First off – really hope you guys have been doing alright – thanks for the emails asking where I’ve been – makes me feel appreciated just as much as I appreciate you. 😉
I must admit, lately, there have been some inner demons I’ve been wrestling with.
Sorry about that.
Well, not really – if I hadn’t, I’d probably have stopped writing altogether – now that would be something to apologize for.
Right, back to demons – it’s a bit of an interesting discovery…ready? Start.
Musings Episode 71: Fearless…
So demons – we all have them. This month has been a trying one – been having to take my own advice on a handful of things, and I’ve gotta say, it’s been a delicate balancing act.
There’s a time you reach in various stages of your life when sometimes you just feel overwhelmed – not from the amount of things you’ve got going on, but just a collective series of events that have happened.
There was a time when I used to think that “nothing just happens” – frankly, these days I’d say that’s a load of shit – at least the way I used to think of it.
Things happen, but there’s always a root from where those things originate.
It’s not about things “just” happening, but why they happened and how they got the momentum to happen in the first place – how they got the chance.
Zoom in on that last word – chance.
You take chances, and give chances. Give something a “chance” to happen, and you can help or hinder yourself – all depending on the circumstances.
Let me be straight with you – there will be times, no matter how perfectly you plan, that you’ll run into obstacles.
The question is how you handle those “obstacles” or more accurately, situations.
This is where the essence of life lies –
10% of life consists of what’s happening.
90% consists of how you handle it.
It’s such a simple formula every once in a while you’ve gotta bring it back to memory again and again.
You’ve gotta develop a sort of fearlessness within yourself to take whatever’s thrown at you with a cool head.
Mind you, it’s no easy feat.
Christ, it’s no easy feat no matter how much you study the social sciences, psychology, train yourself on optimism, or any of that jazz.
But once you get it – once you understand how to acquire your own version of fearlessness, where you can take whatever life throws at you – guess what?
Suddenly the things that are thrown at you, stop being thrown.
Or don’t feel like they’re being thrown at you at all.
Suddenly, they’re no longer crises, or headaches…no longer are they challenges or obstacles.
You no longer look at them as road blocks.
You develop a sort of filtration system, where after a while you just understand it’s something you must find a solution to – and start equating these “crises” to simple math problems. Or is it chemistry? Let’s say, both.
It’s just about finding the right formula.
Keeping a cool head.
That’s the fearlessness you can eventually build.
It can’t be taught directly – it’s just something you’ve gotta keep in mind while taking in all the important components.
Not even I can teach it to you – but I can give you some pretty damn good tools to use during your journey.
The key thing to understand is this – fearlessness, starts from within. Just like happiness.
If you look for it externally, you will never find it.
The basis of these two things is peace of mind. Somehow, they all seem to fall into place at different times, sometimes lose their way, but overall find their place back with each other.
Don’t sweat it. You are your biggest critic – so just take the spotlight off your faults for a bit, and remember – life isn’t meant to be lived worrying.
Life’s meant to be lived enjoying.
Look out for Make it Mondays today over on the Official Site. Until then…
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