Musings Episode 88: Priorities…

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Musings Episode 88: Priorities…

We all prioritize things in life.

Priorities are what separates getting some things done faster than other things.

It doesn’t matter if it’s business, relationships, friends, family, or anything else.

The more convenience gets brought into our world the more it seems that multi-tasking is becoming a demand…a requirement…a mandatory skill.

Multi-tasking is good for some things – at least so they say – but only temporarily.

Often the thing that’s done well is one that has an entire focus placed upon it.

You can multi-task and get a lot of things done at one time – but how well did you do them?

Could they have been done better?

I’ve been told I’m my worst critic sometimes.

The irony of being a perfectionist.

Asking if things can be done better is a question that floats in the back of my thoughts on a day-to-day basis.

Like the concept of kaizen, I constantly look for different ways to do things better.

It’s the needle that keeps me on course when navigating through this thing we call life.

I think we all need that.

That guiding compass.

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Not to be dictated by someone else, but something you establish for yourself.

Everyone’s compass is different.

I’ve also been told I’m a mentor.

Though I’ve never really seen myself as one.

I just like to see people awoken to the fact that their life is theirs to live – not someone else’s.

Your life decisions are what you take to the grave with you.

So why let someone else dictate what you should be doing, especially if it’s for the betterment of yourself?

Prioritizing is simply putting what you think – what you know – is important, first.

So many people prioritize their jobs, their boss, their significant other before themselves.

Side note: There’s nothing wrong with prioritizing and nourishing romantic relationships – but if you’re going to, I think it’s imperative to make sure that person is lifting you up, rather than having you stall out or pulling you down.

Interdependence, not dependence is key in relationships.

If you don’t prioritize yourself when it comes to certain things, things that in your gut you know you should be doing for yourself but aren’t, I really think you stunt your own growth as a person.

Humming and hawing over something rather than just doing it only sets you that much further apart from what it is you want to do.

Why on earth would you do that?

I’m not faultless.

I’m just another person navigating my ship through this thing we call life.

The more we learn about these rough seas, the more skilled we become – the better we learn to handle our ship – but we’re never faultless.

I recognize there is one persistent thing in my life I haven’t prioritized…always thinking it could wait until later.

Maybe it can, maybe it can’t…but it does leave me with that gnawing feeling that I should really be prioritizing it more than I am now.

Especially now.

A feeling that grows by the day until I push it aside at times, and act on getting it rolling other times.

It’s a journey for everyone – but should make a victim out of no one.

So don’t take this as a “it’s okay, at least you’re trying/tried but there’s nothing more you can do” message.

When it comes to setting priorities in your life, there is absolutely something you can do. Any action is better than no action.

Framing your day-to-day life to put yourself first is important – because if you’re a mess, how can you possibly help others?

Taking the time out to prioritize what it is you know you need and want to do leaves you with a clearer head.

It lets your thoughts flow, your creativity flow, your overall thinking process flow, much, much better than what it usually would.

Before the complete change over to digital TV and radio, there was analog. Whenever you changed channels, sometimes you’d encounter “static”.

I’m sure some of you remember what that static used to sound like – or even the white noise from a TV.

Not as distracting as buffering, but still annoying.

Even though you hear what it is you’re wanting to listen to or watch, there’s still that static in the background that you just can’t seem to ignore.

Things you’re not paying attention to but you know you should be prioritizing are a lot like that.

So start clearing the “static” from your head.

Take time out. Grab a pen and paper – not your phone. It’s something about putting words on paper that really makes you connect with what it is you’re thinking about.

Write down some things you’ve been wanting to do for a while but haven’t because you’re always putting other people or things first.

Then write down one you can do immediately, or want to do first, on a separate piece of paper.

When you get that first thing done, tear up the paper and bin it.

Then do that for the next one.

And the next one.

And so on.

Tossing the paper will make you feel like you’ve released yourself from something because you took action to get it done.

A little healthy selfishness is necessary.

Prioritizing helps eliminate the habit of creating problems as to why you can’t get certain things done.

Starting towards something is better than always saying “some day”.

Because really…

…someday is really just code for “never”.

Stay cool.

– Rego

Improve Your Lifestyle. Improve Yourself. This is Life. This is Rego’s Life.™

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Musings Episode 87: Problems…

Yeah – touched on this a little a few episodic musings ago. Let’s expand a little.

Musings Episode 87: Problems…

I was talking to a friend the other day about some things, like mostly just what’s going on in the news and what not.

I usually don’t like to watch the news too frequently – it’s boring and just a shit show of different depressing things.

When I say depressing, I mean it just amplifies the chaos that I know is already going on in the world.

But then it also tends to over-exaggerate things, too.

One thing I’ve learnt from travelling is that news is told differently, in different places. Different countries.

One country may minimise a problem, the other may blow it out of proportion, yet another may not even consider it news worth reporting.

And that got me thinking – just how often do people do this in their everyday lives?

There’s a saying, “1st world problems,” usually accompanied by something like “using your smart phone to log onto your bank account only to see it has 0.16 pence in it” or something similar.

Or “1st world problems: Driving to the gym only to realise you forgot your headphones so now you can’t workout”.

There’s a lot of superficial problems floating around.

In the context of friendships, business, family, and relationships in general.

Superficial problems which people have a skilled habit of creating.

Superficial problems which are created, and while initially seemingly harmless, create larger, real problems for another party – rarely the party that ever creates them.

Why do we create so many superficial problems?

Is it because of convenience?

Of comfort?

Family “can’t” meet for the holidays because of -xyz.

Maybe it’s feeling like they all have to spend time with their new “extensions” of family, rather than making an effort to get everyone together under one roof.

So a superficial problem like that causes a real problem of family disconnect and discord.

Friends stop physically hanging out with each other because of distance.

And by distance I mean laziness of getting in the car and taking that “cumbersome 30 minute to an hour drive”.

So they opt for chatting on social media instead thinking this “nourishes” the relationship, which is nothing close to what they called just a couple of decades ago “socialising”.

A superficial problem like that causes, as the Chinese say “the tea to go cold”, or the real problem of not building a healthy, real social network of non-apathetic people that are there when you need them most.

Then people say they’re “lonely”.

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Business, work, and jobs.

Not educated enough? Underqualified.

Go to university, get an education.

Got an education? Well, that’s great but you don’t have work experience.

No work experience? Get work experience.

Have work experience and an education? Not quite enough education, get more education.

Got more education? Now it’s too much education.

You’re overqualified, ergo not eligible for the role in fear you may “find something better”.

So you try for part-time work to keep food on the table.

Nope, sorry, try again.

Can’t get it because employers don’t want you sticking around temporarily.

So a string of superficial problems like that costs a person their human security – their dignity to live and enjoy life as a respectable human being.

No food? Go grocery shopping from your smart phone – and get it delivered.

Hungry? Cook what’s in the fridge.

Don’t wanna cook? Order out.

Don’t know what to eat? Say you’re “starving” then end up snacking.

The food you bought in the fridge goes off. Then you’ve gotta throw it away.

A superficial problem like that causes a person’s nutritional profile or daily diet to go down the tube, leading to a very real problem of long-term health issues.

Or my favourite – this new “food shortage” everyone’s raving about.

It’s called over-consumption and waste, dumbass.

Convenience. Convenience and laziness. Convenience and laziness seem to be ruining the basis of human self-reliance.

Lack of self-reliance or independence causes a sense of dissatisfaction.

Have dissatisfaction? You’re not happy.

Find your happy place.

Join a yoga class.

Happiness isn’t yoga, motherfucker.

Happiness isn’t finding your zen.

It’s not meditating.

Meditating is about reaching a neutral place.

It’s not the quinoa in your fucking bowl or your morning chamomile tea.

If you have all the creature comforts and more in life, and you’re still not happy, well…

You’re not happy because somewhere…you’re disgusted with yourself.

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Disgusted because somewhere you know you’re not really pulling your weight when it comes to your existence, which is affecting other people’s existences, through creating simple, silly, superficial problems, which turn into very real problems for other people.

Happiness is in your existence. It shouldn’t take yoga, or tea, or “woosah” or any of that other bull.

You’re not happy with yourself when you’re not being a decent human being.

You’re not happy with yourself when you know you’re creating superficial problems.

Sure you may know this – it may fester and eat away at the back of your subconscious, but you’ve grown quite comfortable with ignoring it by indulging in your little world of convenience, blowing the “news” in your head out of proportion thus justifying your actions and feelings.

I’m not saying convenience is bad – I’m simply saying indulging in too much of it can cause an absolute shit storm.

Get out of your bubble.

Realise you’re not the only one that exists in this world…

…and understand that your “superficial” problems, may very well be affecting other people’s lives on a very real, and very detrimental level, because you’re too senseless to realise it.

Think about it.

– Rego

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