Musings: Quote Wednesdays…
“Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” – Martin Luther King Jr.
If you’re always looking for things to be “guaranteed,” there’s two things you’re already doing that are negative:
- Not believing in yourself and
- Setting yourself up for failure
You have to know, not fear, that nothing is guaranteed – yet on the flip side, understand that things can and will work if you allow them to and just enjoy taking the steps towards those goals. It’s not about making it work – but allowing it too. You don’t have to see the end result you just have to know it’s already there.
Making something work means it hasn’t happened yet.
Allowing something to work means it’s already happened and it’s just waiting for you to step out of the way and stop trying to make it happen.
I’ve been listening to Abraham Hicks lately during my morning routines and it’s given me the idea to touch on a subject that can sometimes come up in certain conversations. The audio that got me thinking about it I’ll be posting for this upcoming Spiritual Saturday’s post at my official site.
In lifestyle coaching – and even fitness consulting – sometimes I get clients that are so happy with their transformations they want to spread the word like wild fire. Which I’m perfectly happy with…but keep reading.
One client in particular (let’s call her Sue) lost a tremendous amount of weight through three factors:
- Reading my free eBook which I offer that teaches you about goal setting/changing your thinking
- Proper diet
For a couple weeks she tried encouraging her friends to try it out, to which they weren’t that interested. In fact, some of them stopped hanging around her. Keep in mind Sue did have some weight on her pre-transformation and so did some of her friends. When she realized they weren’t as into reaching the same goals she was, initially she was dejected.
She came to me and we sat down, had a talk. I had to explain to her that she can’t save the world, nor is it her job. Initially she was a bit confused – more or less on the “job” part.
“It’s not my job? I don’t think it is – but everyone should know about this, it can really help them! If I can do it they can too!” she said.
“Even though a person can desire something, not all the time they’re ready to actually take the steps in doing it.” I responded.
…and that’s the truth. There are millions of ideas, services, products, and ways out there people can be helped. Literally. MILLIONS. In fact I’m pretty confident there’s a solution to at least every problem out there on the face of this earth – but nothing, and I do mean nothing can be done if people aren’t willing to embrace, accept, and partake in the solution.
Think of it as a friend coming to you complaining about a problem they’re having. They talk, and talk, and talk about it. They talk about it until hours pass. Then finally, silence.
Now there’s two ways people usually handle this setting – they either talk about the problem with that friend until they’re both blue in the face, but may not necessarily find a solution – OR when their friend finishes talking, say “okay – now what can be done to fix/solve it?”
There are studies that have been done where they’ve found men and women communicate differently. Men have a tendency to want to get right down to it, assessing the problem then coming up with the answer with all other factors (like emotion) filtered out. Women talk about things to get their head clear, but at times don’t take action on the solution they’re thinking of.
Keep in mind these are studies – at times you can have that kind of guy who talks about his problems but then doesn’t really seek out an answer, then that kind of remarkable woman who cuts to the chase and gets right on finding a solution.
All in all, the focus point here is even if someone has a problem, if they’re not willing (or perhaps not even ready) for the solution, there is absolutely nothing you can do. You may coax and persuade. You may try all those psychology tips you minored in at college…but if a person isn’t ready for the solution, it’s not your job to force feed it to them.
The same way you can’t control another persons thoughts and vice versa, is the same way you can’t make them accept a solution.
It’s not your job. It’s not your responsibility. The only thing you can do is extend your hand – and see if they take it.
This is what I had to translate to Sue. No matter how much she wanted to help her other friends, if they weren’t ready for it, they just weren’t ready for it…and that’s okay. Every person has their own life, and free will to run that life they’re given any way they please.
Which is why in my audio introduction to what Rego’s Life is all about, I stress that exact point. I can provide the tools, the inspiration, and the motivation – but after that, it’s ALL YOU. The only thing I’m doing is giving you a bit of a push – and if you so choose to pick up momentum from that push, then congratulations.
But I’m not gonna “hard sell” anyone into improving their lifestyle. I’ve never believed in doing that. I will consistently provide the tools and motivation though – because it’s my passion. It’s what I love doing. I’ve found my calling, and in doing so, live a much happier life than I would doing something I don’t like or at a job I hate.
It’s not my job to save the world…it’s not my responsibility. Every single human being is their own responsibility.
The only thing I help do is start the engine and help you get that momentum going.
It’s all you…and you can do it. You’ll do it – when you’re ready.
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The weekend’s fast approaching and since I’ve been hitting the sauce less and less, it’s got me thinking more about food. Working out 5-6 days a week can make a person pretty hungry – and every once in a while, we all need a “cheat” meal. So this For The Weekenders I thought I’d change things up a bit and share some of my favorite cheat meals with you all. Enjoy.
In travelling, there’s one thing you learn….food is awesome….and abundant. After a while, the phrase “I don’t like [insert food/ingredient here]” becomes non-existent. Because you quickly realize that there are TONS of ways to make a meal. I’ll try almost any dish once.
One food in particular I fucking love is Korean. Tried it in a few parts of the world until I finally tried it in South Korea. Then I caved and got a cookbook (the only way I know how to cook..don’t judge). Word of advice – if you ever wind up in Seoul or Busan or anywhere in South Korea for that matter – definitely, definitely try their food. Don’t stick to Western places – you’re missing out on a lot.
Now that that’s out of the way, there is one place in particular I strongly suggest you check out for some decent “junk food.” Located both globally and in the states it’s one of those go to spots you’ve gotta try at least once. If you’re a fan of fried chicken (the most consumed item during the Superbowl among others), you’re in for a treat.
Because BonChon chicken delivers when it comes to a classic favorite. What makes BonChon stand out from the rest? The founder made sure the fried chicken coming out of his kitchen had a unique and original flavor. So what do you do when you roll up to the counter and aren’t sure what to order? Allow me to assist:
1st Grab some friends. Then start with some Tteokboki – it’s pretty much rice and fish cakes that’ve been stir fried to perfection then slathered in a spicy korean sauce – and just a touch of mozzarella to top it all off. You’re not going to want to share this, so make sure you order enough. An order of Stella Artois is also a must.
2nd This is where it gets serious. Ironically, I’ve never been one for meat on the bone – but with BonChon I’m willing to make an exception. You’ve got three choices – wings, drumsticks, and strips. Go for the strips, or pick your own favorite. Then pick your size – as in, how much you want. It’s the weekend. You’re surrounded by hungry friends – friends you work out with, and probably eat just as much as you do. Grab the XL – you’ll thank me later. Then select a sauce – you can’t forget the sauce. Soy Garlic if you like it tangy, Hot if you’re a masochist. If you’re not in the mood for BonChon’s chicken (you crazy bastard), try out the Bulgogi. Pretty much a hot plate with ribeye beef marinated to perfection alongside some steaming veggies. You’re welcome.
3rd Don’t forget the sides and salads. I’m serious – don’t forget the salad – you need your micro-nutrients. Try out their seaweed salad and of course, not Korean dish would be complete without kimchee or daikon (pickled radish) – the latter comes complimentary anyway, though.
From there it’s just sitting back and savoring the explosion of flavors you’ve just encountered. Your taste buds will thank you and BonChon will officially be your new go-to spot for mouth watering wings.
If you filled up on BonChon and then decided to hit the town to see what parties are going on, I can guarantee after drinks and hours of dancing you’re gonna work up an appetite again. If that’s not the case, the next place is still a great excuse to carry on conversation if you’ve met someone “interesting” and don’t want the night to end just yet.
Skip the fast food chains for late night breakfast – there’s no dignity or class in going there – instead become a part of The Breakfast Club at Stir It Up Midtown.
Even if wings and waffles aren’t your thing or you already had your fill of chicken for the weekend, they’ve still got other great selections like Spiced Shrimp with Coconut Grits, Callaloo & Saltfish, and more. Plain and simple, The Breakfast Club over at Stir It Up is unique because it’s only server Saturday and Sunday mornings during the wee hours – 2 AM to 5 AM.
Personally, I like the spiced shrimp with coconut grits – it’s warm, it’s filling, it sticks to your ribs. If you and your friends or that certain someone still wanna ride the buzz but get some food to absorb the alcohol, make sure you get there before 3 AM while they’re still serving alcohol. If you just wanna prevent having to nurse a hangover the next morning, it’s fresh squeeze breakfast beverages between 3-5. To top it all off, breakfast isn’t the only thing they serve…
Stir it Up also has an excellent regular menu that’s a mix between home style dishes with restaurant appeal. It’s a midtown Caribbean place that knows all about what the stomach wants, even when you yourself aren’t sure. Even with late night eating, you shouldn’t settle for less. Georgia never seizes to amaze me.
Now for the real cream of the crop. It’s Sunday. You’re all partied out, and going through that weekly “detox” phase. Water, vitamins, fruit smoothies (don’t judge), cardio, you know the drill…but at the same time, you’re getting the “itch” to finish off the whole thing with a bit of a bang. By yourself, with friends, or a date, it doesn’t matter. you just want something magnificent before you get back to eating clean the rest of the week, and goddammit you want steak.
Cue Hunter & Tails. Your one stop spot for steak and bourbon….and I’m not talking about your typical, what-the-fuck-is-in-this-thing steak either. I recommend Hunter & Tails because it’s the perfect cheat meal – for starters, they buy from farms that believe in real food – not hormone pumped or GMO infested steroid type foods.
So when you sit down and order their 21 Days Aged Grass Fed Steak, you can rest assured you’re getting steak – and not an unhealthy combo of chocolate bars and potato chips with a little bit of meat (seriously, the mass majority of beef is fed with that).
If you’re not a fan of red meat they’ve been clever enough to come up with a vegetarian alternative as well, but I do urge you to try the Bang Mussels as a starter at least. Might as well add a decent wine to the mix, too – Steltzner Claret should get the job done…but don’t leave without first trying their Old Fashioned – can’t go wrong there. Head home, wind down with some mellow music and toast to a weekend well played.
Life’s all about experiences – one of those experiences is food.
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Musings: Quote Wednesdays…
Excellent and inspirational quote from Martha Graham You’re not meant to just be “normal” or “ordinary.” You’re not meant to move with the crowd and do as they do. You’re not meant to follow the masses. You’re meant to tap into what makes you you, and run with it.
Waste your talents and you’ve wasted a very important part of your life. Explore and enhance your talents and you’ve tapped into part of your purpose. Don’t lose to what society says you should do – don’t lose yourself.
You’re unique. You’re original. There isn’t another one like you out there.
This week I wanted to share my thoughts on currency and money. A lot of people just see money as a way to pay for things like food, bills, accommodation, clothing, the list goes on and on. It’s also viewed as being able to pay for entertainment like drinking, movies, travel, etc…
It’s something that has different buying power in different countries, and at times can have more buying power depending on which country is the most financially stable.
While all of this is correct, I realize many people don’t take the time out to really analyze and understand/comprehend the word “currency.”
So what’s the dictionary version of “currency” and “money”?
1. A current medium of exchange in the form of coins and banknotes; coins and banknotes collectively.
“I counted the money before putting it in my wallet”
synonyms: cash, hard cash, ready money
1. A system of money in general use in a particular country.
“The dollar was a strong currency.”
synonyms: money, legal tender, cash, banknotes, bills, notes, coins, coinage, specie More
2. The fact or quality of being generally accepted or in use.
“The term gained currency during the second half of the 20th century.”
synonyms: prevalence, circulation, exposure
It’s pretty clear money and currency are synonymous – but let’s focus on the synonym group under “currency.” One word in particular sticks out – circulation.
Now the definition of circulation is pretty clear – the movement or passing of something in any given situation – keyword movement…and any type of movement involves movement of energy, no matter which way you look at it.
So breaking it all down, money is actually movement…and what have you learned about movement since reading this blog and the eBook I offer on my official site? Movement or “consistent progression” is critical to success.
Looking at it that way, you can realize money actually isn’t negative at all. In fact, centuries ago though bartering was trading product for product, it was still the same act as trading money for product – the only thing money did was make “bartering” more flexible and efficient.
Yet bartering and money still do the same thing – create movement and progress – the butcher needed meat to sell at the market, so he had a brother who was a blacksmith.
The blacksmith offered to create proper weapons for the hunter, in exchange for meat at his brother’s shop. The hunter agrees and the blacksmith makes the weapons as payment.
The hunter uses the weapons to hunt and collects his kill, gives it to the blacksmith who needed food, the blacksmith gives his brother who’s the butcher to take and make into cuts of meat where he takes a portion as payment for connecting the hunter with the butcher.
If we take it further, the butcher may have even had a connection to a miner that provided the blacksmith with the proper ores to the blacksmith to create the hunter’s tools – all under the condition the blacksmith also makes better tools for the miner to use.
That’s bartering – there was “movement” of products and services from one person to the next for another product and service…now throw money into the equation and it makes that whole process way more efficient. Everyone just pays everyone at a price that remains “inelastic,” thus speeding up the whole thing.
So really when you think about it, money’s whole purpose is to KEEP MOVING. The tighter you try and hold onto money, the faster it will find a way to go away. Think of it like holding sand in one fist – the tighter you squeeze, the more it slips through the cracks.
Currency is a “current.” Currents are “movements.” Money is exchanged hand to hand, bank account to bank account – money is movement. It’s not meant to stay in one place.
Not even the love of money is the root of all evil.
I love money, because it provides me with the opportunity to fuel my business ventures, my website, this blog, travel, learn new experiences, and share information with all my great and dedicated readers.
The idleness of money is the root of all evil. The lack of movement of it. The stagnation of it….Let something sit for too long and it’ll either collect dust, stop functioning, or decay. It’s like a car – you’ve gotta wash it, dry it, wax it. You’ve gotta turn that engine over every now and again. You’ve gotta take it out for a drive, and check up on the hoses, seals, etc.
The “lack” of money (movement) is the root of all evil.
Just. Keep. Moving.
Food for thought…
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First off…Happy New Year.
Secondly, I hope everyone had a great New Year’s Eve – I can certainly say I did. This For The Weekenders I thought I’d try something different from the usual pace…you know how it is – upscale lounge bars, jet set destinations, and the like…most of my readers know by now I’m not really into divey bars or anything. Though I have a small confession – a few places were able to capture my attention – call them the kind of hot spots that walk the line when it comes to aesthetic appeal and quality. So here’s the rundown on 3 places that are for that night when you just wanna go casual. Enjoy.
There’s a point in your natural adult life where going to the newest, most modern late night hot spots can get a bit, well, monotonous…you know, the same crowd, the same drinks, the same music. Sometimes it’s nice to have a change. Something where you know for a fact someone can’t really say “I was there last week too! Where were you?” Good news…Crane’s Downtown in Los Angeles serves up just that.
What’s the best part about this place? You wouldn’t know it exists because it’s underground. In a safe. That was once part of an old bank (obviously). The owners who bought the place decided to get creative and lo and behold – Crane’s Downtown was born. Though they don’t have a website, which they seriously should in my opinion this place is too good not to have a huge web presence (call me, I’m here to help.), don’t let that stop you from checking them out.
Why? It’s a mix between dive bar, saloon, and an upscale joint. While the three descriptions being fused together sounds odd, it’s actually a better combination than one would expect. It’s cozy. It’s vintage. It’s unique. The price is right. It’s friendly. It’s everything you could ask for. What are you waiting for – get your arse down to Crane’s Downtown this weekend. You’ll love it (and thank me later.)
Since we’re on the topic of saloons and all, might as well bring to light another great place that mixes a nice modern but gritty feel together…but this time with extreme sports.
I won’t lie – I wasn’t always a city slicker…for a good part of my youth I lived in the country – I’m talking about country so far set in the woods the nearest, “proper” grocery store was 10 miles out and your closest neighbor farther than shouting distance. I learned about cars, wild life, and the joys of target practice….though somehow I could never get into country music. That’s another story though – the bottom line is, there’s one thing in particular that always fascinated me – bull riding. Fortunately, there is a place that can satisfy my secret shame, where no one’s to judge.
It’s pretty straight forward – there’s a bar. There’s a grill. There’s fire pits. There’s bourbon. Then there’s a mechanical bull that’s just waiting to take down it’s next contender – equipped with an on board camera to capture the look on your face as it tries to throw you. Go ahead and send a thank you card to PBR Rock Bar. What does PBR stand for exactly? Professional Bull Riding. Yeah – these guys mean business.
Here’s what I recommend – make a reservation. You’ll need it with the crowd and all. You’ll also need some quality booze and food – the food’s for after the bull ride. Knock back a few glasses of bourbon on the rocks (try for American Honey), and make sure you’ve got proper riding attire – sturdy denim and proper boots are a must.
Hopefully you’ve trained for this so you can impress that date you brought along and possibly hustle a few of your city friends who never knew you had an interest (or skill) for such things…then get out there and grab your short moment of attention and fame. If you came out alright, my guess is that date of yours will have a cold one waiting for you…among other things.
Strut past your friends while you’re at it and collect that nice $300 or so pooled bet money and order yourself up a nice meal for the appetite you worked up while showing off your sheer awesomeness to the world – or at least most of Las Vegas…and hey, maybe if you’re daring enough after about 3 or 4 glasses of bourbon, you can even get into singing “Save a Horse Ride a Cowboy.”
I’ll leave that one up to you though…
Might as well not stop there and keep going – though your mother may have said never air your dirty laundry, I think you can make an exception – this is a different kind, the type that’s a whole lot more fun. Might as well finish off that weekend right with a little place back in L.A…
Following the rough and ready style weekend I think this is a great place to kick back and wind down…known for it’s early 20th century look and feel, it’s one of those places where you know you’re some place nice but don’t have to necessarily dress for the occasion – and really, what’s better than that?
This one changes the station on that radio you have there though – Dirty Laundry (that’s the name of the place, by the way) switches to rock and hip-hop for music while keeping things interesting with their various and peculiar but eye catching décor, you’ll feel like you’re in a film intended for the modern but brilliantly mixed up kind of crowd that gets you wanting to join in all the fun. Be prepared for hot people…you’ve gotta appreciate the plethora of hot people…and drinks. Gatsby himself would probably be seen slipping into a place like this once or twice in his day.
Dirty laundry never looked so clean.
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- Bull Riding Comes to Townsville (blogs.abc.net.au)
- Jerome Davis: The legend behind bull riding (globalnews.ca)
- The Smart Way To Let You Business Grow: Sell Mechanical Bull Rides (mega-adsens.blogspot.com)
Happy New Year…to Your Success.
..and sometimes, one of the hardest decisions is deciding which one to listen to. Charles Dickens had it right.
There are times when you have to toss logic and emotion in the air, and try reaching a middle ground. Sometimes there is no middle ground. No grey area. Learning from mistakes and gaining wisdom all lies in the way things are looked at.
Once you find your own path, the rules and beliefs you apply to your life can become unbreakable, and in turn you’ll seal the way to your own success.