Musings Episode 68: Recognise Your Value…

Last week was pretty interesting. I’d met up with an old friend and we talked about various subjects – one that lingered on my mind was the discussion of insecurity.

I thought about it for a bit, reflecting on all the experiences I’d had with people encountered who had insecure tendencies. We’ve all got them, at some point – just different degrees. Even the most profound narcissist has a weak spot.

Really when you think a bit deeper on it, insecurity mostly stems from fears or uncertainty – past experiences, people, patterns, thought processes. If not taken care of, nipped in the bud, it can grow, like a virus.

It can lead to a lot of unfortunate habits, such as nervousness. A feeling of uneasiness with a setting, person, or people.

If not taken care of, it can really screw up someone’s life. Wanna know what I mean? Read on…

Musings Episode 68: Recognise Your Value…

I’ve dealt with insecure people in the past – friends, family, lovers, relationships. Quite a delicate matter – it’s not something you can be insensitive about, nor is it something you can “fix” for the other party. It’s a fine line to walk when you make the decision to either associate with someone who openly lets you know about it, or whom you try and help through it.

Because really, it boils down to them – they, and only they, have the power to restore their self-confidence – assuredness, certainty.

I’d say the biggest thing insecurity comes from is not recognising one’s own value.

This is probably one of the most important steps in life, in regards to becoming your own person, knowing what you want, knowing how you want your life to go, to be.

You’ve gotta establish some type of grading system for yourself – what you will and what you won’t accept from life, from people, from everything. You have to set your value through understanding your tolerance levels, what makes you feel good and what doesn’t – and whether or not you’re willing to take the necessary steps to eliminate the latter when need be. This is inclusive of everything – social life, fitness level, diet, habits – everything.

Really, life is just a string of moments – insecurity somehow stems from a string of unfortunate ones. So you’ve gotta take the time to pick carefully the things that make you happy – the things that are HEALTHY for you.

Come to know what you find is healthy and beneficial for you, and you’ll come to understand your value. You’ll set the drawing line. You’ll eliminate unnecessary ties – you’ll establish, and maintain your power.

Now when I say power, I don’t mean who has the upper-hand – no, don’t think of it like that. I mean power in the sense that, while maintaining your value, you also command and maintain a certain level of respect from people, for yourself.

There are a lot of people you encounter in your lifetime – but there are three main categories that all people you encounter can be classified in – people that are there for you during certain times, help you/enhance you through certain times, and put you in unfortunate times.

Command and maintain the level of respect you desire, and you’ll maintain power to choose who you WANT in your life, and who you need to cut OUT, of your life.

It’s very simple.