Musings: Episode 2 Lifestyles, Desires, and Passions

So this Friday night I went out with friends for drinks and good music at Breathe, a lounge I like to frequent when I feel like a change from the Miami scene.

The night started out casually with food, drinks, and music…then mellowed out with hookah and deep conversation.

Most of it centered around lifestyles and desires, passions and bucket lists, all the good stuff everyone of us as humans secretly discuss with ourselves throughout the day, and get into fervent conversation with when the opportunity arises with friends and even newly met acquaintances.

This prompted me to blog, wanting to know other’s opinions and dreams or leisure goals. I figured I’d kick it off here and see if I could get some feedback from you guys, as it’s always good to hear from readers and bounce opinions and ideas off of people.

In being part of Generation Y, combined with being the type of person who’s always valued and enjoyed every millisecond of free time I’ve had since childhood, I’m constantly looking for new, fun, memorable experiences…

….and really, when you think about it, that’s what life is about.

Experiences.

That’s all we really ever pursue. From the girlfriend/boyfriend, to the surfing at Teahupoo, the epic snowboard trips to Hokkaido, and the unforgettable moments with friends that begin with, “Remember that one time when we,” and end with a dozen or so photos with proof showing you actually did make it to the top of the giant horse outside of P.F. Chang’s, posing as a Genghis Khan Warrior with your umbrella outstretched in one hand and the stolen pint glass in the other.

Though at a more innocent level in our childhood youth, the desire for experiences stays with us until we’re adults…the main thing being keeping our eye on the ball, making sure we don’t lose focus and getting caught up in the daily “adult responsibilities” we take on as we progress through life.
I’m not talking about something complex here, or maybe I am as well, but starting with responsibilities that boil down to the basics like rent or a mortgage, basic utilities and the monthly amount we pay to keep our absolutely mandatory access to technology up and running.

Sometimes, we do lose focus and get caught up in consumerism, through the media mostly and advertising, because let’s be honest, that one little secret skate gap in T.H.U.G. (for the less avid gamers, that’s short for Tony Hawk’s Underground) named “Control the Media, Control the Minds” is indeed true and it’s done everyday.

By increasing our consumer habits it’s my belief we lose out on investing in in-the-moment experiences, trading them off instead for mentally planted desires for materialistic instant gratification, an inception so to speak with enough influence…

…but then, we have the people who aren’t entirely distracted, or not distracted at all by mass media advertising for mere materialistic things, but instead hunt after experiences…and this is where it gets fun.

Woohoo!

With enough experiences, you reach a point where less is more, meaning you desire less materialistic things, i.e. the big house, the 17 car garage filled with various collector’s versions of makes such as Lamborghini, Ferrari, or a million dollar Bugatti, or the 9 hole golf course in your back yard. Maybe you do still desire that, it’s up to you, but the point I’m trying to make is this:

If you had to choose between a $410,000 Lambo Aventador which costs anywhere from $60 for a pint of oil in maintenance alone –

Tempting?

or $41,000 to travel around the world, exploring each country and every city you could think of for 2 weeks to a month each – with plenty of spending money to spare – which would you pick? How many experiences do you think you could recall with either one, from memory, a year from now…and still smile about…bringing up the same feelings as if you were doing it all over again?

The choice is up to you, but you get the general idea.

If I had to list of some things I would like to experience again and new things to try out, most of what would roll off my tongue right now would involve epic stories to tell after.

Visiting Brazil, skipping the hotels and luxury resorts, befriending locals and leaving with them embracing you as if you were born there.

A weekend in Key West with a rented luxury car from Lou Lav Vie – hit the town and make nights that are told about 5 years later.

GTR?

or R8? Decisions, decisions…

A month in Thailand checking out street vendor food, club nights in Hatyai, encounters with an overly-friendly-and-slightly-grabby elephant and skipping across to Malaysia for amazing prices on unique liquor.

A full week rental of an 82′ Sunseeker Predator Yacht for an intimate and exclusive party.

Or even better, a weekend of the oh so sultry 28′ Fearless Porsche powerboat, styled by Porsche, only 22 made in the world and powered by a 550 horsepower V10 taken from a Dodge Viper

Just leave the keys on the dash, cap’n.

Who wouldn’t want a weekend with that puppy?

Nights in South Korea trying out your horribly pronounced Hangul but at least making the effort and meeting locals that become great friends for years to come.

Helicopter rides over the city at night making for fucking amazing photographic moments.

Ahh, London.

The thing about all these examples is you don’t need to own a single materialistic thing, yet the experience stays with you forever.

Soon you begin to realize that less really is more, and simplistic living doesn’t mean a shack and an umbrella for shelter, but that maybe a 10 bedroom house isn’t really where it’s at, and that 3 couches 4 flat screens and 2 pool tables in the den is a little excessive…Then soon you start discovering the philosophy of “cluttered house cluttered mind; empty house empty mind” rings more true than the stuff up in the attic.

We come into this world with nothing materialistic, bare naked and untainted, and we leave this world being unable to take any physical thing with us – only memories.

This – this is why experiences in the end really prevail.
Memories are what make us, and the only way to gain memories are through experiences.

And you know what…? It’s a beautiful thing. It’s so simplistic – and at times if not careful…so easy to lose focus of.

But if we hold focus…and we hold true to our real desires…our real passions…and what really pulls at the very core of our being – the same feeling you get that’s the equivalent of when you’re with your lover, and you’re wrapped up in such a moment that you literally feel pulled, like a deep, gentle, gravitational pull to one another….

right in your core…painless, but full of desire and a sense of fulfillment…it’s then that we can really experience life for what it’s meant to be. It’s then that we can feel life for what it’s really meant to be…

…and that….that’s the greatest feeling of all.

Stay awesome.

– Rego

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Musings: Episode 1 – Job Hunting and the Unemployment Epidemic

I just finished watching Transformers: Dark of The Moon.
Mostly at the beginning of the film it starts out with the main character, Sam Witwicky, freshly out of college and job hunting for what’s implied 3 months or so. He’s living with his girlfriend, frustrated and feeling low because she has a job and he doesn’t, and as the man in the relationship believes he should be doing better.

There’s a line in this film that really stood out. Right after he goes from interview to interview, he winds up at a company, and finally retorts something back to the interviewer, who’s denying him the job he applied for and trying to steer him towards a menial, low paying mail room job: “Mister, I saved your life twice. I can’t tell you how, or when, or why, but I have done shit that matters and I’d just kinda like a job where I matter again.”

Such is the epidemic Generation Y is facing today.

A buddy of mine was at my place, and I hear a loud “BANG” against the wall, after she calls up HR to the county she lives in earlier on this week. I walk into the adjacent room and see her sitting there. Frustrated, she starts venting:

“Well that went well…”

“What did?” I ask slightly concerned by the tone in her voice – and the fact that a large smack on the side of the wall just happened.

“HR. I called HR and…”

“and…?” I say pressing her to speak further, walking closer to her realizing she’s now almost in tears.

“and I thought I would call and ask some simple questions right? You know, because HR gives their number to people so they can help right? But no…I call, and I explain my situation, and the woman on the phone was just so…ugh. The audacity of her!”

Suddenly she starts crying more. Worried, I sit down next to her pulling her into a half hug. By sitting down I realize she’s thrown the notepad I lent her full clean into the wall in front of us, explaining the loud noise heard earlier.

“Oh no….tell me – what happened? What did she say?” I look at her trying to get eye contact.

She explains the situation to me and apparently it’s been going a little like this – a month and a half ago, this girl was laid off of her job. Come to find out a week later, she discovers she wasn’t laid off, but fired and replaced with another current employee. The reason? Retaliation by her supervisor, because one day, she decided to stand up for herself and bring it up to him that she didn’t appreciate him mentally and psychologically abusing her.

Now I’ve met the guy, once or twice, when I’ve had business to tend to at the location. Initially, he seems like a nice guy, but when you pay attention to the way he switches up characteristics depending on the situation, I understand how him exuding that type of treatment is highly probable.

Back to the story, a month and a half ago, my friend here was fired – because she stood up for herself. Since then, she’s been applying for and following up on job applications like crazy.
She’s not at all unintelligent, and has at least 6 plus years of college work and street smarts under her belt. Basically – the girl can learn, and learn quickly…and she’s not lacking in the looks department. She’s frustrated because she is on her own, with no safety net, meaning nobody to really help her if times get very rough – an example losing her job.

One of the places she had been applying to, the county, i.e. civil servant jobs, she had applied to over 15 times.

Let me repeat that again – 15 times.

She only made it to one interview – a position which merely required a high school diploma – and 2 weeks later was sent a rejection letter, stating she did not meet the necessary requirements.

Honestly, after I read the position details – in my opinion, they could’ve interviewed monkeys, the job was so simple.

Every time she applied, they were all positions she was qualified, and often overqualified for. So, being the initiative kind of person she is, she decided to ring them up one day, asking for the person(s) in charge who sort through the applications.

She (understandably) finds out there are multiple people who sort through the applications, but would just like to know if there is a supervisor over those people who monitor them.

This, I find out, is where the conversation goes downhill.

“The secretary on the phone pulls up my information, and says I’ve applied for practically everything. I explain to her I’ve been applying for a while,” she says only to continue,

“Then, in a sort of snide voice”

Side note from me: (you’ve gotta check out Transformers Dark Side, it gives the perfect example of this)

“she says : ‘Well honey, you can’t just apply for everything, you’ve gotta be QUALIFIED at LEAST. Like right here – it says automotive technician – you have to know about CARS honey.” she finishes, just staring at the wall blankly.

“Uh-oh” I think to myself. “Oh, shit”. It hit me – this is what pissed her off. Why?

The thing about my friend is, she’s very well versed. Raised in a family of automotive enthusiasts being one major factor in her life. She has knowledge of many “guy related” industries, something you wouldn’t believe just by looking at her. Engage her in conversation though, and sometimes it can be like talking to an encyclopedia.

“and I told her,” she continues “I DO know about cars. It’s right THERE on my resume, if someone would just read it. Every position I’ve applied for I have knowledge of. Does anyone read over there???”

This is a problem she’s been dealing with for years – the age-old adage of “never judge a book by its cover.”

But people do.

And people can.

Because no one’s there to monitor them.

They automatically look at this girl, who I think is brilliant at being able to know so many things (often, more than me), and put her into a tiny little box of whatever pops into their head.

But she’s not the only one.

This happens everyday, every hour, to more and more Generation Y people. They graduate high school, are told if they go to college, bust their ass and study hard, they’ll get a “great, better paying job than the average high school graduate.”

But what are we finding?

No such thing.

I myself went to college and find that the best jobs I’ve gotten were better paying and less of a bullshit process than the ones that “required” a Bachelor’s Degree.

“Can’t find a job after graduation?” They ask,

“Oh, well you know, it’s the economy and all,” the media states, providing an excuse. Even Bloomberg chipped in their two cents regarding the issue we’re facing today.

Well, while gas prices continue to rise and hold steady to the same prices we were paying back in 2008 after the crash, prices for oil per barrel stay roughly the same.

How do you explain that shit?

I’m not going on a rant here. I just see a pattern going on.

My friend’s going through it.

I’ve been through it.

People I’ve met in cafes, bars, lounges etc… have all at some point vented about it.

They say it’s the faltering economy. They blame it on the president (and don’t get me wrong here, I’m not one to show favoritism to any political figure. Not anti-republican. Not anti-democratic. I AM however, anti-bullshit.), they say it’s the war, it’s the global chain reaction of other countries, they blame it on China and pollution, China and “cut throat prices,” this and that, this and that, that and this….but quite honestly, where’s the part where the media talks about a little self-responsibility?

I’m not talking about lecturing anyone, saying they should try harder. Many of these job hunters and people in such dispositions do, and I’m sure numerous have busted their ass daily in their previous endeavors.

My theory on the whole thing?

Though I love, and I do mean LOVE technology (the year I lived in Tokyo was paradise – a city that never sleeps) frankly I think it’s made bits of the human race who’ve been exposed to it lazy, and unimaginative.

More specifically the top half of the what I call the  “business equator,” to pinpoint the countries in the west.

Think about it. We all have what most would consider a comfortable lifestyle.

A good friend of mine who was often a study buddy back in university days would always have this discussion with me. Not in a resentful manner at all, but just for the purpose of analyzing and questioning.
The guy was from Shanghai, and agreed with other British students surrounding me that having a car while being 19 at the time was considered being “rich” or “well off,” and that living in America, most automatically thought I was spoiled and unappreciative.

I couldn’t take offense to the guy, as he had a point. Not a point in that I was undeserving, no…but the attitude attached to it that is sometimes seen and exuded by others.

I was raised and have lived in multiple countries throughout my life, the USA being one of them and for a substantial amount of time. But it was my upbringing that didn’t make me conform to the stereotype of arrogance or justified privilege. I always learned to appreciate what I have, never taking it for granted. That’s how I was raised, amongst all the technological advantages and opportunities.

So back to my point, if the mass majority takes these privileges for granted, and technology has enabled most of our work to be automated for us nowadays, right down to the processing and picking of an application or resume, this is the core of the epidemic we face today. No one’s looking out for their fellow-man. Slowly, things are being left to the technology of our world, the “computers,”  to make the decisions, because it’s easier.
It’s easier to set up algorithms and create systems that are point based, making a yes or no decision on whether or not someone’s hired because they were “1 point away from the total points needed,” and because of this the computer putting them into the “reject pile.”

But humans aren’t comprised of binary – and humanity is losing its human touch. Technology was originally intended to make our work easier, which it did at some point – but every point has its peak.
A good example of this was in Tron: Legacy, when Kevin Flynn, the creator of the game Tron was battling it out with CLU (pronounced ‘Clue’), an A.I. version of himself who in the beginning aided Kevin in building a new system he was working on, key aspects which cured human sickness and world poverty:

CLU cries out to Kevin: “I took the system to its maximum potential. I created the perfect system!”

Kevin Flynn: “The thing about perfection is that it’s unknowable. It’s impossible, but it’s also right in front of us, all the time. You wouldn’t know that because I didn’t, when I created you… I’m sorry, CLU… I’m sorry.”

It’s my belief we’ve reached a point where the majority of man believes they’ve perfected an automated system, leaving everything to the programs they’ve created and letting imagination sit in the corner to dust over.
But that’s the thing about perfection – it’s impossible to pinpoint exactly what it is…and sometimes, by trying to perfect something, it ruins it. Like an artist who messes with the ink sometimes in a piece of work, play with it too much makes it worse than before.

The standard job market has been put on autopilot, from the application process right down to the selection for interview process…hell, even the interview process itself. So for those who still believe in taking initiative, they’re knocked back by the people who control this system or the “gatekeepers” to the people who control the system…because these people rely on the system to tell them what’s right – forgetting completely about common sense and basic human judgment calls.

This is the epidemic we’re facing today.
Not the economy suffering.
Not there not being a teachable or knowledgable work force.

We are dealing with an older, post 40s generation, a younger, pre 30s generation, and technology has met in the middle.

There are greater minds today than there were 50 years ago, people are learning faster, doing more, gender roles and classifications are being dissolved, and people are creating different, hybrid viewpoints.
While some from both the younger and older generation lack ambition and meet it with resistance, many are embracing this shift.

We can’t escape it. It’s not meant to be rejected. There is no problem with the generation of today – but a resistance in mental shift, amongst the human population, and a gap in thinking.

R. Buckminster Fuller said it himself, “We are not going to be able to operate our Spaceship Earth successfully nor for much longer unless we see it as a whole spaceship and our fate as common. It has to be everybody or nobody.”

Technology is great, but it’s been left to its own devices.

This is the pain my friend was feeling when she called HR.

This is the pain Sam Witwicky felt when after everything he’d done, learning about the autobots and different worlds that existed, felt when he said to the interviewer, and his girlfriend Carly, “I just want to matter.”

“I just want to matter.” I’ve heard it many times before.

We’ve gotta bring back that human touch. It’s happening, but it has to happen faster. I believe both can coexist.

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