Yeah – touched on this a little a few episodic musings ago. Let’s expand a little.
Musings Episode 87: Problems…
I was talking to a friend the other day about some things, like mostly just what’s going on in the news and what not.
I usually don’t like to watch the news too frequently – it’s boring and just a shit show of different depressing things.
When I say depressing, I mean it just amplifies the chaos that I know is already going on in the world.
But then it also tends to over-exaggerate things, too.
One thing I’ve learnt from travelling is that news is told differently, in different places. Different countries.
One country may minimise a problem, the other may blow it out of proportion, yet another may not even consider it news worth reporting.
And that got me thinking – just how often do people do this in their everyday lives?
There’s a saying, “1st world problems,” usually accompanied by something like “using your smart phone to log onto your bank account only to see it has 0.16 pence in it” or something similar.
Or “1st world problems: Driving to the gym only to realise you forgot your headphones so now you can’t workout”.
There’s a lot of superficial problems floating around.
In the context of friendships, business, family, and relationships in general.
Superficial problems which people have a skilled habit of creating.
Superficial problems which are created, and while initially seemingly harmless, create larger, real problems for another party – rarely the party that ever creates them.
Why do we create so many superficial problems?
Is it because of convenience?
Family “can’t” meet for the holidays because of -xyz.
Maybe it’s feeling like they all have to spend time with their new “extensions” of family, rather than making an effort to get everyone together under one roof.
So a superficial problem like that causes a real problem of family disconnect and discord.
Friends stop physically hanging out with each other because of distance.
And by distance I mean laziness of getting in the car and taking that “cumbersome 30 minute to an hour drive”.
So they opt for chatting on social media instead thinking this “nourishes” the relationship, which is nothing close to what they called just a couple of decades ago “socialising”.
A superficial problem like that causes, as the Chinese say “the tea to go cold”, or the real problem of not building a healthy, real social network of non-apathetic people that are there when you need them most.
Then people say they’re “lonely”.
Not educated enough? Underqualified.
Go to university, get an education.
Got an education? Well, that’s great but you don’t have work experience.
No work experience? Get work experience.
Have work experience and an education? Not quite enough education, get more education.
Got more education? Now it’s too much education.
You’re overqualified, ergo not eligible for the role in fear you may “find something better”.
So you try for part-time work to keep food on the table.
Nope, sorry, try again.
Can’t get it because employers don’t want you sticking around temporarily.
So a string of superficial problems like that costs a person their human security – their dignity to live and enjoy life as a respectable human being.
No food? Go grocery shopping from your smart phone – and get it delivered.
Hungry? Cook what’s in the fridge.
Don’t wanna cook? Order out.
Don’t know what to eat? Say you’re “starving” then end up snacking.
The food you bought in the fridge goes off. Then you’ve gotta throw it away.
A superficial problem like that causes a person’s nutritional profile or daily diet to go down the tube, leading to a very real problem of long-term health issues.
Or my favourite – this new “food shortage” everyone’s raving about.
It’s called over-consumption and waste, dumbass.
Convenience. Convenience and laziness. Convenience and laziness seem to be ruining the basis of human self-reliance.
Lack of self-reliance or independence causes a sense of dissatisfaction.
Have dissatisfaction? You’re not happy.
Find your happy place.
Join a yoga class.
Happiness isn’t yoga, motherfucker.
Happiness isn’t finding your zen.
It’s not meditating.
Meditating is about reaching a neutral place.
It’s not the quinoa in your fucking bowl or your morning chamomile tea.
If you have all the creature comforts and more in life, and you’re still not happy, well…
You’re not happy because somewhere…you’re disgusted with yourself.
Disgusted because somewhere you know you’re not really pulling your weight when it comes to your existence, which is affecting other people’s existences, through creating simple, silly, superficial problems, which turn into very real problems for other people.
Happiness is in your existence. It shouldn’t take yoga, or tea, or “woosah” or any of that other bull.
You’re not happy with yourself when you’re not being a decent human being.
You’re not happy with yourself when you know you’re creating superficial problems.
Sure you may know this – it may fester and eat away at the back of your subconscious, but you’ve grown quite comfortable with ignoring it by indulging in your little world of convenience, blowing the “news” in your head out of proportion thus justifying your actions and feelings.
I’m not saying convenience is bad – I’m simply saying indulging in too much of it can cause an absolute shit storm.
Get out of your bubble.
Realise you’re not the only one that exists in this world…
…and understand that your “superficial” problems, may very well be affecting other people’s lives on a very real, and very detrimental level, because you’re too senseless to realise it.
Think about it.
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