, immature and neanderthal-ish.

Growing up is about using your head – and often, your heart. The last one is a bit tricky though, as sometimes people can exploit your vulnerabilities, thus taking advantage of your trust.

Yet ironically, as people get older they forget that’s the mold that keeps “humanity” a real word to begin with.

Generally looking at society, you may think that most kids, when they grow up, grow out of imagination and boldness – true, from an artistic point of view.

But if you take that a step further, I’d say many people don’t really grow up as quickly as they grow old…

…and in growing old, if not careful you can grow out of the basics that you came into this world with.

Compassion.
Empathy.
Understanding.
Love – love for mankind – not romantic love.

Anyone remember the golden rule? Do unto your brother as you’d want done unto you? Basic, loose translation of what I remember.

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If everyone, and I do mean everyone, kept that at the forefront of their mind everyday, societies would be far more than just “polite” or “nice” – but downright genuine.

Because really, that’s where maturity is at.

People grow older, but childish tendencies remain – the textbook bully, the over-competitive spirit, the innocent fabler.

Those are all easy things to never grow out of.

But that’s not what growing up is about.

It’s about preserving what’s constructive and eliminating what’s not.

It’s about remembering the type of person you want to be and the kind of mark you want to leave on the world.

This kind of thinking doesn’t make you a hippie, or a peace activist – it just keeps in focus for you what’s important – the golden rule…

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…whether you realize it or not, that golden rule holds the literal weight it figuratively exemplifies.

It’s one of the most mature things to ever be said, while at the same time can be understood by what so many adults classify as the simplest, most “immature” people – children.

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Because in a child’s mind, this is all that it says:

Don’t hurt people if you don’t want to get hurt.

Be kind if you want to be treated kindly.

Trust if you want to be trusted.

Love if you want to be loved.

Maintain your positive qualities, if you want positivity to come your way.

That’s growing up.

That’s being mature.

It’s easy to grow old – it’s a testament to strength to grow up.

Hope everyone had an awesome weekend.

As always…

Stay awesome.

– Rego

Improve Your Lifestyle. Improve Yourself. This is Life. This is Rego’s Life.™

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Musings Episode 71: Fearless…

First off – really hope you guys have been doing alright – thanks for the emails asking where I’ve been – makes me feel appreciated just as much as I appreciate you. 😉

I must admit, lately, there have been some inner demons I’ve been wrestling with.

Sorry about that.

Well, not really – if I hadn’t, I’d probably have stopped writing altogether – now that would be something to apologize for.

Right, back to demons – it’s a bit of an interesting discovery…ready? Start.

Musings Episode 71: Fearless…

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So demons – we all have them. This month has been a trying one – been having to take my own advice on a handful of things, and I’ve gotta say, it’s been a delicate balancing act.

There’s a time you reach in various stages of your life when sometimes you just feel overwhelmed – not from the amount of things you’ve got going on, but just a collective series of events that have happened.

There was a time when I used to think that “nothing just happens” – frankly, these days I’d say that’s a load of shit – at least the way I used to think of it.

Things happen, but there’s always a root from where those things originate.

It’s not about things “just” happening, but why they happened and how they got the momentum to happen in the first place – how they got the chance.

Zoom in on that last word – chance.

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You take chances, and give chances. Give something a “chance” to happen, and you can help or hinder yourself – all depending on the circumstances.

Let me be straight with you – there will be times, no matter how perfectly you plan, that you’ll run into obstacles.

The question is how you handle those “obstacles” or more accurately, situations.

This is where the essence of life lies –

10% of life consists of what’s happening.

90% consists of how you handle it.

It’s such a simple formula every once in a while you’ve gotta bring it back to memory again and again.

You’ve gotta develop a sort of fearlessness within yourself to take whatever’s thrown at you with a cool head.

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Mind you, it’s no easy feat.

Christ, it’s no easy feat no matter how much you study the social sciences, psychology, train yourself on optimism, or any of that jazz.

But once you get it – once you understand how to acquire your own version of fearlessness, where you can take whatever life throws at you – guess what?

Suddenly the things that are thrown at you, stop being thrown.

Or don’t feel like they’re being thrown at you at all.

Suddenly, they’re no longer crises, or headaches…no longer are they challenges or obstacles.

You no longer look at them as road blocks.

You develop a sort of filtration system, where after a while you just understand it’s something you must find a solution to – and start equating these “crises” to simple math problems. Or is it chemistry? Let’s say, both.

It’s just about finding the right formula.

Keeping a cool head.

That’s the fearlessness you can eventually build.

It can’t be taught directly – it’s just something you’ve gotta keep in mind while taking in all the important components.

Not even I can teach it to you – but I can give you some pretty damn good tools to use during your journey.

The key thing to understand is this – fearlessness, starts from within. Just like happiness.

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If you look for it externally, you will never find it.

The basis of these two things is peace of mind. Somehow, they all seem to fall into place at different times, sometimes lose their way, but overall find their place back with each other.

Don’t sweat it. You are your biggest critic – so just take the spotlight off your faults for a bit, and remember – life isn’t meant to be lived worrying.

Life’s meant to be lived enjoying.

Look out for Make it Mondays today over on the Official Site. Until then…

As always…

Stay awesome.

– Rego

Improve Your Lifestyle. Improve Yourself. This is Life. This is Rego’s Life.™

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Musings Episode 70: Balance…

It’s been a pretty unproductive weekend for me…not saying that time spent was wasted – it was indeed not.

…and somehow, I kind of needed this unproductivity. Or at least I think I did.

In saying that – yes, I do realize I blew off writing last week’s “For The Weekenders” – but don’t sweat it – this week’s is going to be a very special one, largely having to do with squeezing out the last bits of this awesome August weather we’ve been having.

For now though I wanna talk about balance. *shrugs* Let’s start.

Musings Episode 70: Balance….

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This is more of a follow up really from last week’s post regarding slowing down, enjoying life, all that jazz – it’s parallel to it, but not right in line with it.

The kind of balance I’m talking about is the type where there are times in a person’s life where, whether they like it or not, they’ve gotta keep themselves balanced – especially if they’re going through stressful situations.

You’ve gotta take the time, energy, and mental strength, to try and steer yourself back on course – to remember what it is you’re doing, where it is your life is going, then assess and rearrange if things aren’t to your liking.

It can be hard as shit, if you’re not ready for it – or it can be insanely easy, if you know how to let go.

But letting go is the trickiest part. It’s a delicate distribution or, well, balance of saying “fuck it” while still making sure you’re headed in the right direction.

So many things in life can leave us distracted – forgetting that when it gets down to the nitty gritty, the bare bones, the core of it all – no matter how many things happen in life, you’ve still gotta remember that this is YOUR life, and that you have to care about WHERE it’s going and WHAT is happening to, or in it.

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This is the kind of balance I’m talking about.

You can’t beat yourself up about when you get off course either.

I mean, you can, to kind of give yourself a kick in the ass, get that motivation going again – but you’ve gotta be careful not to do it too much.

There are days when you can pull the covers over your head, pretty much sending the message to everything and everyone to “fuck off,” but you only wanna do that sparingly, just enough to give yourself a chance to exercise some introspection – time to pause and reflect.

You can go out there and hit the sauce, but don’t do it to the point where those demons you’ve had locked away deep inside of you get a chance to come out and fuck with you – that’s not the way to get rid of them…that shit’s like a pressure pot, you’ve gotta let it off slow.

You can even do the opposite of all the “bad” habits to knock you back onto your feet, like becoming a gym rat or going pro-health when it comes to food.

But everything in moderation – moderation is key.

Perhaps it seems like I’m rambling, maybe I am – just think of this as one of those sit down sessions you have with someone and you both just kind of get shit off your chest.

I’ve never really been a cynic – but then I wouldn’t say I’m 100% optimist either.

I just believe there are certain steps a person takes in order to carve out that ideal life they want.

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Human kindness is big. Focus is big. Having goals to reach is huge. Compassion is huge. Remembering where you came from and giving yourself little self-assessments at least once a month is massive.

You’ve gotta think of your life like a canvas – you can paint whatever you want with it, with an array of colors, brushes, oils, and styles. If you’re not getting the gist of that – simply put, you can do whatever you want, because you’ve always got OPTIONS. Options, are what really allow balance.

When you realize this, though it may be challenging at first, in certain situations you’ll come to understand that it’s not the situation that defines you – but how you handle the situation.

Handle the situation with the right amount of balance, and you’ll weather the storm.

Focus too much on the situation though, as if it’s something that’s molded and created your life – and you’ll only end up fucking yourself over.

Introspection is key.

Understanding is key.

Mental discipline it critical.

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And sometimes, just sometimes…not giving a fuck is the best path to enlightenment.

Hope everyone has a great week…

As always…

Stay awesome.

– Rego

Improve Your Lifestyle. Improve Yourself. This is Life. This is Rego’s Life.™

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Musings Episode 69: Slow Down…

I was out and about at the park last week, and while waiting for someone to arrive I was meeting, took the chance to have a seat and look up at the sky.

Man, what a sight. Blue skies, white clouds, perfect amount of sunshine.

The whole thing prompted me to gear this week’s episodic musing towards one thing: slowing down and really recognizing life.

Musings Episode 69: Slow Down…

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Often times so many people have their heads down looking at their smartphones, or looking straight ahead, rarely does anyone look up anymore.

But really, when you take the time to look up – that’s when time really stops.

So often day to day life feels like such a rush, yet so often it’s merely just an illusion held together by habitual tendencies and societal norms of the “rat race.”

Rarely do people realize life goes at a leisurely pace – but like the finishing line in Ferris Bueller, if we don’t stop and look around once in a while – we could easily miss it, as at the same time, it doesn’t wait for us.
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I remember there was a time when I used to work crazy hours.

I mean, 12-14 hour days. It was insane.

Then I realized I wasn’t living at all – just existing.

I wasn’t living, because I wasn’t getting a chance to actually do anything with my days. It was so bad it was interfering with my social and family life.

This was a very short period in my life where for a moment, just for a moment, somehow I let myself lose sight of the vision and get into a “rut.”

Hey – I’m not perfect – even I lose sight sometimes – but it’s all a part of keeping yourself on course.

Fortunately I woke up and realised it – in ample enough time to get back to what matters most – friends, family, and actually enjoying your life.

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Aside from the instance of waiting on my friend I managed to stumble across an old movie in my collection as well (don’t judge me), “The Devil Wears Prada.”

I’d not watched it in years but decided to give it a look and by the end of it realized just how much that movie drove home the exact point I’m making in this post now.

Slowing down and not rushing gives you a chance to actually assess your life moment by moment, while enjoying it day to day.

Keep in mind, slowing down doesn’t mean becoming lazy – but instead just taking the time to notice the world around you, compared to getting so caught up in the daily routine of making/creating money and any other repetitive task.

It’s all about working to live, not the other way around…and frankly, if anyone told you we’re in this life the just waste it away 8-9 hours a day at a desk, that person deserves a slap.

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Humans are so individual and are given so much free will, it’s a wonder why so few stop to take the time to enjoy that power they have.

I’d say the “rush” of daily life starts with the mind though – that gnawing feeling of always being busy with something or having something you’ve gotta do before a certain time, the nervousness of wondering if there’s anything you’ve forgotten, left out, didn’t think about.

The moment you give yourself a chance to STOP thinking – is the moment you BEGIN thinking about everything that actually matters.

Then you realize…life isn’t as busy as it seems.

It’s not as hectic as you think it is.

…and it doesn’t have to be as crazy as everyone believes it should be.

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Life is about slowing down, understanding your priorities, acting on what matters most to you, cooperating with other people who have your best interest, exercising human kindness, and ENJOYING all this world has to offer.

Once your start appreciating the simpler things in life, the rest comes easy.

I guarantee it.

Hope everyone’s had a great weekend…

As always…

Stay awesome.

– Rego

Improve Your Lifestyle. Improve Yourself. This is Life. This is Rego’s Life.™

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