So this morning I got up an hour early because of my wrist watch and completely forgot it’s daylight savings time.
Instead of going back to bed, I decide to head out to the den and watch a movie – sorting through the stack I come across both a childhood and present day favorite – Big (1988). Oh man. It’s been ages.
There’s one in particular scene towards the end of the film that really grabs my attention. Right when Josh is just getting accustomed to being an adult and Billy storms into his office:
Josh: Will you please leave? I got a deadline to meet. Gosh.
Billy: Who the fuck do you think you are ?
Billy: You’re Josh Baskin, remember? You broke your arm on my roof! You hid in MY basement when Robert Dyson was about to rip your head off!
Josh: You don’t get it, do you? This is important!
Billy: I’m your best friend. What’s more important than that, huh?
[Turns to leave]
Billy: And I’m three months older than you are, ASSHOLE!
If any of you remember this scene, you can understand why Billy was angry. Not so much at Josh’s actions, but what he started to become. He lost touch – took his eye off the ball.
In becoming an adult, Josh was also losing sight of what life is really all about. Really, when you think about it – this happens to a lot of people as they get older.
There’s nothing wrong with responsibility – absolutely not…but with that responsibility, sometimes you can forget about the other part of life – the stress free, have a laugh part of life.
I remember when I used to work in the Forex industry doing currency exchange – the team I was on knew how to party, but at the same time they could be some real cut throat bastards – you really come to know a man when you get some alcohol in ’em.
Anyway – there was this one guy, who was practically like a brother from another mother – and pretty much the one person in the group who made the most sense when he talked, inebriated or not. If there was one piece of advice and wisdom he gave me that outweighed everything else he ever said, it was this:
Listen Rego – this business can make you crazy – the pressure, the timing, the politics, the stakes. This group, this team you’re on can make you crazy, too – they’re one group of shit talking bastards. But at the end of the day, for you and you only, you have to do one thing – the minute you step foot outside the office, the minute you make it home and close your front door:
This company, these guys, this market, doesn’t exist. The minute you’re home – the only thing that exists is the life you’re living, outside of this job – outside of making money. Don’t ever speak of work if you’re not in the building. Ever – separate work from home like it’s religion from politics.
This has stuck with me ever since I heard it more than 5 years ago, and it’s something I’ll never forget.
What happens is, people get so caught up in their job, in their work, and not in a good way. If you have a business that you love, sure, that’s positive. But the minute your work starts to consume your life, your time, in a negative way, to the point you lose sight of the meaning in your life – it’s time you stop yourself, and re-evaluate. If you haven’t already, go ahead and subscribe here now, or at the bottom of this page to my official site, for a free download on how to improve your lifestyle.
What is Rego’s Life all about? Success. Freedom. Lifestyle. Fun. Travel. Fun. Laser focus. FUN. Adjusting your thinking. Getting to know yourself. Getting to know your desires. Never losing sight. Never getting caught up in the rat race. Realizing, and acknowledging what matters. Making it count.
This is why Billy got pissed at Josh – he forgot about life – and who and what mattered.
Life’s just one big playground.
I’m a big kid at heart. If you met me in the street however – hell who knows what you’d think. Some people call me serious. Some people call me chill. I’ve even been called “suave” a handful of times (not to toot my own horn, of course). Then others call me funny – others borderline narcissistic…and you know that’s okay – I’m fine with that. But really, I’m just one big kid at heart.
If you ever visited my place, in one room you’d see office stuff, some free weights, etc, etc. Then in another you’d see video games, snowboards/skateboards, marshmallow guns, footballs (Man Utd for the win), board games, etc, etc.
Life’s just one big playground…and a lot of times, people forget that the minute they grow up.
In my opinion, growing up isn’t just about age – fuck that. Growing up is based on life experiences, and how you choose to mold yourself after encountering said experiences. Me? I’ve learned to be selectively mature – selectively grown up.
I’ll be completely serious and mature about business, money, relationships, and responsibilities – but catch me outside of that setting and you’ll discover a completely different person – from taking extravagant trips abroad, to playing frisbee in a park, loyalty to friends and being reasonable and opinionated – I’ve come to learn life is all about doing what makes you happy – what makes life worth living.
That’s how you make your stamp on the world. Remembering the things that matter. Really thinking about your actions. Laser like focus.
I understand completely this can vary from person to person, but the main thing here to understand is this – life isn’t about bills. It isn’t about climbing the corporate ladder. It’s not about getting that company car, or that corner office overlooking the lake. It’s about discovering yourself, discovering what makes you happy, and at the same time still holding onto and remembering that childhood optimism and fearlessness that is slowly extracted from us the more we conform to societal norms.
So here’s where I ask you the big three:
What is life about, to you?
What do you want out of life?
What makes life worth living?
Comment and share below…
…and of course, as always….
Musings Episode 32: Because Really, Life’s Just One Big Playground… is a post from Rego’s Life
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What is life about, to you? Personally speaking of course, life is about finding my place — my path, if you will — and though to me there is no preset destiny, I do believe we each have a role to play with choices and consequences and sometimes those choices are not for our benefit but rather for another who may remain unseen/unheard throughout our entire lives. This path I speak of is how we enter each day and how we choose to determine what we will do, say, wear, think and dream. We carve out for ourselves a road map and sometimes we stray off the beaten path and/or detour from our objective because quite frankly, there is no real GPS for our lives anyhow. What I do today will surely alter something tomorrow or a year from now. It’s mindboggling to me when I consider how inconsequential some of my choices are right this moment as compared to what they will determine for me and others down the road — aka the “path”. Sometimes however, we walk this path alone and sometimes, we find someone to walk alongside us and through a united experience, we somehow effortlessly alter the course of our individual lives for the sake of another.
What do you want out of life? I want happiness. Contentment from what I have earned and of those I have respectfully chose to call my friends, my lovers and my family. I want to know at the end of it all that it was worth the journey in that I accomplished at least one thing that I could be grateful for. Though it might be something most will never come to know or understand, it remains a fact at least in my mind that I did that. I made that. I fixed that. I completed the task at hand and made at least a difference in the lives of those I valued most while I was here. I also want to know the feeling of love and share that powerful emotion with the right person.
What makes life worth living? For me there is but one thing that makes it all worthwhile. Me. My world is my world. I dwell there and create it as I see fit. I welcome others to visit and live there too. But in the end, I make it worth remaining there. I make the choice to let others in or shutting them out. I alone make it all worthwhile and with a smile, an idea, a dream, somehow I open the doorway to the rest of the society at large to take a glimpse into the private domain I crafted. Who knows what wonders await there. I’m still living and creating my world.
This is a good read, thanks a lot for the feedback – you really knocked each question out of the ballpark :). Your answer about happiness on the second question really hit home with me, too – I wrote another post, Musings Episode 18: Appreciation along those lines. I’d love to hear your feedback on that.
It’s my understanding you have a clear grasp on what life is all about – and the fact that you focus on it being worth living because of yourself, clearly shows you’ve found out that the beginning of each experience (no matter how little) in your life starts with you, and only you. Only from there can we as humans have an impact on others and mesh with them in other experiences.
Thanks for the follow. It’s always nice to know someone who’s of like mind is reading. 😉
I will definitely take a look tonight at your other posting(s) here. I’m always interested in what life has to teach us as well as how other people deal with their experiences that is befitting of the chance to mentor or guide another person even if via blogging. 🙂 Thanks!
No problem 🙂 if you’re interested, I have a free ebook on my site that helps you alter your thinking positively and open your mind – feel free to download it at RegosLife.eu (my official site, this blog is my personal one). I read it myself a few years ago and it’s really life changing.
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