Musings Episode 89: Convince No One…

Sappy Sunday.

Happy.*

Happy Sunday.

Happy and Sappy Sunday?

I don’t know/care…let’s just start.

Musings Episode 89: Convince No One…

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Well….last week was exhausting.

I generally grow tired and exhausted when I’m required to engage in social contact that involves…people I don’t want to engage in social contact with.

So…when this happens, it feels like a battery that’s being drained and in desperate need of a recharge – I’m that battery.

There are also times when this happens that it feels like a battery that’s going to overload and explode – I am also that battery.

On both occasions, generally one of the exchanges that count as exhausting are whenever I’m talking to some egotistical slack-jawed junkslut – mostly in business.

Personal-life wise, I do a pretty good job of avoiding those types all together.

…and by “those types” I just mean someone up their own ass.

If you read my previous posts on ego and competition, there are a plethora of bad eggs like this in today’s time.

I’ve always been on the side of the argument that narcissism and egoism aren’t the same, and that in a world of this or that, narcissism is better than being insecure any day.

Largely because of the fact that when insecure people talk, in my experience many of them always seem to need convincing.

Convincing that they’re doing a good job.

Convincing that they’re loved.

Convincing that they’re a wonderful person.

Convincing that life doesn’t suck half as bad as they think it does.

Convincing that their friends really like them.

Convincing that their grandma (who’s been dead for like a millennium) really did love them.

They need convincing no matter how many times you may try to lift them up.

Don’t get me wrong – there’s nothing wrong with a little reassurance – but there’s a fine line.

With convincing, approval likes to tag along.

That is to say, insecurity often brings along the habit of a person doing things to seek approval.

Being a “people pleaser”.

Narcissists on the other hand, are interesting in the sense that they already tell themselves everyone loves them, they’re the best thing since sliced bread, and everything they do is like the first time something really useful was invented for human kind.

Like the lightbulb.

Or condoms.

They also obsess over being the best…which in turn, often makes them push themselves to be the best.

There are narcissist that are really just insecure people masquerading as narcissist (like Trump), I think, but that’s another story for another time.

So what am I getting at here…right – convincing.

Yeah, stop doing that shit.

It’s your life.

Stop bending over backwards to try to prove yourself if you already know you’ve made something decent or are making something decent of yourself when it comes to personal development.

Oddly, in several relationships across the board it seems like people need to be convinced more and more about different things.

Are people growing more insecure?

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Take business for instance. Remember the good old days where you just swung by a company, maybe sweet talked the receptionist into getting you a spot to see the boss, or walked in regularly and asked to see the person in charge because you saw an ad in the paper?

You put in your CV/resumé, you either got seen the next day, or same day, had an informal chat, and before you knew it you were hired?

There were no 1st, 2nd, 3rd, 4th, interviews plus one drink-the-blood-of-a-goat final 5th ritual interview, just because they needed to cross-examine to make sure they were convinced enough to hire you.

There was no portfolio you had to present, no vague requests to “prove a track record of success” without actually specifying exactly what they’re looking for.

A guy looked at your CV, had a chat with you to see if what was on your CV wasn’t bullshit, and went with his gut.

There was an unsaid trust.

This amazingly managed to do just as good of a job as what recruiters are “trained” to do (but fail ever so miserably at) when it comes to ensuring people were hired based off of their talent or skills they could bring to a company, rather than nepotism or particularism.

Or for another example, take romantic relationships.

Remember when you could just walk up to someone, apologize for interrupting, and compliment them on something you really liked about them physically?

Or maybe you’d just be in the bookstore and strike up a conversation about a book you see someone considering buying and you’ve bought it before so hey great, conversation starter.

There’d either be a positive or negative reaction, you’d maybe swap numbers (home numbers, no mobile phones then), eventually go on dates, etc.

Once you were in the relationship, texting day-to-day wasn’t necessary nor was it possible.

The person just trusted that you liked them and them only, and when you both did call to meet up again, you valued it more.

You never really had to convince one another you were into each other, because each time you both met it was like meeting each other all over again – all due to a build up of the feeling of missing one another and looking forward to seeing each other.

Friendships are the same way. I could go on and on and on but I think you’re smart enough to draw up your own examples.

Along with a culture of busyness, of victim mentality, it seems like there’s a culture of a need to be convinced, which perpetuates a cycle of a need to prove, a desire for approval.

Nobody really says “prove it to me”.

Alright so maybe some business people do, but nobody really says prove it.

What are you, 5?

They won’t ever really say it because they don’t want to sound 5.

But actions speak loud enough to send the message without words ever having to leave the mouth.

I’m very much action oriented…so maybe this irritates me more than others.

But frankly, I don’t believe in people’s words.

Ironic, right?

A writer, who writes, and writes, and writes – but doesn’t believe other people’s words.

Well, maybe it’s a little more nuanced than that.

I believe people’s words, but I watch their actions.

I don’t believe in proving, don’t believe in convincing, and don’t seek approval.

I’ll take someone’s word, trust and expect them to do the action, and leave them to it.

If they don’t I don’t really care, because I don’t attach much weight to their words first time around.

I do believe that actions speak a lot louder than words, when carried out.

Largely because of the fact that as the desire from people, of people to prove themselves, to convince other people that they are what they are, can do what they can do, feel how they feel, and need what they need, increases…it only perpetuates the issue of words becoming devoid, meaningless – lip service.

Saying whatever it is someone wants to hear makes words’ value drop to absolute zero.

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Saying whatever it is someone wants to hear increases the need for actual proof through actions to be carried out.

In people wanting others to convince them, to prove to them, whatever it is that they want proof or convincing of, it makes it harder to separate the real from the pleaser.

The true from the false.

The raw from the sugar-coated.

Which creates the theory that if people realized the weight of their words, the value of their words, they wouldn’t use them so superfluously.

They wouldn’t just spit off at the mouth.

They would think before speaking…and this would quite possibly restore value to words used.

Trust ties in with this. When a person constantly needs convincing or proof, they lack trust.

You can’t cure that.

You can’t make someone trust you.

It just has to happen.

So if you can’t make someone trust you, and they’re not willing to let themselves trust you, you can’t really convince them either.

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If you’re someone who doesn’t seek approval, this can be pretty frustrating.

So here’s the simple solution to at least clear your head.

Just say it.

Say it to the insecure types, the untrustworthy types of people you may encounter in life.

“I’m not going to convince you.”

But only say it on the basis your words carry fucking weight.

Two things can happen.

They either will disengage in conversation with you, and that’s that, or they’ll realize your lack of attempting to use a silver tongue means there is truth in what you speak.

Stop pandering to insecure people.

Catering to such a frame of mind will inevitably snowball into our downfall as human beings.

Think about it.

Stay cool…

– Rego

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For The Weekenders: Luck of The Irish, Espresso Brunches, Egg Cream Easters…

There’s a couple of holidays coming up.

Let’s figure out how to enjoy them.

For The Weekenders: Luck of The Irish, Espresso Brunches, Egg Cream Easters…

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There are several points in a person’s life where they’ve just gotta have the right things, at the right times, for the right moments.

It’s something about hitting the timing perfectly that makes a moment or an event just perfect – noteworthy.

So when I think about how St. Patrick’s Day is coming up, I think about the last time I had a memorable one…

…and then quickly like to forget about that exact moment (largely because the last memorable one involved moonshine…and being knocked sideways by said moonshine).

Following up from last week’s For The Weekenders, here’s 3 drink recipes that’ll have you ready for any occasion.

It’s time to bring out your inner Irishman.

The crazy one.

You know – the one that gets and/or arrives drunk at a late relative’s funeral/wake, snatches the pack of gummy bears from a child who’s been given them just to keep quiet, and starts swearing at Uncle Carl because “he always was a menacing, cheap, greedy bastard”.

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…yeah, that guy.

But if you’re gonna do it, be classy as fuck while doing so.

They say you are what you eat.

I say you are what you drink, too.

In this case, a Nutty Irishman.

The Nutty Irishman

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This is great for those moments during St. Patty’s Day where you need a little pick me up but still want to maintain a buzz – without the worry of a heart attack from an energy drink like, oh I don’t know, Red Bull…

(When mixed with alcohol it doesn’t give you wings.)

(Just cardiac arrest.)

You’ll need:

  • 5 oz. Coffee (freshly brewed, nice and hot)
    • Opt for French roast – you’ll want something robust and dark, and French works well here.
  • 1 oz. Bailey’s Irish Cream
  • .5 oz. Frangelico (yep, like last time) Hazelnut Liqueur
  • .5 oz. Jameson Irish Whiskey
  • Fresh Whipped Cream (Just a dollop)

While all these ingredients are just wonderful, there’s an art to their assembly. So first things first…

You’ll want to grab a heated mug, and pour your hot coffee into it.

Now add your Irish cream, hazelnut liqueur, and Irish whiskey.

Take your freshly whipped cream and top everything off, then sit back and enjoy each sip.

While this will probably become a favorite of yours even outside the context of St. Patrick’s Day, having one too many of these, no matter how much coffee is in them, will probably leave you hungover if you don’t balance things out with a good bit of water.

So the day after, while I doubt you’ll be making breakfast, it’d be smart to have a hefty, healthy brunch.

The best way to cure a hangover is naturally to replenish your energy.

Give yourself strength.

Nurse yourself slowly off the alcohol consumed the night prior with a mid-brunch martini.

You know, can’t just go cold turkey and all that.

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So alongside the French toast, poached eggs, and beef sausages, I strongly recommend some wake-up juice.

And by wake-up juice I mean an Espresso Martini.

Espresso Martini

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First there’s coffee, then there’s espresso.

You want something concentrated like espresso, which’ll slap you from seeing double back to seeing single, and hopefully get the ringing out of your ears and pupils back to working normally, where you’re not squinting if a lightning bug flies around your face as if someone’s trying to blind you.

You’ll need:

  • 2 oz. Stoli Vanil Vodka
  • 1 oz. Espresso (freshly brewed)
  • .75 oz Simple Syrup
  • 1 Sprig of mint (torn)

This is meant to be a pick me up so putting everything together is pretty simple here.

Grab a cocktail shaker with some ice in it, and pour everything into it, tossing in the sprig of mint as well.

Shake everything up well for about 15-20 seconds, then strain it all into a chilled martini glass.

Done.

See how simple that was? Less than two steps and you’re brain’s back to not feeling like it’s the proverbial nail under a hammer.

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If you don’t know how to make simple syrup (you sad human being, you), it’s really…

Simple.

Here’s how to do it. Grab:

  • 2 Cups Water
  • 2 Cups Granulated Sugar

If it wasn’t too much of a strain to prepare these ingredients, put both of them into a medium saucepan.

Put the saucepan over medium heat until the water gets just below boiling.

Make sure you stir this well – it’s important the sugar is completely dissolved.

Once that’s done, take the pan off the heat and let it cool until it’s room temperature.

Take your newly made simple syrup and use it for making your Espresso Martini, then seal the rest in a clean mason jar.

It’ll last you for just under a month if you keep it in the fridge, in the event you have anymore drinking mishaps and need a recovery fix.

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Don’t judge me.

After you’re done partying like a drunk Irishman (or if you’re already Irish…just partying like a drunk, I guess), you’ll need to eventually straighten your shit up.

You know, because Jesus day is right around the corner.

And by Jesus day, I mean Easter.

Which is ironically on the 1st of April, according to Google.

Also which somehow, has me imagining Jesus being like…

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We’re cool, right?

Seeing as Easter’s become pretty commercialized these days though, and rather than doing the right thing and just guilt tripping people into remembering what dicks they are on a day-to-day basis, the stores are littered with Cadbury creme eggs and chocolate bunnies the size of your 4 year-old toddler (child?).

So if you’re not a heartless uncle or aunt who deliberately proposes Easter is spent somewhere snowy only to paint all the eggs white and hide them in said snow, for the little ones never to find…you’ll probably want something to get you through this bastardized version of the original holiday.

Something along the lines of an egg cream.

Chocolate Egg Cream

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If you’re from Brooklyn, you’ll be familiar with these.

You’ll also know that despite the name, there’s no actual egg or cream for that matter, in these.

It’s a sweet beverage, with a nice mellow buzz that follows.

Perfect for Easter festivities, innocent enough to look like it belongs in a soda shop, and mature enough where you have to stress to your nephew or niece that no, this is a *special* drink that uncle’s/auntie’s drinking which was prescribed by your…doctor, for…medicinal purposes…and isn’t safe for little ones.

“Prescription only K Timmy thx bye.”

….here’s what you’ll need:

  • 2 oz. Stoli Vanil Vodka
  • 2 oz. Chocolate Syrup
  • 1 oz. Khalúa
  • 1/2 Cup Whole Milk
  • Club Soda

When no one’s around in the kitchen, you’ll mix everything except the club soda in a cocktail shaker.

Shake everything up for about 15-20 seconds, then pour into a tall, chilled glass.

Here’s the part that takes a little skill – you’re gonna slowly add club soda to your glass – and stir the mixture ever so gently as you pour.

If you want that nice, frothy texture that usually comes with egg creams, you’ll need to use a soda gun instead, so in this case an old-school spritzer bottle is your best bet.

Otherwise, if you’re just pouring your club soda straight from a bottle, make sure you stir it gently, but also well enough to create a froth top by the time you’re finished making it.

Quality drinks take patience…no matter how impatient your relatives might be with you this Easter holiday.

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There’s always something for every occasion.

Stay cool.

– Rego

Improve Your Lifestyle. Improve Yourself. This is Life. This is Rego’s Life.™

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“Action expresses…

Musings: Quote Wednesdays…

Just a mid-week follow up from this week’s episodic musing. I think it says all it needs to say.

Sometimes simple is best.

Hope everyone’s having a great week.

As always…

Stay cool.

– Rego

Improve Your Lifestyle. Improve Yourself. This is Life. This is Rego’s Life.™

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Musings Episode 88: Priorities…

Enjoying your weekend?

Good.

Looking forward to your week?

I hope so.

Let’s start.

Musings Episode 88: Priorities…

We all prioritize things in life.

Priorities are what separates getting some things done faster than other things.

It doesn’t matter if it’s business, relationships, friends, family, or anything else.

The more convenience gets brought into our world the more it seems that multi-tasking is becoming a demand…a requirement…a mandatory skill.

Multi-tasking is good for some things – at least so they say – but only temporarily.

Often the thing that’s done well is one that has an entire focus placed upon it.

You can multi-task and get a lot of things done at one time – but how well did you do them?

Could they have been done better?

I’ve been told I’m my worst critic sometimes.

The irony of being a perfectionist.

Asking if things can be done better is a question that floats in the back of my thoughts on a day-to-day basis.

Like the concept of kaizen, I constantly look for different ways to do things better.

It’s the needle that keeps me on course when navigating through this thing we call life.

I think we all need that.

That guiding compass.

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Not to be dictated by someone else, but something you establish for yourself.

Everyone’s compass is different.

I’ve also been told I’m a mentor.

Though I’ve never really seen myself as one.

I just like to see people awoken to the fact that their life is theirs to live – not someone else’s.

Your life decisions are what you take to the grave with you.

So why let someone else dictate what you should be doing, especially if it’s for the betterment of yourself?

Prioritizing is simply putting what you think – what you know – is important, first.

So many people prioritize their jobs, their boss, their significant other before themselves.

Side note: There’s nothing wrong with prioritizing and nourishing romantic relationships – but if you’re going to, I think it’s imperative to make sure that person is lifting you up, rather than having you stall out or pulling you down.

Interdependence, not dependence is key in relationships.

If you don’t prioritize yourself when it comes to certain things, things that in your gut you know you should be doing for yourself but aren’t, I really think you stunt your own growth as a person.

Humming and hawing over something rather than just doing it only sets you that much further apart from what it is you want to do.

Why on earth would you do that?

I’m not faultless.

I’m just another person navigating my ship through this thing we call life.

The more we learn about these rough seas, the more skilled we become – the better we learn to handle our ship – but we’re never faultless.

I recognize there is one persistent thing in my life I haven’t prioritized…always thinking it could wait until later.

Maybe it can, maybe it can’t…but it does leave me with that gnawing feeling that I should really be prioritizing it more than I am now.

Especially now.

A feeling that grows by the day until I push it aside at times, and act on getting it rolling other times.

It’s a journey for everyone – but should make a victim out of no one.

So don’t take this as a “it’s okay, at least you’re trying/tried but there’s nothing more you can do” message.

When it comes to setting priorities in your life, there is absolutely something you can do. Any action is better than no action.

Framing your day-to-day life to put yourself first is important – because if you’re a mess, how can you possibly help others?

Taking the time out to prioritize what it is you know you need and want to do leaves you with a clearer head.

It lets your thoughts flow, your creativity flow, your overall thinking process flow, much, much better than what it usually would.

Before the complete change over to digital TV and radio, there was analog. Whenever you changed channels, sometimes you’d encounter “static”.

I’m sure some of you remember what that static used to sound like – or even the white noise from a TV.

Not as distracting as buffering, but still annoying.

Even though you hear what it is you’re wanting to listen to or watch, there’s still that static in the background that you just can’t seem to ignore.

Things you’re not paying attention to but you know you should be prioritizing are a lot like that.

So start clearing the “static” from your head.

Take time out. Grab a pen and paper – not your phone. It’s something about putting words on paper that really makes you connect with what it is you’re thinking about.

Write down some things you’ve been wanting to do for a while but haven’t because you’re always putting other people or things first.

Then write down one you can do immediately, or want to do first, on a separate piece of paper.

When you get that first thing done, tear up the paper and bin it.

Then do that for the next one.

And the next one.

And so on.

Tossing the paper will make you feel like you’ve released yourself from something because you took action to get it done.

A little healthy selfishness is necessary.

Prioritizing helps eliminate the habit of creating problems as to why you can’t get certain things done.

Starting towards something is better than always saying “some day”.

Because really…

…someday is really just code for “never”.

Stay cool.

– Rego

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For The Weekenders: First Snow, Spiked Hot Chocolate, and My Hot Toddy…

Winter’s got me having the feels for all things comfy, cozy, and sprinkled liberally with liquor.

Yeah.

Anyway…let’s get started.

For The Weekenders: First Snow, Spiked Hot Chocolate, and My Hot Toddy…

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With the first snow comes cold, and with cold comes…feeling cold.

Naturally, the rational thing to do is warm up – with something or someone.

Like hot chocolate.

Or a hot body.

Or both.

I like both.

Both are fun.

I’m feeling pretty low key this week…thought I’d switch things up.

Get a little more personal.

And at the end of this post let you delve into the life of yours truly.

Creature comforts, personal relationships and all that.

So here’s some winter cocktail ideas with some fun back stories to warm you up during this cold spell.

First Snow

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The first snow is always a little, magical. It comes in quiet, when you’re not looking, and then surprises you when you decide to actually observe your surroundings.

The best part is when you catch it untouched – no tire tracks, no footprints, just one pure sheet of flawless wonder.

It’s a moment you can only catch once, and that you try to hold onto for as long as possible in your memory.

Well there’s good news.

There’s a way to make that memory stretch.

With this cocktail, named after (you guessed it) The First Snow.

Break out your best mixology skills here and saunter over to your mini-bar for a quick lesson on how to be more suave during the winter.

Or you know…just look impressive when you’re at your favourite lounge bar with that special someone and want to look like you really know your stuff, as you school the bartender on how to do his job.

You’ll need:

  • Superfine Bar Sugar (for rimming the glass)
  • 1.25 oz. Rye Whiskey
  • 1.25 oz. Winter Syrup
  • .5 oz. Cranberry Juice
  • 1 Cinnamon Stick (for garnish)

First things first…

You’ll have to rim a martini glass with the sugar, then set it aside.

Now grab your whiskey, Winter Syrup, and Cranberry Juice, and pour it all into a cocktail shaker that has ice in it.

Shake all those ingredients well, for around 15-20 seconds…then strain it all into that same sugar-rimmed martini glass you set aside.

Take that cinnamon stick I talked about earlier and place it as a garnish.

Enjoy.

“But Rego, I don’t know how to make Winter Syrup”.

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That’s like, drinks 101.

Alright well, stay cool…you can make your own that’ll last you for about a month – and give you an excuse to make more of this winter favorite so…you’re welcome.

So for the Winter Syrup, you’ll need:

  • 2 Cups Granulated Sugar
  • 2 Cups Water
  • 2 Whole Cinnamon Sticks
  • 1/2 tsp Ground Nutmeg
  • 1/4 tsp Ground Allspice
  • 1/8 tsp White Peppercorns
  • 1/8 tsp Cloves

Once you’re done foraging for these necessary provisions, grab a medium saucepan.

Put your sugar, water, cinnamon sticks, allspice, nutmeg, cloves, and peppercorns in there.

Now heat everything over a medium heat until you’ve got your water just below boiling, making sure you stir everything well in order to make sure the sugar dissolves completely (this is important, dammit).

Take your saucepan off the heat, and let your syrup cool until it’s room temperature.

Grab a mason jar (it’s really important that it’s a mason jar), pour the syrup in there, seal it, and (gently) toss it in the fridge.

You’ve gotta have some patience here.

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Let it sit in your fridge for a week, then strain out the peppercorns, cloves, and cinnamon sticks.

Take another mason jar (a clean one), pour the syrup in it, seal it, and pop it back in the fridge.

Or, you know, use it, for the above cocktail recipe.

Spiked Hot Chocolate

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Hot chocolate is good.

Liqueur is better.

Hot chocolate spiked with liqueur is great.

When it gets cold, I drink a lot of hot beverages.

A lot.

I’m a fan of coffee and hot chocolate – not really a tea drinker (partly because I suck at making tea – except for spice tea I do a pretty bang up job of making that)…but hot chocolate is one of my all time favourites.

Considering most franchise coffee shops can’t make a good cup of espresso to save their lives (there are few, and they are legends), it’s what I opt for when I’m being asked to sit at a coffee shop and socialise with other people I’ve known for a while…or new ones.

But generally, it’s not socially acceptable to slip the barista some alcohol and ask him to spike your drink.

Nor is it acceptable to spike your own drink, apparently – otherwise that mother with her child wouldn’t be giving me the stink eye whenever I whip out a flask.

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When you’re at home though, everything’s fair game.

Wanna act like you’re the only one in line? Go for it.

Spike your hot chocolate? Be my guest.

Walk around naked? Go wild.

You get the idea.

Here’s how to do it (the spiking – not the nudity) properly.

You’ll need:

  • A decent hot chocolate.
    • 8 oz. of it.
  • 1 oz. Frangelico Hazelnut Liqueur
  • 1/2 oz. Nux Alpina Walnut Liqueur
  • A Dollop of Freshly Whipped Cream (do it right – none of this pre-whipped business)
  • Mint Leaves (fresh, for garnish)

Make your hot chocolate – whichever one is your favourite, but just make sure it’s quality.

Add in your hazelnut and walnut liqueur and stir everything together well – use your bar spoon for this.

Top it off with that freshly whipped cream you slaved over making, and garnish with some mint leaves (let’s say, about a sprig).

Done.

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There’s a reason for using walnut and hazelnut liqueurs…they add depth to the cocoa base.

This is perfect for when you’re sitting by the fire with your hot toddy – aka that special someone.

Speaking of – I promised you a story with a little insight into me, didn’t I?

Alright…well, let me tell you a bit about my hot toddy (pun intended).

We have a bit of a love-hate relationship…but it’s mostly love.

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Mostly.

Rewind 7 years ago.

I was in Seoul visiting a friend when we decided to go out one night and hit up this really great lounge bar (and I cannot seem to remember the name of it – it was in Korean, don’t blame me).

We were walking up to the bar and there she was.

Beautiful.

Sexy.

Hot.

So hot in fact I could swear I heard the song “Hot Tottie” ft. Jay-Z by Usher playing in the background.

Just what the doctor ordered, in fact.

Especially after recently having gone through a breakup and having a hectic rebound streak.

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It’s a gift.

I knew right then she was the one.

So I straightened up my posture, walked up to the bar, looked right at her before looking the bar tender dead in the eye and said as calmly and smoothly as possible…

“I’ll have one of those.”

And then proceeded to watch him make me the best Hot Toddy I’d ever had in my life.

….what?

You thought this was a romance story about me and someone I love?

Well no…but it’s about some thing I love…

And that’s pretty much the same thing…right?

No?

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Fine.

For the more grateful out there – here’s the recipe for that amazing Hot Toddy I discovered so many moons ago.

My Hot Toddy

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You don’t need to have a cold or a sore throat to have this – you just need to have a desire to heal whatever ails you.

For starters, you’ll need:

  • 1.5 oz. Bourbon
  • .5 oz. Lemon Juice (Freshly Squeezed)
  • Boiling Water
  • 1 tsp Clover Honey
  • 3 Whole Cloves
  • 1 Cinnamon Stick
  • 1 Lemon Wedge (for garnish)

You’ll need (obviously) a heated hot toddy glass.

Combine the bourbon, lemon juice, clover honey, cloves, and cinnamon stick in said glass.

Fill the rest of the glass with boiling water, then stir until all the honey is dissolved.

Top it off with a lemon wedge for garnish.

Baby, it’s cold outside.

Stay cool warm.

– Rego

Improve Your Lifestyle. Improve Yourself. This is Life. This is Rego’s Life.™

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“I believe that every single one of us…

Musings: Quote Wednesdays…

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Just a little mid-week food for thought as a follow up from this week’s episodic musing.

Hope everyone’s having a great week.

As always…

Stay cool.

– Rego

Improve Your Lifestyle. Improve Yourself. This is Life. This is Rego’s Life.™

Musings Episode 87: Problems…

Yeah – touched on this a little a few episodic musings ago. Let’s expand a little.

Musings Episode 87: Problems…

I was talking to a friend the other day about some things, like mostly just what’s going on in the news and what not.

I usually don’t like to watch the news too frequently – it’s boring and just a shit show of different depressing things.

When I say depressing, I mean it just amplifies the chaos that I know is already going on in the world.

But then it also tends to over-exaggerate things, too.

One thing I’ve learnt from travelling is that news is told differently, in different places. Different countries.

One country may minimise a problem, the other may blow it out of proportion, yet another may not even consider it news worth reporting.

And that got me thinking – just how often do people do this in their everyday lives?

There’s a saying, “1st world problems,” usually accompanied by something like “using your smart phone to log onto your bank account only to see it has 0.16 pence in it” or something similar.

Or “1st world problems: Driving to the gym only to realise you forgot your headphones so now you can’t workout”.

There’s a lot of superficial problems floating around.

In the context of friendships, business, family, and relationships in general.

Superficial problems which people have a skilled habit of creating.

Superficial problems which are created, and while initially seemingly harmless, create larger, real problems for another party – rarely the party that ever creates them.

Why do we create so many superficial problems?

Is it because of convenience?

Of comfort?

Family “can’t” meet for the holidays because of -xyz.

Maybe it’s feeling like they all have to spend time with their new “extensions” of family, rather than making an effort to get everyone together under one roof.

So a superficial problem like that causes a real problem of family disconnect and discord.

Friends stop physically hanging out with each other because of distance.

And by distance I mean laziness of getting in the car and taking that “cumbersome 30 minute to an hour drive”.

So they opt for chatting on social media instead thinking this “nourishes” the relationship, which is nothing close to what they called just a couple of decades ago “socialising”.

A superficial problem like that causes, as the Chinese say “the tea to go cold”, or the real problem of not building a healthy, real social network of non-apathetic people that are there when you need them most.

Then people say they’re “lonely”.

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Business, work, and jobs.

Not educated enough? Underqualified.

Go to university, get an education.

Got an education? Well, that’s great but you don’t have work experience.

No work experience? Get work experience.

Have work experience and an education? Not quite enough education, get more education.

Got more education? Now it’s too much education.

You’re overqualified, ergo not eligible for the role in fear you may “find something better”.

So you try for part-time work to keep food on the table.

Nope, sorry, try again.

Can’t get it because employers don’t want you sticking around temporarily.

So a string of superficial problems like that costs a person their human security – their dignity to live and enjoy life as a respectable human being.

No food? Go grocery shopping from your smart phone – and get it delivered.

Hungry? Cook what’s in the fridge.

Don’t wanna cook? Order out.

Don’t know what to eat? Say you’re “starving” then end up snacking.

The food you bought in the fridge goes off. Then you’ve gotta throw it away.

A superficial problem like that causes a person’s nutritional profile or daily diet to go down the tube, leading to a very real problem of long-term health issues.

Or my favourite – this new “food shortage” everyone’s raving about.

It’s called over-consumption and waste, dumbass.

Convenience. Convenience and laziness. Convenience and laziness seem to be ruining the basis of human self-reliance.

Lack of self-reliance or independence causes a sense of dissatisfaction.

Have dissatisfaction? You’re not happy.

Find your happy place.

Join a yoga class.

Happiness isn’t yoga, motherfucker.

Happiness isn’t finding your zen.

It’s not meditating.

Meditating is about reaching a neutral place.

It’s not the quinoa in your fucking bowl or your morning chamomile tea.

If you have all the creature comforts and more in life, and you’re still not happy, well…

You’re not happy because somewhere…you’re disgusted with yourself.

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Disgusted because somewhere you know you’re not really pulling your weight when it comes to your existence, which is affecting other people’s existences, through creating simple, silly, superficial problems, which turn into very real problems for other people.

Happiness is in your existence. It shouldn’t take yoga, or tea, or “woosah” or any of that other bull.

You’re not happy with yourself when you’re not being a decent human being.

You’re not happy with yourself when you know you’re creating superficial problems.

Sure you may know this – it may fester and eat away at the back of your subconscious, but you’ve grown quite comfortable with ignoring it by indulging in your little world of convenience, blowing the “news” in your head out of proportion thus justifying your actions and feelings.

I’m not saying convenience is bad – I’m simply saying indulging in too much of it can cause an absolute shit storm.

Get out of your bubble.

Realise you’re not the only one that exists in this world…

…and understand that your “superficial” problems, may very well be affecting other people’s lives on a very real, and very detrimental level, because you’re too senseless to realise it.

Think about it.

– Rego

Improve Your Lifestyle. Improve Yourself. This is Life. This is Rego’s Life.™

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