I’m hoping everyone’s having a good week. There have been a few thoughts bouncing around my head after last week’s episodic musing, one being standards. Let’s get started.
Musings Episode 76: Standards…
When I say standards I don’t want you to limit yourself to just thinking of setting standards in relationships.
Over the years I’ve realised there are imbalances that people build within themselves.
Someone will become really book smart, top of the class, but totally forego their health.
Another will push hard in the gym, going off bro science, but not really learn the real science behind it – diet, beyond-superficial strength, CNS health.
Some will push for financial success, but let their standards for their social circle drop – stepping on people’s toes, rubbing shoulders with ruthless (not shrewd) business associates, sacrificing having a quality social circle, all for the sake of adding digits to their bank account.
Others will dive into romantic relationships, abandoning friendships that have lasted for years – while others still will blindly follow their friends’ advice religiously without checking to see if their social circle is toxic.
One way or another, people have a tendency to fully dive into one thing, setting a standard for that specific area in their lives or themselves, while forgetting to maintain other aspects of said lives and selves.
I understand that one should mostly play to their strengths, what they’ve been gradually mastering – it’s what moves a person forward quickly; but sometimes, it’s good to keep your weaknesses in check as well.
It’s even better to be a well-rounded person.
Life is a funny thing – it’ll teach you your weaknesses through experiences.
And sometimes those weaknesses will rear their ugly head when an experience feels like it’s busted right through your strengths.
It’s these moments, these times when you push through that are a testament to strength.
But in order to be strong all-around, you’ve got to set standards – in MORE than one area.
You’ve got to face your weaknesses too – otherwise your standards will inevitably be lower in those areas.
Think about it – you’re fantastic at being book smart, and that’s fine – that might get you that dream job you’ve always wanted…but you’re terrible at being street smart. You may suck at negotiating for instance, or recognising when that dream job is only paying you about 60% of your value.
And screw the “I’m not in it for the money” – no, you may not be, but you do deserve what you’re worth.
Because if you think like that – right there – you’ve already set lower standards for your value – even though you pushed in college/university to max out that value.
Contradictory and stupid, right?
Let’s try another one.
Money can’t teach you that – being a whiz kid at math can’t teach you that. The only thing that can teach you that, is if you teach yourself to set a standard.
The only way you develop a standard, is to get out there and date – find out what you like in a person.
And don’t look for the money to make you likeable either – again, that’s lowering your standard.
Keep things simple, not flashy.
Because if you didn’t have the money, would your personality be a likeable one? If you can’t answer that, then you also might need to raise your standard when it comes to your personality.
You want to think about keeping your standards high with ALL aspects of your life.
Health and fitness – what you feed your body, your mind muscle connection.
Finances – what you’re willing to do for money, whether you’re willing to sacrifice that which can’t be bought.
Relationships – the way you think you ought to be treated by someone, how much your friends have your back (in a constructive way)
Everything in your life should have a standard.
Sacrifices? Screw sacrifices – they’re just another coping mechanism created by mankind to say you can have this but not without giving up that.
Life isn’t about sacrifices.
And balance is about standards.
Keep your standards up, and things become easier to balance – because you’re not constantly juggling the idea of “what important thing do I have to cancel out today to get this other important thing?”
Set your standards.
Prioritise, not eliminate.
And watch things balance out.
Improve Your Lifestyle. Improve Yourself. This is Life. This is Rego’s Life.™