Musings Episode 85: Ego…

Hope everyone’s had a great weekend.

Let’s just get right to it.

Musings Episode 85: Ego…

You’ll remember last week’s post where I talked about running in place, the two different sources of dissatisfaction, and a few other things.

You’ll also probably remember what I talked about the week before last, about guts over fear, and if you really want to do something, to just do it.

I think both of those topics have to do with concrete things.

But there’s something else that ties in with what people do in every day life, why they do it and how.

Come to think of it – it also ties in with what people don’t do in every day life, and why they don’t do it as well.

Ego.

There’s two key players in our brains – logic and creativity.

Some may argue that the two are separate, because they’re opposites. Logic is left brained while creativity dominates the right. The same could be said about emotion.

True, but while emotion and creativity are different from logic, they still support each other in certain functions.

Logic allows us to execute a systematic and structured plan of action to carry out our creative thoughts.

Picking up the paint brush, holding it a certain way, mixing certain colours, dry time of the canvas, layering, etc, etc. The same goes for photography.

Logic can also allow us to step away from an emotional situation and take an objective look at why that emotion is being felt in that situation.

Creativity can allow us to create something useful, something functional, with aesthetic appeal, or a “fun” element to it.

Emotion allows us to put the human back into humanity when logic fails to acknowledge when emotion is needed to maintain rationality, and vice versa.

So if logic and emotion, or logic and creativity can be interdependent on each other, lend to each other, and at the same time can be considered vastly different qualities that can be separated from each other, why then, don’t people apply this to a fundamental part of their lives – their careers?

What about their relationshipsPersonal development?

I could go on, but the point I’m trying to make here is, in today’s society it’s important to remember that you’re not what you do.

You’re not your job.

You’re not your job title.

You’re not your role in your relationship.

You’re not the car you buy.

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You’re you.

While it’s great to have all that, remember who and what you are, without all of it.

You’re this living, breathing organism, that like a Final Fantasy (RPG) game character just keeps leveling up – maybe getting a new weapon here, or some new armour there, or some new skills here, or better health there, or new party members here, and so on and so on.

You gain the weapons and the armor from money earned at each battle, but you gain the better health, skills, and other things from experience points.

You’re a living being that (hopefully) progressively changes as you gain experience with new, different, experiences, constantly getting to know yourself better.

Experiences and situations are accessories that you choose to take on or confront in your life.

So why not separate yourself from all that other stuff – the job, the car, the house, the relationship?

Ego.

Ego is a very abstract thing. Logically you can’t define it, it’s pretty difficult to pin down.

Fuck what religion, or spirituality, or all of that stuff says.

I think those types of things can still taint or manipulate the message of what ego really is for their own benefit, which I’ll explain towards the end of this.

I’m not saying I have a perfect definition for it either, but I will say this: people today, not that they haven’t been before, but even more so today, with the advancements of technology, and the comfort of convenience, which has ultimately lead to a false perception of self-reliance, are running wild with their egos.

Your ego tells you you are your job.

Your job title.

Your ego tells you you are the only person in the household who gets things done.

Your ego tells you you are lower, middle, upper, and elite class.

Hell, society tells you you’re all that too.

Society tells you if you drive this car you’re this. If you wear this, you’re that. If you live in this neigbourhood, you’re this.

Society also has a tendency to try and dictate to you what you aren’t, as well.

It goes both ways, too.

While people who identify themselves as rich may assume someone who doesn’t drive a Bentley isn’t financially savvy or educated, people who identify as poor may look at someone who’s educated or well off as being “soft,” never having experienced hardship.

Society itself, is a collection of egos, communicating to other egos – your ego.

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Attempting to tell you what you should have, what you shouldn’t, what you do deserve, what you don’t, what you have done, what you haven’t, what you have been through, what you haven’t, what you should be watching, doing, saying, BEING.

The most popular stuff is shoved in front of your face everyday on Facebook, Netflix, Instagram, cable TV, Twitter, the news, shop windows, magazines, movies, on and on and on and on…

But if you strip all the “accessories” away, what are you?

Who are you?

Do you really know what you like?

What you want?

What you want to do?

What you’ve done?

Without anybody telling you, have you made these decisions yourself?

I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again.

What you do, is not who you are. What you’ve done is simply a history, a timeline, of how far you’ve realised your own potential and pushed your own limits.

Mediocrity never was, and never should be an intended destiny for a species as intelligent as the human race.

Your only competition is the version of yourself you were yesterday – so don’t let others measure you with their own limiting beliefs – know your worth.

We have free will. Free will to do or to not do something. Free will to cooperate with each other.

People’s egos run wild when they try to do this to other people.

Telling them WHAT they are, rather than asking.

Telling them WHERE they should be, rather than letting them just…be.

Acting like they’re helping someone, only to gain mileage for themselves later.

Trying to hold someone back when they see them positively progressing forward, because they’re not happy with their own progress.

That’s ego.

I’m not this blog.

Not the places I’ve been.

Not the work I’ve done.

Nor the entreprenurial pursuits.

Not the photos I’ve taken.

Not the people I’ve dated.

Nor the friends I have.

I’ve enjoyed all those things and still do – but they’re great additions to my life – they’re not me.

I’m a living, breathing, organism, who’s amassed knowledge, feelings, experience, and an understanding of myself from things I’ve chosen to turn my attention to.

I’m just one big makeup of energy, choosing to expend myself on whatever I feel is right on a day-to-day basis, and recharging at night.

The same way I don’t let just anybody drive my car, I don’t let just anything drain my energy – or time.

I prefer to expend energy into things that’ll exchange that same positive energy.

But this is the important part.

I’m not talking about this bullshit, “you are what you think about most, always go around being nice to people” stuff.

Because this is what most people leave out:

There are a shit ton of people out there who can “act” nice to each other.

It doesn’t mean they’re genuine.

It doesn’t mean they want to see you do good – or even better than them, for that matter.

Will said something very interesting along the lines of this a while ago, have a listen:

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But what people have to realise is, no one is doing better than anyone else.

You’re just doing you. If you weren’t in their life, what would they have to measure themselves with? Someone else? What if no one was in their life?

You can’t possibly be “doing better” than anyone else, if everyone has their own personal goals and milestones.

So what do you care if you help someone out when they’re earnestly looking to become a better version of themselves?

You’re not what you do, but you’re not alone.

Cooperation is vital to human survival. Cooperation is just an exchange of good energies.

So check your ego at the door.

Have a sense of who you are at your core.

Don’t be a dick.

Be cordial (be nice).

Be genuine.

Lift up the people you call your friends, family, lovers, and others who are looking to do a little good in the world.

Look for others who do the same.

And don’t fuck with people who do any of the negative stuff you just read about.

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As always…

Stay Awesome.

– Rego

Improve Your Lifestyle. Improve Yourself. This is Life. This is Rego’s Life.™

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“It takes guts to realize…

Musings: Quote Wednesdays…

Just a little mid-week inspiration.

While I mentioned in this week’s episodic musing about just going for it, you’ve also got to realize if along the road you make a mistake, it’s smart to improvise if it’s the right or practical thing to do.

Don’t let your ego get the best of you and be stubborn. If you’re working towards something, you won’t do everything perfectly. Admit the mistake, suck it up, and move on.

You only fail if you don’t learn lessons from your mistakes.

Hope everyone’s having a great week.

As always…

Stay awesome.

– Rego

Improve Your Lifestyle. Improve Yourself. This is Life. This is Rego’s Life.™

Musings Episode 83: Guts Over Fear…

Well, happy new year (…add exclamation mark here).

I’ve been away for a while working on some things but I’m hoping everyone had a good Christmas and their new year was off to more than a good start.

I also hope everyone didn’t make any new year’s resolutions.

Why?

Good question…

Musings Episode 83: Guts Over Fear…

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For the past few weeks now while picking up my daily necessities, I’ve had to endure the cringiness of various store marketing ads blaring over their speakers talk of new year’s resolutions and “getting fit” – while eloquently lacing in why you need that new yoga mat.

New Year’s resolutions are really just excuses to not actually apply yourself to anything.

They’re the unsaid safety net of “new year, new you” and if you don’t get it done then hey, that’s okay champ, at least you tried. Maybe next year, eh?

Not.

If you’re going to do something in life…just fucking do it.

You guys have been reading my blog for quite some time now.

You get the general trend of what I sound off on.

Dreams only come true if they’re goals with a deadline. Mediocrity shouldn’t be the intended destiny for the human race. If you’re going to live a little do it up big and enjoy.

I’ve been beating the same drum for a while now, with no intention to stop – because it needs to be said.

The victim mentality, like a subtle, slow bacteria sometimes feels like it’s spreading across society, with so many ridiculous contradictions.

You “can’t make time out of your daily work life to do something for yourself that’ll help you grow as a person because you’re always so busy”?

That’s okay, you’re working hard to build someone else’s dream – it’s totally cool, I get it.

Keep binge watching that Netflix after work.

It’ll take the edge off.

I’m not saying that relaxing is a bad thing – but they say these days, your average person spends 4 hours looking at screens – that’s *outside* of work.

That’s a lot of screen time. Half a workday to be precise. You could do a lot with that time. So why aren’t you?

Look, everyone, and I do mean everyone, has at some point in their life had a dream. Most have also encountered an obstacle.

The biggest obstacle I find people wrestle with is fear. The fear of starting. The fear of starting only to fail. The fear of starting, succeeding, and then having things crumble.

I’m not faultless – this includes me.

But like a fear of a big, scary new workout plan (or big, scary new place you’re moving to), ultimately it’s a fear that it’d be better to deal with than shove under the rug.

Do what you fear – don’t fear what you do.

You’ve gotta have guts over fear. Ever seen the music video of Eminem‘s song “Guts Over Fear”?

I’m not a huge fan of his music, but that music video is a perfect depiction of guts over fear.

I know when it comes to starting anything new there’s the headache and questions of “How am I going to get it done? When am I going to get it done? Can I GET it done?”

But nothing will ever get done if you don’t apply yourself to it – and applying yourself isn’t enough.

Once the motivation is gone, that’s when you have to keep pushing through.

It’s fairly ironic how some people don’t grasp this concept.

They’ll start a new job (motivation), work that job, some days dislike that job (motivation lost), then keep going to that job even when they’re no longer motivated.

…but then won’t maintain that same course of tenacity when it comes to enhancing something they want to do for themselves that’ll help them grow outside of that exact same job.

“But I need MONEY!”

Bro – I know.

But you’ve gotta flex that muscle.

I’m not just preaching here – I apply my own sermon.

As someone who at one point in life was holding down 3 jobs, hitting the gym, and growing as an entrepreneur – I. KNOW.

It can be scary as fuck sometimes.

Sometimes you’ll be happy.

Sometimes you’ll be mad.

But you’ve gotta hold it down and just keep going.

This is for the dreamers that dream while they’re awake rather than asleep.

If you haven’t started, start.

If you’ve started, don’t stop.

If you’ve reached where you want to be and want to innovate more, stay your course and go for it.

All the way, guts over fear – but just fucking do it.

Since I’ve been into discovering new music a lot lately, here’s one song that’s appropriate for this post by Neffex – enjoy.

As always…

Stay awesome.

– Rego

Improve Your Lifestyle. Improve Yourself. This is Life. This is Rego’s Life.™

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Musings Episode 78: Drive…

Hope everyone’s having a great week. I know, I know, I missed For The Weekenders last week. I’ve got my reasons…but I can guarantee the next one won’t disappoint.

Alright so back to the topic at hand – this week’s episodic musing. A lot of people talk about discipline, and I have too in the past, but one thing I think that should be combined with discipline is drive. Why? Let’s get started.

Musings Episode 78: Drive…

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So drive and discipline, how are they linked?

Discipline can be considered developing a habit of doing something over time, so much that you do it whether you feel like it or not.

It’s like making something so much a part of your life that it feels like the requirement of eating or sleeping – it becomes essential and necessary.

But what about drive? Well I’d say drive is what makes that discipline actually pay off.

Think about it. You can have discipline in doing something, but that doesn’t mean you have drive to push you in whatever it is you’ve disciplined yourself to do.

In other words, you may have discipline, but may not be necessarily pushing yourself to your max in whatever it is you’re doing.

You may not be doing things as good as you could be doing them.

So going back to the food analogy it’s a bit like you may have the discipline to eat on time, three meals a day, but you may lack the drive to eat properly, with foods that fuel your body and are good for your overall health.

You could be disciplined to workout everyday but not have the drive to really push yourself beyond your limits in each workout.

Or you could be disciplined to take out 10 minutes a day to learn a language, but may just be repeating the words like a parrot rather than putting together a comprehensive and progressive study programme so you can actually become conversational in a certain amount of time.

So discipline is what can make your prepared and set you up for seeing results, but drive is ultimately what determines the quality of the results you’ll get in the end of what you’re trying to accomplish short or long-term.

Drive is also what can keep your standards high.

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While discipline is the furnace, drive is the logs you keep feeding it so you can produce a high quality heat.

Imagine if you just put sticks and branches into the furnace – you’re not really going to get any significant heat, now are you?

The same goes for life. Whether it’s a workout, a university degree, a career, a language, hell, even a video game you’re trying to 100% on, you can set aside and put in the time for it everyday, but what you do during that time will determine the results you have in the future.

You’ve got to constantly be seeking to get out of your comfort zone.

Things don’t really ever get easy – instead you get stronger, smarter, better, faster, etc.

But if you don’t have the drive to do what you’re disciplining yourself to do, you won’t really get any of those results.

Instead you’re more than likely to stagnate. Get comfortable. Develop a non-productive routine (a bit like watching TV – you just veg out).

You don’t want that.

You want that fire in your belly and the flame under your bum.

You want beast mode, where people look into your eyes and see a flame so fierce they look away because they know you’re in the zone.

This may just seem like I’m talking about workouts but believe me, you can apply the same fierceness to all aspects of life.

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I go into beast mode even in writing…with some good lofi hip hop instrumental at times, of course.

So really the key here is to not just do what you’ve disciplined yourself to do, but do it exceedingly well.

Always constructively critique what you’re doing.

Always see where you can make small but significant improvements.

Think of that drive like a steam roller…you want to crush an ineffective laziness in yourself, that tries to get in your way.

Complacency can be laziness.

But I say ineffective laziness because there are two types of lazy:

1. The “do absolutely nothing and make every excuse in the book” lazy.

Or

2. The “find a better, smarter, more efficient way of doing things” lazy.

Through drive and discipline, you can actually harness your laziness to suit your needs and make learning or accomplishing things way easier.

It’s all a matter of perspective.

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Discipline yourself to set aside time for whatever it is you want to accomplish – it’ll never be time wasted.

Drive yourself to do whatever it is you want to accomplish well and with a high standard in mind.

Learn to take steps that are smart, clever, and efficient so you can maintain quality and get the results you want.

Things don’t have to be hard – if you look at them a different way.

It’s all about perspective.

Think about it…

And as always…

Stay awesome.

– Rego

Improve Your Lifestyle. Improve Yourself. This is Life. This is Rego’s Life.™

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Musings Episode 73: Come Back Stronger…

Well…it’s been a while.

The kind of “I’m just going out for cigarettes” while, where you bump into the person 3 years later and have that awkward reunion.

Except, in this situation there’s no child.

Or woman.

Just the fans.

Alright – maybe this won’t be *that* awkward.

So why the long break – well, I needed a break – as in, I needed to rethink the meaning of everything I was doing. These past few years I’ve been reflecting on what’s *missing* from Rego’s Life.

I covered a lot of life subjects before, but somehow, something always felt like it was missing. So I stepped away.

Sometimes when you’re too close to something, you can’t see the answer that’s right in front of you.

I stepped away…to come back stronger. And that’s exactly what I’m going to do.

Musings Episode 73: Come Back Stronger…

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Things will be a bit different.

A bit new.

Sometimes gritty.

The old favorites will still be around – no worries there.

But like anything that matures with age they’ll be better, more seasoned.

Speaking of coming back stronger, that’s actually the topic of this episodic musing.

Most people at some point have some sort of setbacks or hardships they go through in life – in any aspect of life. It could be financial, business, academic, family (or any other type of relationship), but a hardship or challenge nonetheless.

The type that can knock a person off their feet – a K.O. so to speak.

The question when that happens though is “what now?”

What are you going to do about it?

Are you going to lay there on the mat, stuck in between conscious and unconscious, hearing the world go on around you and give up the will to get back up?

Or are you going to come back stronger?

Sometimes people don’t always recover instantly.

Sometimes it takes additional training and a few more fights to come back stronger.

I remember watching the movie “Rocky Balboa” a while back, the 2006 version, where Stallone says (while in character) something to his on-screen son:

“Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard you hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done! Now if you know what you’re worth then go out and get what you’re worth. But ya gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody! Cowards do that and that ain’t you! You’re better than that!”

The one line that really stuck out in my mind was this:

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This is probably the best line I’ve heard in a long time, and it really resonated with me after not having watched the film in a while.

No matter how many times life knocks you down, you’ve gotta keep moving forward.

A lot of people get this confused – it’s not about moving up – as I mentioned in one of my previous episodic musings what goes up must come down – but what moves forward, well that’s an entirely different beast all together.

And like in rugby, or American football, life can dish out a lot of hits at you…but you’ve gotta look at them as lessons.

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This can be a hard concept to wrap your head around, especially when you’re in the thick of it, but by lessons I mean opportunities to fortify yourself for next time, or the next obstacle you might meet.

The same way a rugby player trains so he becomes harder and harder to knock down, is the same way a person can train for the game called life.

And another thing – don’t look for “alright.”

I’m usually not one to talk politics a lot but ever since the whole Brexit and Trump ordeal it seems like xenophobia has exploded in some parts of the world, and I hear some people saying “everything’s gonna be alright” to others.

Well, I’ve got one think to say to that.

Screw that saying.

It’s a crappy way to cope with a situation.

You think during the World Wars that soldiers settled for “alright” every time they laid out a battle plan? You think that “everything’s gonna be alright” speech really settled their hearts and eliminated their fear, when they were out there, being shot at?

During the WW’s they fought for more than “alright” – they fought with the thought of getting back home to a better life – despite the fact politicians were pulling their strings.

They fought because they had hopes for a future that contained more than just “alright.”

They fought in hopes that their offspring wouldn’t have to fight wars if they didn’t choose to, but come back stronger, and better – not go soft and become indifferent to what was happening around them.

And most of all, I’m pretty damn sure they thought that their sacrifices made would be a reminder to future generations to grow wise, and not accept life, or another human being for that matter, to just walk all over them.

They fought for an “everything’s gonna be awesome future”.

Not an “alright” one.

A lot of what makes up this thing called life involves other lives in it…and with the way things have been going, it seems that sadly, those lives seem to think they can intrude on other lives.

But in the words of Epictetus, and to paraphrase him slightly, to attempt to control the will of another person takes tremendous effort, or sacrifice. It goes against he law of nature, dictating someone’s future to them.

So don’t just roll over and let someone dictate your free will.

There’s another great line from Rocky Balboa (2006) I think I should leave you guys with:

Don’t settle for “everything’s going to be alright” – go after how you want things to be – go after “everything’s going to be GREAT. FANTASTIC. AWESOME. AMAZING. SPECTACULAR….or insert any other more than satisfactory adjective here.

If you're willing to go through all the battling you got to go through to get where you want to get who's got the right to stop you I mean maybe some of you guys got something you never finished something you really want to do something you never said to someone something and you're told no even after you paid your dues who's got the right to tell you that who nobody rocky balboa quotes, rego's life quotes, rocky balboa 2006, come back stronger quotes, rego's life musings episode 73 come back stronger, musings episode 73 come back stronger rego's life, rego's life, sylvester stallone quotes

When you get hit hard in life, don’t just lay there and accept that everything will be alright.

Get off that mat and keep moving forward in the direction YOU want, how YOU want things to go.

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A diamond blade cuts through rock only after being forged under pressure.

Come back stronger.

And as always…

Stay awesome.

– Rego

Improve Your Lifestyle. Improve Yourself. This is Life. This is Rego’s Life.™

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Musings Episode 72: Grow up…

Grow up.

…is something I heard once a few years back when getting into a fight. I’m not talking a verbal fight – no, I’m talking hand-to-hand, fist-to-fist fight.

Ironically, this was from the instigator.

I was hitting the heavy bag pretty hard the other day, when this thought came to mind. You know how it is, you’re going and going in your workout, and sometimes, whether you like it or not, you shift focus and your mind wanders.

It’s interesting how people “define” what growing up really is.

In that case, it was because of my attempt to avoid the fight entirely, that had made them say it.

Ever seen someone dance around a ring to avoid exchanging blows? That was me.

To be quite honest – that’s always been me. Wanna know what I mean? Read on…

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I’m not a very confrontational person – frankly, I deem it too draining. If I can solve something with words, I will as much as possible. It seems much better than to duke it out like so many guys seem to want to do.

And really that’s the number one rule in any combat sport – dissipating a confrontational situation as quickly as possible without any physical action unless absolutely required.

To me, that’s maturity. That’s growing up. That’s being “grown up.”

Anyone can force an opinion, or a situation on someone through violence, with enough of said violence…it’s called fascism.

But to connect with someone and get them to see your opinion, or engage with you in something through use of simple words (from the heart), logic, and reasoning? That’s skill. That’s talent. That’s confidence in your own ability.

Brute force, in my opinion, is somewhat of a special reserve. Your rarely use it, if ever.

Like a bottle whiskey you set aside for only certain occasions. Sweet wines, or “aperitifs” are something you have often with dessert after dinner. 30 year old Macallan? Save that for another day.

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Not openin’ this shit up for another 50 years.

But brute force, can be really, really, immature and neanderthal-ish.

Growing up is about using your head – and often, your heart. The last one is a bit tricky though, as sometimes people can exploit your vulnerabilities, thus taking advantage of your trust.

Yet ironically, as people get older they forget that’s the mold that keeps “humanity” a real word to begin with.

Generally looking at society, you may think that most kids, when they grow up, grow out of imagination and boldness – true, from an artistic point of view.

But if you take that a step further, I’d say many people don’t really grow up as quickly as they grow old…

…and in growing old, if not careful you can grow out of the basics that you came into this world with.

Compassion.
Empathy.
Understanding.
Love – love for mankind – not romantic love.

Anyone remember the golden rule? Do unto your brother as you’d want done unto you? Basic, loose translation of what I remember.

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If everyone, and I do mean everyone, kept that at the forefront of their mind everyday, societies would be far more than just “polite” or “nice” – but downright genuine.

Because really, that’s where maturity is at.

People grow older, but childish tendencies remain – the textbook bully, the over-competitive spirit, the innocent fabler.

Those are all easy things to never grow out of.

But that’s not what growing up is about.

It’s about preserving what’s constructive and eliminating what’s not.

It’s about remembering the type of person you want to be and the kind of mark you want to leave on the world.

This kind of thinking doesn’t make you a hippie, or a peace activist – it just keeps in focus for you what’s important – the golden rule…

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…whether you realize it or not, that golden rule holds the literal weight it figuratively exemplifies.

It’s one of the most mature things to ever be said, while at the same time can be understood by what so many adults classify as the simplest, most “immature” people – children.

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Because in a child’s mind, this is all that it says:

Don’t hurt people if you don’t want to get hurt.

Be kind if you want to be treated kindly.

Trust if you want to be trusted.

Love if you want to be loved.

Maintain your positive qualities, if you want positivity to come your way.

That’s growing up.

That’s being mature.

It’s easy to grow old – it’s a testament to strength to grow up.

Hope everyone had an awesome weekend.

As always…

Stay awesome.

– Rego

Improve Your Lifestyle. Improve Yourself. This is Life. This is Rego’s Life.™

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