Musings Episode 72: Grow up…

Grow up.

…is something I heard once a few years back when getting into a fight. I’m not talking a verbal fight – no, I’m talking hand-to-hand, fist-to-fist fight.

Ironically, this was from the instigator.

I was hitting the heavy bag pretty hard the other day, when this thought came to mind. You know how it is, you’re going and going in your workout, and sometimes, whether you like it or not, you shift focus and your mind wanders.

It’s interesting how people “define” what growing up really is.

In that case, it was because of my attempt to avoid the fight entirely, that had made them say it.

Ever seen someone dance around a ring to avoid exchanging blows? That was me.

To be quite honest – that’s always been me. Wanna know what I mean? Read on…

Musings Episode 72: Grow up…

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I’m not a very confrontational person – frankly, I deem it too draining. If I can solve something with words, I will as much as possible. It seems much better than to duke it out like so many guys seem to want to do.

And really that’s the number one rule in any combat sport – dissipating a confrontational situation as quickly as possible without any physical action unless absolutely required.

To me, that’s maturity. That’s growing up. That’s being “grown up.”

Anyone can force an opinion, or a situation on someone through violence, with enough of said violence…it’s called fascism.

But to connect with someone and get them to see your opinion, or engage with you in something through use of simple words (from the heart), logic, and reasoning? That’s skill. That’s talent. That’s confidence in your own ability.

Brute force, in my opinion, is somewhat of a special reserve. Your rarely use it, if ever.

Like a bottle whiskey you set aside for only certain occasions. Sweet wines, or “aperitifs” are something you have often with dessert after dinner. 30 year old Macallan? Save that for another day.

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Not openin’ this shit up for another 50 years.

But brute force, can be really, really, immature and neanderthal-ish.

Growing up is about using your head – and often, your heart. The last one is a bit tricky though, as sometimes people can exploit your vulnerabilities, thus taking advantage of your trust.

Yet ironically, as people get older they forget that’s the mold that keeps “humanity” a real word to begin with.

Generally looking at society, you may think that most kids, when they grow up, grow out of imagination and boldness – true, from an artistic point of view.

But if you take that a step further, I’d say many people don’t really grow up as quickly as they grow old…

…and in growing old, if not careful you can grow out of the basics that you came into this world with.

Compassion.
Empathy.
Understanding.
Love – love for mankind – not romantic love.

Anyone remember the golden rule? Do unto your brother as you’d want done unto you? Basic, loose translation of what I remember.

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If everyone, and I do mean everyone, kept that at the forefront of their mind everyday, societies would be far more than just “polite” or “nice” – but downright genuine.

Because really, that’s where maturity is at.

People grow older, but childish tendencies remain – the textbook bully, the over-competitive spirit, the innocent fabler.

Those are all easy things to never grow out of.

But that’s not what growing up is about.

It’s about preserving what’s constructive and eliminating what’s not.

It’s about remembering the type of person you want to be and the kind of mark you want to leave on the world.

This kind of thinking doesn’t make you a hippie, or a peace activist – it just keeps in focus for you what’s important – the golden rule…

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…whether you realize it or not, that golden rule holds the literal weight it figuratively exemplifies.

It’s one of the most mature things to ever be said, while at the same time can be understood by what so many adults classify as the simplest, most “immature” people – children.

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Because in a child’s mind, this is all that it says:

Don’t hurt people if you don’t want to get hurt.

Be kind if you want to be treated kindly.

Trust if you want to be trusted.

Love if you want to be loved.

Maintain your positive qualities, if you want positivity to come your way.

That’s growing up.

That’s being mature.

It’s easy to grow old – it’s a testament to strength to grow up.

Hope everyone had an awesome weekend.

As always…

Stay awesome.

– Rego

Improve Your Lifestyle. Improve Yourself. This is Life. This is Rego’s Life.™

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Just a little mid-week inspiration. 😉

As always…

Stay awesome.

– Rego

Improve Your Lifestyle. Improve Yourself. This is Life. This is Rego’s Life.™

Musings Episode 71: Fearless…

First off – really hope you guys have been doing alright – thanks for the emails asking where I’ve been – makes me feel appreciated just as much as I appreciate you. 😉

I must admit, lately, there have been some inner demons I’ve been wrestling with.

Sorry about that.

Well, not really – if I hadn’t, I’d probably have stopped writing altogether – now that would be something to apologize for.

Right, back to demons – it’s a bit of an interesting discovery…ready? Start.

Musings Episode 71: Fearless…

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So demons – we all have them. This month has been a trying one – been having to take my own advice on a handful of things, and I’ve gotta say, it’s been a delicate balancing act.

There’s a time you reach in various stages of your life when sometimes you just feel overwhelmed – not from the amount of things you’ve got going on, but just a collective series of events that have happened.

There was a time when I used to think that “nothing just happens” – frankly, these days I’d say that’s a load of shit – at least the way I used to think of it.

Things happen, but there’s always a root from where those things originate.

It’s not about things “just” happening, but why they happened and how they got the momentum to happen in the first place – how they got the chance.

Zoom in on that last word – chance.

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You take chances, and give chances. Give something a “chance” to happen, and you can help or hinder yourself – all depending on the circumstances.

Let me be straight with you – there will be times, no matter how perfectly you plan, that you’ll run into obstacles.

The question is how you handle those “obstacles” or more accurately, situations.

This is where the essence of life lies –

10% of life consists of what’s happening.

90% consists of how you handle it.

It’s such a simple formula every once in a while you’ve gotta bring it back to memory again and again.

You’ve gotta develop a sort of fearlessness within yourself to take whatever’s thrown at you with a cool head.

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Mind you, it’s no easy feat.

Christ, it’s no easy feat no matter how much you study the social sciences, psychology, train yourself on optimism, or any of that jazz.

But once you get it – once you understand how to acquire your own version of fearlessness, where you can take whatever life throws at you – guess what?

Suddenly the things that are thrown at you, stop being thrown.

Or don’t feel like they’re being thrown at you at all.

Suddenly, they’re no longer crises, or headaches…no longer are they challenges or obstacles.

You no longer look at them as road blocks.

You develop a sort of filtration system, where after a while you just understand it’s something you must find a solution to – and start equating these “crises” to simple math problems. Or is it chemistry? Let’s say, both.

It’s just about finding the right formula.

Keeping a cool head.

That’s the fearlessness you can eventually build.

It can’t be taught directly – it’s just something you’ve gotta keep in mind while taking in all the important components.

Not even I can teach it to you – but I can give you some pretty damn good tools to use during your journey.

The key thing to understand is this – fearlessness, starts from within. Just like happiness.

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If you look for it externally, you will never find it.

The basis of these two things is peace of mind. Somehow, they all seem to fall into place at different times, sometimes lose their way, but overall find their place back with each other.

Don’t sweat it. You are your biggest critic – so just take the spotlight off your faults for a bit, and remember – life isn’t meant to be lived worrying.

Life’s meant to be lived enjoying.

Look out for Make it Mondays today over on the Official Site. Until then…

As always…

Stay awesome.

– Rego

Improve Your Lifestyle. Improve Yourself. This is Life. This is Rego’s Life.™

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