Musings Episode 85: Ego…

Hope everyone’s had a great weekend.

Let’s just get right to it.

Musings Episode 85: Ego…

You’ll remember last week’s post where I talked about running in place, the two different sources of dissatisfaction, and a few other things.

You’ll also probably remember what I talked about the week before last, about guts over fear, and if you really want to do something, to just do it.

I think both of those topics have to do with concrete things.

But there’s something else that ties in with what people do in every day life, why they do it and how.

Come to think of it – it also ties in with what people don’t do in every day life, and why they don’t do it as well.

Ego.

There’s two key players in our brains – logic and creativity.

Some may argue that the two are separate, because they’re opposites. Logic is left brained while creativity dominates the right. The same could be said about emotion.

True, but while emotion and creativity are different from logic, they still support each other in certain functions.

Logic allows us to execute a systematic and structured plan of action to carry out our creative thoughts.

Picking up the paint brush, holding it a certain way, mixing certain colours, dry time of the canvas, layering, etc, etc. The same goes for photography.

Logic can also allow us to step away from an emotional situation and take an objective look at why that emotion is being felt in that situation.

Creativity can allow us to create something useful, something functional, with aesthetic appeal, or a “fun” element to it.

Emotion allows us to put the human back into humanity when logic fails to acknowledge when emotion is needed to maintain rationality, and vice versa.

So if logic and emotion, or logic and creativity can be interdependent on each other, lend to each other, and at the same time can be considered vastly different qualities that can be separated from each other, why then, don’t people apply this to a fundamental part of their lives – their careers?

What about their relationshipsPersonal development?

I could go on, but the point I’m trying to make here is, in today’s society it’s important to remember that you’re not what you do.

You’re not your job.

You’re not your job title.

You’re not your role in your relationship.

You’re not the car you buy.

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You’re you.

While it’s great to have all that, remember who and what you are, without all of it.

You’re this living, breathing organism, that like a Final Fantasy (RPG) game character just keeps leveling up – maybe getting a new weapon here, or some new armour there, or some new skills here, or better health there, or new party members here, and so on and so on.

You gain the weapons and the armor from money earned at each battle, but you gain the better health, skills, and other things from experience points.

You’re a living being that (hopefully) progressively changes as you gain experience with new, different, experiences, constantly getting to know yourself better.

Experiences and situations are accessories that you choose to take on or confront in your life.

So why not separate yourself from all that other stuff – the job, the car, the house, the relationship?

Ego.

Ego is a very abstract thing. Logically you can’t define it, it’s pretty difficult to pin down.

Fuck what religion, or spirituality, or all of that stuff says.

I think those types of things can still taint or manipulate the message of what ego really is for their own benefit, which I’ll explain towards the end of this.

I’m not saying I have a perfect definition for it either, but I will say this: people today, not that they haven’t been before, but even more so today, with the advancements of technology, and the comfort of convenience, which has ultimately lead to a false perception of self-reliance, are running wild with their egos.

Your ego tells you you are your job.

Your job title.

Your ego tells you you are the only person in the household who gets things done.

Your ego tells you you are lower, middle, upper, and elite class.

Hell, society tells you you’re all that too.

Society tells you if you drive this car you’re this. If you wear this, you’re that. If you live in this neigbourhood, you’re this.

Society also has a tendency to try and dictate to you what you aren’t, as well.

It goes both ways, too.

While people who identify themselves as rich may assume someone who doesn’t drive a Bentley isn’t financially savvy or educated, people who identify as poor may look at someone who’s educated or well off as being “soft,” never having experienced hardship.

Society itself, is a collection of egos, communicating to other egos – your ego.

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Attempting to tell you what you should have, what you shouldn’t, what you do deserve, what you don’t, what you have done, what you haven’t, what you have been through, what you haven’t, what you should be watching, doing, saying, BEING.

The most popular stuff is shoved in front of your face everyday on Facebook, Netflix, Instagram, cable TV, Twitter, the news, shop windows, magazines, movies, on and on and on and on…

But if you strip all the “accessories” away, what are you?

Who are you?

Do you really know what you like?

What you want?

What you want to do?

What you’ve done?

Without anybody telling you, have you made these decisions yourself?

I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again.

What you do, is not who you are. What you’ve done is simply a history, a timeline, of how far you’ve realised your own potential and pushed your own limits.

Mediocrity never was, and never should be an intended destiny for a species as intelligent as the human race.

Your only competition is the version of yourself you were yesterday – so don’t let others measure you with their own limiting beliefs – know your worth.

We have free will. Free will to do or to not do something. Free will to cooperate with each other.

People’s egos run wild when they try to do this to other people.

Telling them WHAT they are, rather than asking.

Telling them WHERE they should be, rather than letting them just…be.

Acting like they’re helping someone, only to gain mileage for themselves later.

Trying to hold someone back when they see them positively progressing forward, because they’re not happy with their own progress.

That’s ego.

I’m not this blog.

Not the places I’ve been.

Not the work I’ve done.

Nor the entreprenurial pursuits.

Not the photos I’ve taken.

Not the people I’ve dated.

Nor the friends I have.

I’ve enjoyed all those things and still do – but they’re great additions to my life – they’re not me.

I’m a living, breathing, organism, who’s amassed knowledge, feelings, experience, and an understanding of myself from things I’ve chosen to turn my attention to.

I’m just one big makeup of energy, choosing to expend myself on whatever I feel is right on a day-to-day basis, and recharging at night.

The same way I don’t let just anybody drive my car, I don’t let just anything drain my energy – or time.

I prefer to expend energy into things that’ll exchange that same positive energy.

But this is the important part.

I’m not talking about this bullshit, “you are what you think about most, always go around being nice to people” stuff.

Because this is what most people leave out:

There are a shit ton of people out there who can “act” nice to each other.

It doesn’t mean they’re genuine.

It doesn’t mean they want to see you do good – or even better than them, for that matter.

Will said something very interesting along the lines of this a while ago, have a listen:

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But what people have to realise is, no one is doing better than anyone else.

You’re just doing you. If you weren’t in their life, what would they have to measure themselves with? Someone else? What if no one was in their life?

You can’t possibly be “doing better” than anyone else, if everyone has their own personal goals and milestones.

So what do you care if you help someone out when they’re earnestly looking to become a better version of themselves?

You’re not what you do, but you’re not alone.

Cooperation is vital to human survival. Cooperation is just an exchange of good energies.

So check your ego at the door.

Have a sense of who you are at your core.

Don’t be a dick.

Be cordial (be nice).

Be genuine.

Lift up the people you call your friends, family, lovers, and others who are looking to do a little good in the world.

Look for others who do the same.

And don’t fuck with people who do any of the negative stuff you just read about.

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As always…

Stay Awesome.

– Rego

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Musings Episode 28: Take The Leap…

So a few weeks ago I touched on hesitation and why it can be detrimental to success…well, once you’re past the hesitation phase – there’s one more thing many people go through but never really discuss.

Procrastination.

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Procrastination doesn’t necessarily mean laziness. It can also stem from fear of failure, and perfectionism. Many people when building their road to success can sometimes hit this wall. It’s often procrastination that leads to many people’s downfalls even if they’ve made it over the hesitation hurdle.

Yet in the end hesitation and procrastination end up with the same result – not getting things done in a timely manner or not getting things done at all. This is what you want to avoid – this is what you want to train yourself to eliminate from virtually every aspect of your life. If you’re serious about success – this should be taken into consideration and avoided just as much as hesitation.

Both leave room for missed opportunities.

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In various aspects of your life, procrastination can tear you down, and bring you right back to square one. The objective is to remove this kind of habit from your mental framework completely.

I’m a perfectionist. Meaning when I do something – I do it well, and do it to the maximum extent of quality possible. Sometimes, when I get overwhelmed with things, mentally I become a little hazy. The easiest way to get over it I’ve found?

Break everything into steps – focus on the big picture, but break everything into steps.

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A book is comprised of a bunch of words, but in the end it’s still the bigger picture – a book.

Remember – it’s about focusing on the end result – not the means to the ends. Focus on that too much and you’ll find yourself lost and out in the cold, wandering (and not in a good way).

I’m not saying dwell on all the little details either. Think of it like this – you get up in the morning. Usually, everyone has their own little routine. Wake up, stretch, make bed, wash face, brush teeth, shower, moisturize, hair, get dressed, etc.

It’s this whole intricate routine you’ve had to learn since childhood, yet you don’t even think about it because you’re on auto pilot almost the entire time….but this whole routine, is still broken into little steps and categories.

Wash face, brush teeth, shower, moisturize – these all take place in the bathroom. Getting dressed, shirts, shoes, etc – all takes place in the wardrobe/bedroom. Eat breakfast, make lunch – all in the kitchen. You see the pattern?

The best way to start is by breaking everything into categories – and then breaking objectives into little groups of 3’s. I’ve always found that by doing things 3 at a time – I blow past my deadlines with flying colors. Many believe multitasking is the way to go – I for one am completely against it. In the short run, it may pay off – but in the long run it can leave a lot of loose ends, a lot of things unfinished, and in actual fact be detrimental to your mental health.

Instead, I recommend exercising your mental health positively. Go ahead and head over to my official site and subscribe for a free eBook that can actually improve and enhance your thinking, gearing it more towards success and less on juggling 5 tables and a walrus all at once mentally.

By breaking things into 3’s, you’re doing what I call setting mini milestones. Milestones are much clearer, shorter, and smaller goals toward larger ones. Thinking of it like this, makes the work much easier and the path much more transparent. Getting one of these three things done at a time, one after the other, makes you feel more accomplished thus motivating you to do more.

…and if you’re motivated to do more, you’ll procrastinate less. It’s that simple.

The more you learn how to strategize without putting a strain on your brain, the more confidence you have in yourself. The more confidence you have in yourself, the more you’re willing and ready to dive head first into all your goals. The more willing and ready you are to do that, the more you’ll act on ideas when they come to you – and the more you act on ideas that come to you, the more you sign and seal your name for success in anything you do.

This is how you let go. Put things into action properly with a decent game plan and perseverance, and watch the end goals flourish.

Stay awesome.

– Rego

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“An essential aspect of…

Musings: Quote Wednesdays…

“An essential aspect of creativity is not being afraid to fail” – Edwin Land

Sorry this one came in late! But it says all it needs to say…bottom line is, never be afraid. Try as hard as you can not to be….fear is immobility, and immobility is procrastination. If you really, really, want something, you have to go out there and get it – without hesitation. Hesitation stems from fear and uncertainty. While it may be beneficial at times, most often it’s just an illusion that has been taught to us as we progressed through life and grew out of childhood.

Really, when you think about it – the younger we are, the less likely to be fearful we are…think of all the what-you-would-now-consider-crazy things you’ve done in your youth – did you really ever regret them…? More than likely, they taught you something. They made you better at something…and they made you realize you could do more than you originally thought you would – merely by overriding fear, and pushing through.

Persistence pays.

– Rego