“Your competition is not other people but…

Musings: Quote Wednesdays…

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Like I mentioned in this week’s episodic musing, your competition is not other people. There is no such thing as competition – it’s about being a better version of yourself than you were yesterday.

It’s about being around people that are good for YOU – not just the other way around. It’s about remembering that there is no such thing as lack – but there is such a thing as a lack of people cooperating with each other more and more these days – the latter being something that people will still try and manipulate for their own benefit.

Don’t let you stop you – let alone someone else stop you. But more importantly, if you see someone trying to contribute something to the world, trying to better themselves, without stepping on other people’s toes or crushing another person’s throat – don’t pull them down.

It’s a two-way street…

Hope everyone’s having a great week.

As always…

Stay awesome.

– Rego

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Musings Episode 80: Competition…

Since I talked about the pros and cons of comfort zones in the last episodic musing, I figure it’d only be right to have an appropriate follow up. This one’s for the millenials. Hell, this one’s for everyone. Let’s get started.

Musings Episode 80: Competition…

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So, last episodic musing you figured out there are some pros to comfort zones…along with understanding how to harness them during transitions you may have going on in other aspects of your life.

But there’s something else you’ve got to think about – competition – and I don’t mean in the conventional sense.

In other words, technically, no one is your competition.

No one.

The only person you’re ever really in competition with is yourself.

“Standing on the shoulders of giants; climbing the corporate ladder,” these cliche sayings are unnecessary.

It’s unnecessary to step on other people’s toes in order to get ahead – or their shoulders for that matter.

There are people that exist that may tell you there’s not enough caviar to go around – that there’s not enough pie to share and you’ve got to focus on grabbing your piece before anyone else – but it’s just not true.

What society has been feeding people is a message of lack.

Lack fuels panic.

Lack fuels stress.

Lack fuels anxiety.

Lack fuels BAD selfishness (there is such a thing as good selfishness).

There is no such thing as lack.

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There are such things, as assholes though. Selfish, greedy, assholes, that often like to take shortcuts. The quick success. The quick buck. The quick fuck. The flash car. The fancy title. The big house. Quick quick quick. Instant gratification, at the sacrifice of others.

There’s no such thing as sacrifice.

Sacrifice seems to be built up these days as a glorious thing to do – but essentially when you strip it down, it’s two things: either giving up something you already love for something else you love, or feeling you have to crush others to get where you want to go.

It’s a joke…and it doesn’t have to be so.

There is more corruption and greed laced into corporations and organisations today than there was almost 30 years ago, and I think this is being bred primarily from this “lack” thought process.

This all ties in with competition.

People have been led to believe the guy next to them in an interview room is their competition.

But really, it’s not about competing with anybody – not even yourself.

It’s about building a better version of YOU.

Constantly working on being yourself, improving yourself, becoming a better person than you were yesterday.

When you focus on this, you end up being too busy to look at what other people are doing.

You develop tunnel vision. You seek your own finish line – rather than trying to race someone to theirs.

You end up becoming such a fantastic version of yourself, you don’t worry about the guy next to you, because you know you have something to bring to the table that’s unique to YOU.

Forget about being a carbon copy.

You know you have something to contribute to the world.

You know you have something that you can leave your mark with.

You know YOU – something that when the last company falls, and the last pound, euro, or dollar is spent, no one can take away from you – the art of self-improvement.

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The other main thing to remember is, is that this is the single most important thing to remind yourself of everyday.

Because there are people out there who will try and tell you that you’re no good. That someone’s better than you. Hell, there are people that will try and tell you that you’re overqualified, and credit that as a logical reason for still not giving you what you want.

What you have to understand is, is that their opinion has nothing to do with you.

Because the same way you’ve been taught that there is lack, that there is competition, they may very well be approaching you with the same thought process.

But all that matters is what you want to do with your own life.

They do not have the right to tell you what to do with your life.

This is largely why I think unemployment is becoming greater.

That mindset, that lacking, competitive, insecure, fearful, selfish mindset has the potential (and often does) to bleed into people’s professional lives, the potential to create a loop.

Recruiters ego’s become enlarged, the power they’ve been given can make them feel like gods, determining someone’s short or long-term financial future at the click of a button.

The lack is false – it’s simply misplaced power with zero social responsibility.

The surging increase in idiocy, of this thing called “human resources” is insane. Do not heed to it.

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The only person to compete against, the only person to improve, is yesterday’s version of yourself. Other people are only a reference point – and if you’re going to have a reference point, let it be someone positive – someone successful, someone REAL.

But at the end of the day, if you’re putting in the work, you’ll know where you rank – and if you’re not putting in the work, you’ll know that too. The guilt of not making a better version of yourself will eat at your gut – your instincts will nag at you.

Work on yourself, work on what you love to do, then take a break. Analyse your progress. Change your angle if need be. Maintain this balance. Then do it all again.

But remember – there is no such thing, as competition.

There is only you, and how good you want to be at something.

Think about it.

As always…

Stay awesome.

– Rego

Improve Your Lifestyle. Improve Yourself. This is Life. This is Rego’s Life.™

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“Be willing to step outside your comfort zone…

Musings: Quote Wednesdays…

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Like I mentioned in this week’s episodic musing, while comfort zones aren’t good to stay in, the key to remember is to utilise the confidence you’ve built in your comfort zone, and use it to transition to new beginnings.

Just because it’s an unfamiliar environment, doesn’t mean you can’t use everything you’ve learnt up until this point to help you navigate the waters. Be humble, but confident.

Hope everyone’s having a great week.

As always…

Stay awesome.

– Rego

Improve Your Lifestyle. Improve Yourself. This is Life. This is Rego’s Life.™

Musings Episode 79: Comfort Zones…

Last episodic musing I mentioned a thing or two about comfort zones.

I figure now’s a good time to elaborate more on that.

Musings Episode 79: Comfort Zones…

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So comfort zones…for the most part, they’re something you don’t want to get stuck in. They’re limiting, and they can easily stunt growth – whether it’s mental, physical, or spiritual.

In essence, comfort zones are where people become complacent. A person may complain about where they are in life, but be too comfortable (read complacent) to actively move themselves towards where they want to be.

It could be wanting to accomplish going to the gym more, quitting a shitty job you hate, making a commitment to put aside money for a trip you’ve always wanted to go on (rather than blowing it on consumer items), or maybe just cutting toxic relationships out of your life.

Comfort zones are a funny thing though – sometimes they can be hidden, in disguise.

I think it’s largely because of the fact that there are some (and I do mean some) pros to comfort zones.

Waaaait.

Before all you self-help gurus who may stumble across this post get out your pitch forks and torches, hear me out.

Comfort zones can be, well, comfortable, because they’re familiar.

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Usually when a person’s familiar with something, they feel safe in the familiarity, and have a slight bit of confidence with the situation they’re in or people they’re around.

The downside to this is, it can also make a person a complete asshole when around new people – meaning one can become “arrogant” in their comfort zone, only to be crushed by whatever they encounter that may very quickly, very abruptly, remind them of their place.

That’s a whole different blog post though, one I won’t touch on today.

But, if you put the confidence side of it into the simplest terms possible, it’s like playing an old video game you love – you’ve mastered all the controls and can play it with your eyes closed. You’re confident in your ability so you don’t mind changing the difficulty setting to hard, maybe even extra hard.

That’s confidence in a comfort zone.

But then a sequel or continuation of that same game comes out – and the controller formatting or battle system is completely new.

Let’s say you just buy a whole new game and everything’s new.

Now play it on hard – no, from the beginning, straight out of the box.

Little nervous? Extra cautious? Get frustrated at the game when you fail the first few missions, or keep getting your ass handed to you, so you go back to playing the other game, and talk about how much the new one sucks after only trying it a few times?

That’s you getting your confidence crushed and wanting to step back into your comfort zone.

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The primary difference between the two scenarios is that in the first one, you’re making very tiny, incrimental, baby steps to challenge yourself in moving forward – albeit in a contained environment.

While in the second one, you’re facing a whole new wave of factors being thrown at you, and because of the unfamiliarity of the whole thing, your confidence is dropping…even though your hand-eye coordination, your ability to analyse and your mental agility may still remain intact.

In both scenarios your skill set hasn’t really declined at all – it’s just the “newness” of the environment in the second one, and the pre-existing knowledge of the first one that provide a sharp contrast in regards to perception.

The same goes for life.

Bear in mind sometimes there are some situations where you can keep getting knocked back despite your best efforts and willingness to step out of your comfort zone – DON’T internalise it. These can sometimes be the rare situations where it’s actually best to step away from things for a moment – it’s here where you may want to adjust your angle a little bit.

It’s like Einstein says…

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For the younger generation that may stumble across this quote 10 years from now: this is not how Albert Einstein actually looked.

Remember to remain agile and reposition yourself when it’s time.

All in all though comfort zones are ultimately, not very healthy to stay in…but they do give you a certain amount of confidence.

The key is to teach yourself to take that confidence, while still keeping your current abilities at the forefront of your mind, and transfer it into whatever new context it is you’re encountering.

So in effect, one could say it’s a bit like you creating and creating an antidote (confidence) for poison (comfort zones).

I think if people started to conceptualise comfort zones like that, the transition process from that old, comfortable rut some get to stuck in, to shiny new beginnings, may become a bit easier.

It’s a lot like knowing how to cook, but learning a new recipe.

You’ve got confidence in your ability – now it’s just up to you to recognise that ability, take the leap, and try something new.

I think this is also one of the ways a person can learn to be confident, but humble.

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You can know your abilities, have confidence in them, recognise your potential, and then take on new things; rather than holding yourself back out of fear (which again, stems from a comfort zone) OR, diving in too recklessly.

So the next time you’re in a comfort zone, and you may not want to admit it – how about doing yourself a favour and acknowledging that yes, taking a step in a new direction can sometimes be intimidating, BUT you have all these skills you’ve acquired up until this point in your life – some of which are bound to assist you in accomplishing whatever it is you’ve got your eye set on now.

Approach it with confidence, but humbly.

Do what you feardon’t fear what you do.

As always…

Stay awesome.

– Rego

Improve Your Lifestyle. Improve Yourself. This is Life. This is Rego’s Life.™

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“Concern should drive…

Musings: Quote Wednesdays…

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If you read my episodic musing for this week, you’ll understand exactly what I mean. When you get worried, concerned, or fearful of what the future may hold, strategise – don’t victimise. Pull that discipline that you have out of you and make it go to work by using your inner drive to find a better way to push yourself forward.

Sometimes, it’ll be exhausting…that’s okay. Once it’s all said and done, you can take the time to wind down for a moment, detox, relax. There’s nothing wrong with admitting that moving forward can be exhausting sometimes…but there is something wrong with not moving forward at all.

Hope everyone’s having a great week.

As always…

Stay awesome.

– Rego

Improve Your Lifestyle. Improve Yourself. This is Life. This is Rego’s Life.™

Musings Episode 78: Drive…

Hope everyone’s having a great week. I know, I know, I missed For The Weekenders last week. I’ve got my reasons…but I can guarantee the next one won’t disappoint.

Alright so back to the topic at hand – this week’s episodic musing. A lot of people talk about discipline, and I have too in the past, but one thing I think that should be combined with discipline is drive. Why? Let’s get started.

Musings Episode 78: Drive…

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So drive and discipline, how are they linked?

Discipline can be considered developing a habit of doing something over time, so much that you do it whether you feel like it or not.

It’s like making something so much a part of your life that it feels like the requirement of eating or sleeping – it becomes essential and necessary.

But what about drive? Well I’d say drive is what makes that discipline actually pay off.

Think about it. You can have discipline in doing something, but that doesn’t mean you have drive to push you in whatever it is you’ve disciplined yourself to do.

In other words, you may have discipline, but may not be necessarily pushing yourself to your max in whatever it is you’re doing.

You may not be doing things as good as you could be doing them.

So going back to the food analogy it’s a bit like you may have the discipline to eat on time, three meals a day, but you may lack the drive to eat properly, with foods that fuel your body and are good for your overall health.

You could be disciplined to workout everyday but not have the drive to really push yourself beyond your limits in each workout.

Or you could be disciplined to take out 10 minutes a day to learn a language, but may just be repeating the words like a parrot rather than putting together a comprehensive and progressive study programme so you can actually become conversational in a certain amount of time.

So discipline is what can make your prepared and set you up for seeing results, but drive is ultimately what determines the quality of the results you’ll get in the end of what you’re trying to accomplish short or long-term.

Drive is also what can keep your standards high.

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While discipline is the furnace, drive is the logs you keep feeding it so you can produce a high quality heat.

Imagine if you just put sticks and branches into the furnace – you’re not really going to get any significant heat, now are you?

The same goes for life. Whether it’s a workout, a university degree, a career, a language, hell, even a video game you’re trying to 100% on, you can set aside and put in the time for it everyday, but what you do during that time will determine the results you have in the future.

You’ve got to constantly be seeking to get out of your comfort zone.

Things don’t really ever get easy – instead you get stronger, smarter, better, faster, etc.

But if you don’t have the drive to do what you’re disciplining yourself to do, you won’t really get any of those results.

Instead you’re more than likely to stagnate. Get comfortable. Develop a non-productive routine (a bit like watching TV – you just veg out).

You don’t want that.

You want that fire in your belly and the flame under your bum.

You want beast mode, where people look into your eyes and see a flame so fierce they look away because they know you’re in the zone.

This may just seem like I’m talking about workouts but believe me, you can apply the same fierceness to all aspects of life.

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I go into beast mode even in writing…with some good lofi hip hop instrumental at times, of course.

So really the key here is to not just do what you’ve disciplined yourself to do, but do it exceedingly well.

Always constructively critique what you’re doing.

Always see where you can make small but significant improvements.

Think of that drive like a steam roller…you want to crush an ineffective laziness in yourself, that tries to get in your way.

Complacency can be laziness.

But I say ineffective laziness because there are two types of lazy:

1. The “do absolutely nothing and make every excuse in the book” lazy.

Or

2. The “find a better, smarter, more efficient way of doing things” lazy.

Through drive and discipline, you can actually harness your laziness to suit your needs and make learning or accomplishing things way easier.

It’s all a matter of perspective.

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Discipline yourself to set aside time for whatever it is you want to accomplish – it’ll never be time wasted.

Drive yourself to do whatever it is you want to accomplish well and with a high standard in mind.

Learn to take steps that are smart, clever, and efficient so you can maintain quality and get the results you want.

Things don’t have to be hard – if you look at them a different way.

It’s all about perspective.

Think about it…

And as always…

Stay awesome.

– Rego

Improve Your Lifestyle. Improve Yourself. This is Life. This is Rego’s Life.™

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Musings Episode 75: Relationships…

I’m guessing everyone had a good weekend. Let’s just jump right into it.

Musings Episode 75: Relationships…

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When you think about socialising, the term can be defined in many ways, and is really a multi-purpose thing. It fits into our daily life on many levels – platonically, romantically, etc.

People socialise for several reasons – maintaining friendships, getting acquainted with new people for the sake of acquiring new friends; reinforcing/building onto romantic relationships, creating new romantic relationships; expanding social networks for business purposes; maintaining family relationships; socialising to learn new things – maybe a skill you want to develop or just for the sake of honing your current skill in the art of conversation.

When you look at the list above, it’s more than obvious that socialising is primarily used for the sake of creating or maintaining relationships throughout life in general.

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Socialising also takes time…and time is a valuable asset that’s always wise to spend smartly.

So if you’re spending something as precious as time on socialising, naturally you want the experience of socialising to be one of quality – because you want the relationships you form from socialising to be of quality.

And when you think about it, relationships are something people have and have had throughout their natural lives. For some, relationships have consisted of quantity over quality, and vice versa.

Time, socialising, and relationships are all intrinsically linked to each other. Meaning time is the metaphorical money you invest at life’s “investment firm” of socialising, in the hopes to see a good return on your investment in the form of relationships.

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But unlike currency, your focus on your ROI isn’t about quantity, so much as it is quality.

You may want a large social network, as the natural way of thinking is that knowing a lot of people can help you get a lot of things accomplished.

However the main caveat of that is while you may know of a lot of people, the relationships formed may not give you the strongest return on your investment.

And in this game called life, you’ve gotta learn to invest. So you get your feet wet, take a few losses in the beginning, and become wiser for the next time around.

I’ve noticed the older I get the more I prefer my social circle to be smaller.

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Socialising with a lot of people is a great thing – don’t get me wrong. In socialising for friendships, romantic relationships, and even business, the more people you gain exposure to, the more you realise what type of people you want in your life.

And the more you hone in on what type of people you want in your life, the higher chance you have of your time being invested in higher quality relationships.

It’s like having an essential wardrobe – everything in it complements you well, is versatile, is made with care and dedication, and you enjoy wearing everything in it.

For friendships, you want to know that your friends have your back, that they really know you – understand you, respect your time, and have your best interest at heart – in general they uplift you.

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For romantic relationships, it’s the same thing, and an even bigger investment…more risks, more time. It’s one person getting to know you on an even deeper level, learning what your vulnerabilities are, learning what pushes your buttons, what makes you tick, and you coming to know the same about them.

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For family, again the same thing – but probably the most taken for granted relationships of all. It’s interesting because sometimes, in people having the underlying assumption that they are family, they also assume there’s nothing left to learn about  their family – which can actually make family relationships have a wider “knowledge gap” than when it comes to building friendships with people you’re just acquainted with.

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For business, the game is similar but totally different at the same time. It’s an entirely different animal, a totally different investment. Not every follower is your fan, and sometimes (like many entrepreneurs know) you’ve got to keep things close to your vest.

Business relationships shouldn’t just be focused around your customer either, but all your stakeholders – everyone inside and outside an organisation. Get the wrong people who only look out for their self-interests or what’s comfortable for them, and you’ve got toxic investments ready to slowly strangle the lifeline of your company or your milestones.

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Overall I like to think of quality relationships as small miracles. The human race has seen and participated in a lot (and I do mean a lot) of war…and they still do.

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History has shown us that conflict has the potential to match cooperation – and vice versa…but really, relationships – the art of caring about, understanding, knowing, and working with each other – are essential to human survival; and entirely dependent on people making the effort to get to know each other on a deeper, more quality level.

Unfortunately in the past (and still today), this way of thinking has been known to be deliberately fragmented, further dividing the human race by separating each other based on a skin colour or location.

So when you think about relationships, they’re really like small miracles. Socialising is an attraction of energy, but sometimes you can have energy vampires.

Quality relationships are literally an attraction of higher energies towards each other, which can form a bond that has the potential to be unbreakable – if said energies stay at a positive, higher level.

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And when you think about that and transfer it to something more “physical”, as people, we all wear different “masks”.

I wouldn’t say we act differently, but perform differently in different relationships.

A person can act the same, in regards to choosing to let their personality or good energy consistently shine through – but like sports, when you have to get sport specific, you work with different equipment, terrain, players, etc…you train differently.

You may still train hard, but you change your training, so you can tailor your performance for that particular sport, as you know different things can excel you in different ways.

And when you start thinking about relationships like sports teams and energy, you start to realise that you want players beside you who are in it to win it, but on a higher level.

You want players that know, and expect you to know, that by having your best interest at heart as well as theirs – that that thinking – pushes the whole team forward – it moves a whole team forward…and in moving a whole team forward, you can move mountains.

Think about it.

As always…

Stay awesome.

– Rego

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