Musings: Quote Wednesdays…
Like I mentioned in this week’s episodic musing, your competition is not other people. There is no such thing as competition – it’s about being a better version of yourself than you were yesterday.
It’s about being around people that are good for YOU – not just the other way around. It’s about remembering that there is no such thing as lack – but there is such a thing as a lack of people cooperating with each other more and more these days – the latter being something that people will still try and manipulate for their own benefit.
Don’t let you stop you – let alone someone else stop you. But more importantly, if you see someone trying to contribute something to the world, trying to better themselves, without stepping on other people’s toes or crushing another person’s throat – don’t pull them down.
It’s a two-way street…
Hope everyone’s having a great week.
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Since I talked about the pros and cons of comfort zones in the last episodic musing, I figure it’d only be right to have an appropriate follow up. This one’s for the millenials. Hell, this one’s for everyone. Let’s get started.
Musings Episode 80: Competition…
But there’s something else you’ve got to think about – competition – and I don’t mean in the conventional sense.
In other words, technically, no one is your competition.
The only person you’re ever really in competition with is yourself.
“Standing on the shoulders of giants; climbing the corporate ladder,” these cliche sayings are unnecessary.
It’s unnecessary to step on other people’s toes in order to get ahead – or their shoulders for that matter.
There are people that exist that may tell you there’s not enough caviar to go around – that there’s not enough pie to share and you’ve got to focus on grabbing your piece before anyone else – but it’s just not true.
What society has been feeding people is a message of lack.
Lack fuels panic.
Lack fuels anxiety.
Lack fuels BAD selfishness (there is such a thing as good selfishness).
There is no such thing as lack.
There are such things, as assholes though. Selfish, greedy, assholes, that often like to take shortcuts. The quick success. The quick buck. The quick fuck. The flash car. The fancy title. The big house. Quick quick quick. Instant gratification, at the sacrifice of others.
There’s no such thing as sacrifice.
Sacrifice seems to be built up these days as a glorious thing to do – but essentially when you strip it down, it’s two things: either giving up something you already love for something else you love, or feeling you have to crush others to get where you want to go.
It’s a joke…and it doesn’t have to be so.
There is more corruption and greed laced into corporations and organisations today than there was almost 30 years ago, and I think this is being bred primarily from this “lack” thought process.
This all ties in with competition.
People have been led to believe the guy next to them in an interview room is their competition.
But really, it’s not about competing with anybody – not even yourself.
It’s about building a better version of YOU.
Constantly working on being yourself, improving yourself, becoming a better person than you were yesterday.
When you focus on this, you end up being too busy to look at what other people are doing.
You develop tunnel vision. You seek your own finish line – rather than trying to race someone to theirs.
You end up becoming such a fantastic version of yourself, you don’t worry about the guy next to you, because you know you have something to bring to the table that’s unique to YOU.
Forget about being a carbon copy.
You know you have something to contribute to the world.
You know you have something that you can leave your mark with.
You know YOU – something that when the last company falls, and the last pound, euro, or dollar is spent, no one can take away from you – the art of self-improvement.
Because there are people out there who will try and tell you that you’re no good. That someone’s better than you. Hell, there are people that will try and tell you that you’re overqualified, and credit that as a logical reason for still not giving you what you want.
What you have to understand is, is that their opinion has nothing to do with you.
Because the same way you’ve been taught that there is lack, that there is competition, they may very well be approaching you with the same thought process.
But all that matters is what you want to do with your own life.
They do not have the right to tell you what to do with your life.
This is largely why I think unemployment is becoming greater.
That mindset, that lacking, competitive, insecure, fearful, selfish mindset has the potential (and often does) to bleed into people’s professional lives, the potential to create a loop.
Recruiters ego’s become enlarged, the power they’ve been given can make them feel like gods, determining someone’s short or long-term financial future at the click of a button.
The lack is false – it’s simply misplaced power with zero social responsibility.
The surging increase in idiocy, of this thing called “human resources” is insane. Do not heed to it.
The only person to compete against, the only person to improve, is yesterday’s version of yourself. Other people are only a reference point – and if you’re going to have a reference point, let it be someone positive – someone successful, someone REAL.
But at the end of the day, if you’re putting in the work, you’ll know where you rank – and if you’re not putting in the work, you’ll know that too. The guilt of not making a better version of yourself will eat at your gut – your instincts will nag at you.
But remember – there is no such thing, as competition.
There is only you, and how good you want to be at something.
Think about it.
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Alright so…as you all know, my blog mainly focuses on lifestyle enhancements. But lately a lot of what I’ve been finding is, when you Google how to improve your lifestyle, or getting more from your money to enjoy life, most people talk about just being frugal, money conscious, or maintaining a dreaded “budget”…..damn I don’t like that word. Not in the slightest.
The question is….why? Why is it that lifestyle is associated with money? Well, for one – money is the modern day bartering system. So alright, fair enough there…
…but why is it that people believe that money is what limits them? I believe in splurging and living practically – the best of both worlds. I’ve been blasted before because of this – many stating that method of thinking is easier said then done – but if you really look at how society is taught to utilize money, you’ll realize it’s not about budgeting, or clipping coupons, or getting that no-frills flight for a discounted ticket rate.
It’s about the way you look at money….and the way many are taught to look at money is a very weird way. I know I keep banging this into your head but as a whole, people are taught to be consumers. Now I’m not saying consumerism is bad, not at all. But the way in which you’re taught to be a consumer, may be detrimental to the way you’re also taught to achieve your real desires, and real goals.
There’s a saying – Americans live to work – Europeans work to live.
What is living? It’s a definition custom tailored to each and every individuals concepts and goals. Yet still, as a majority, people are mostly taught what living is – not to define and teach themselves what it is.
Learning can be done two ways – the lazy way, or the easy way with a touch more effort on your part. You’re probably thinking “lazy and easy are the same, aren’t they?” – not necessarily so.
Lazy is auto pilot – which hey, sometimes I love autopilot. Push notifications, auto updates, automated money making, etc, etc….lazy can be fun as hell.
Easy can be auto pilot, but in order to be auto pilot, there has to be some sort of structure built first – when you think about it, lazy stems from easy, except it’s already put in place.
That’s how many who have learned how to live, have learned it the lazy way. This is especially so in any country where the mass majority intakes large amounts of tube time (television, if that didn’t register with you).
Weeks ago I was at a friend’s working on a car with them, it was the weekend…and as we were driving out of the neighborhood, for the first time I saw a lot of people’s garage doors open – and when I looked inside…what do you think I saw?
Garages filled with stuff.
Here we were, driving through the community and where I thought most garages would look like their intended use, instead I saw tons of stuff, piled on top of each other however neatly people saw fit – and not being used. Forgotten about. Stored away for…whatever reason.
That’s not caring about yourself. That’s not the good kind of selfish. That’s temporary gratification to fulfill short term desires.
The commercials come on, they tell you you need this, and you want that, and you’re missing this, and you’re home wouldn’t be complete without that – and your daughter needs to learn how to be a mom, and your son needs to learn all things rough and tough and mechanical and tactical all before they’ve both even hit puberty. They tell you you’re better off with this credit card, because you can get more things – then months later if you’re still in lazy mode and the bill hasn’t been paid, they say it’s okay that you’re in debt and this and that company can help you – it’s not your fault, but those damn people who enticed you and held an imaginary gun to your head making you sign up for that card and this loan for that boat. They further encourage you – they say even if your financial track record is shot to shit it’s still okay, because they’ll help you finance and consume more irregardless, if you’re tired of that 2012 CLK500 and want the 2013 one now…
….doesn’t all this sound exhausting?
but alas – you’ve learned the auto pilot way of living – what do you care? It hardly took any effort….
Wait though. You do care? Good, that’s what I want from you. To care. About yourself. Be selfish – in a good way. Not the way you’ve been taught.
Plain and simple, the easy way of living is this – exercise your imagination. Creativity. Attitude. Looking inside yourself – not at the TV, not listening to the radio commercials, not reading the junk literature…but looking inside yourself. Taking time out, day by day – even 30 minutes – that’s just 2% of your day – to strike up a conversation with you. Get to know what you like, what you want, what’s fun for you, what you enjoy buying – not what everyone else says that should be liked, should be desired, is fun, and is enjoyable to buy.
There’s two roads – the road less traveled, and the most well known road. Take the less traveled one – because really, when you think about it, that’s your road. Free of pot holes, miles and miles of smooth, unbeaten pavement.
When you begin to teach yourself how to live, how to desire, and how to acquire – then you’re learning how to live – because you won’t be going off any cookie cutter template that’s already been made – but you’ll have your own identity. Side note – go ahead and subscribe on my official site for a free ebook on how to do this.
You’ll be original in your own way. You’ll stand out above the crowd, and you’ll do it for you – not for anyone else. You’ll be selfish enough to find out and explore what makes you happy…and you won’t care whether or not you have the latest car or the newest iPhone – because you’ll go after what you really want, and not people judging you by what you should want.
It takes more effort, but the effort is minimal, and in fact, less stressful.
Remember this – the person you see in the mirror – that’s your competition. That’s your audience. That’s your follower. When it comes to your life, and how to live it, as long as you do it in a positive and constructive way, to better yourself – then the only person you have to focus on getting things done for, is yourself.
Stay awesome. 😉